Watching OBEM...

(18 Posts)
Ilovenannyplum Sat 23-May-15 21:24:44

.... And torn between a) being desperately broody for a second or b) very happy that I don't have to deal with childbirth again

I think I'm leaning more towards a!

Roseybee10 Sat 23-May-15 21:42:22

I can't watch it any more. It makes me too sad that I'll never give birth again.

Ilovenannyplum Sat 23-May-15 21:49:40

I point blank refused to watch it whilst pregnant. Used to scare me. But love it now.
That feeling when they plonked DS on me for the first time, all warm and wriggly with a pointy head was the best moment of my whole life, I'd give anything to relive that.

It's not helping that one of our friends have just announced their pregnancy, I'm so very very happy for them but a bit jealous all at the same time.

I'll go and stare at my gorgeous little one in his cot, that'll make me feel better

alteredbeast Sun 24-May-15 14:27:04

I'm with Roseybee. I have three gorgeous kids and would have had a fourth but I had difficult births ( no chance now as dh has been sterilised).

It would make me too sad to watch it now.

Lonz Sun 24-May-15 22:16:33

I haven't watched this for over 3 years, since having my son. Wasn't the best time, so I just tried to throw everything about it and to do with it to the back of my mind. Only now I have had the courage to go over it all again, and process what happened and why...I now realise it wasn't the birth. So I tried to forget it all this time when I didn't need to.

I always watched it while pregnant, anything to do with babies and pregnancy. But afterwards, it all became a trigger for me. I was told 'you'll be fine, worrying over nothing'... but it wasn't the smoothest or how I wanted it to go.

Now I think it would be a big deal for me to actually be able to watch it again. But then after feeling angry about it, I now think that it would upset me for another reason- I wont give birth again. I'd love to but I know I wouldn't be able to put my trust into anyone's hands ever again, which upsets me.

Ilovenannyplum Sun 24-May-15 22:58:56

Hope you're ok Lonz thanks

Lonz Sun 24-May-15 23:13:04

Thank you. I just focus on the fact I have my son, appreciate him more than anything. smile

Ilovenannyplum Mon 25-May-15 06:09:30

That how I feel. My amazing little one that gets to have all of my love and attention he'll love that when he's 14 I'm sure

MiaowTheCat Tue 26-May-15 11:38:47

I don't watch it anymore - I couldn't for a good couple of years after a horrific birth experience... now I can just about watch it - but I just have absolutely no wish to. I hate the way the discussion around it feeds into feelings of "failure" over childbirth with all the "oh she did so well" and "oooh that one in the red is really annoying me now silly mare" and it just brings such clarity to how craply I was treated compared to how the staff behave on-screen that I'd be a right bitter cantankerous cow if I watched it regularly.

Lonz Tue 26-May-15 23:52:30

I'd wanna watch it to see how much my emotions have changed about it. It is a nice programme. But I know that my mum doesn't even watch it and she seems to have no problems with it. There's no need to watch it, but if I find my feelings towards it are now different to before, more pleasant, I'd be content with myself.

But programmes like that do make you broody I guess; your uterus is crying out for another baby due to hormones, ha!

Ilovenannyplum Wed 27-May-15 09:34:23

I guess the makers of the programme don't think about how it makes women that are unable to have children, or unable to have more children or have had traumatic births feel.
Ultimately I can watch it (now I've been lucky enough to go through it myself, before noooo way was I watching that, denial was my friend) but I can completely understand why some people find it too upsetting and I think if my situation had turned out differently, I probably wouldn't want to watch it either

mangoespadrille Wed 27-May-15 14:21:27

I loved it when TTC even though it really upset me (took 3 years/ 2 miscarriages to finally have DD). Too scared to watch during pregnancy, now I just find it boring in a "been there, done that" kind of way. I was the same with wedding programmes after we married and property programmes after we bought our house.

Writerwannabe83 Wed 27-May-15 14:57:41

It makes me feel sad that I will never experience it again.

I always end up in tears when a baby is born, tears of joy for the parents and the little miracle, but also tears for myself sad

Ilovenannyplum Wed 27-May-15 16:14:23

@writer
This has made me want to give you a hug thanks
I cry at it too

Writerwannabe83 Wed 27-May-15 17:56:18

My DH doesn't want a second sad

Ilovenannyplum Wed 27-May-15 20:41:10

My DH would have another but due to a medical issue he has, it means it's impossible sad
So I'll just be happy with my one little miracle that sounds so cheesy!

Writerwannabe83 Wed 27-May-15 22:18:08

How old is yours? Mine is 13 months and absolutely amazing.

I have some health issues which is why DH is against having another. He says we should just count our blessings that we have a healthy baby and no harm came to me either. It's a valid point I suppose.

My DS came via ELCS so I find watching the 'plonking down' of warm wriggly babies really hard to watch because it looks so magical and it's a moment I will never get to experience sad That's a major contributory factor in my crying during the programme.

Ilovenannyplum Wed 27-May-15 23:20:17

Mine is 9 & 1/2 months, I think he's at my favourite age so far, he's not a little cute blob anymore, getting a real personality and likes and dislikes and I'm cherishing every moment.

Oh bless you, I have to say a c section was what I dreaded most so I'm glad that I didn't have to have one. I did ruin the 'plonking' moment by quite vocally asking why he had such a pointy head and asking my mum to find a hat! I can't even blame the drugs as I didn't have any. So it wasn't an OBEM fairy tale moment ��

I'm glad you and baby were ok. I think the world has a plan for everybody. Some people are meant to have multiple kids and some are just meant to have the one.

I'm sure like me!, you ended up with a perfect & gorgeous little one though

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