Please tell me I will get my sanity back!!!

(5 Posts)
SweetieXPie Wed 13-May-15 18:29:09

I have three DCs who I love with all my heart, a workaholic husband, who I help run a small business with and I am absolutely drained.
My 20 month old screams from the moment he wakes up until the moment he goes to sleep and can be extremely hard work, my other two are generally good, save for the odd tantrum here and there. My husband and I are under a lot of financial strain at the moment (all money being ploughed into the business) he works horrendously long hours, six-seven days a week so I am dealing with the children, housework, school stuff and the admin side of the business pretty much on my own and tbh just feel like I am drowning in stress!!
I feel like all I do is scream and shout all day and check the clock to get the kids in bed, I feel awful once they are in bed as I feel like I am going to wake up one day and they will be grown up and think of me as that terrible mother who did nothing but shout confused
I am not really sure what advice I am looking for, maybe just hand holding thanks

ROARmeow Wed 13-May-15 20:35:51

Hand-holding from me.

You are far from alone. DH is at work, I've just got kids to bed, now surfing net listening to next door neighbour shouting at her kids trying to get them ready for bed.

Do you have any time for yourself away from the kids? Even just to go for a walk/exercise/to clear your head?

Do you have support from family & friends?

Honestly until my youngest was out of nappies and talking I felt like I was drowning all the time. Now kids are bit older and I'm working part-time I feel so much better and more confident in myself as a woman >cliché I know!<

SweetieXPie Wed 13-May-15 20:43:56

Thank you so much ROAR, unfortunately my family are not local, although thy and I make an effort to meet up as often as we can (DH family mostly abroad)
It is so hard isn't it, that stage when they jut scream all the time confused
I do work 1 day in the office while older two are at school and nursery and Ds is with childminder, tbh that wipes me out as I have to drop (and pick up) the kids from three different places then 30 minute drive each way.

I know it will get easier as they get older and the business should start to come together, I think a lot of how I am feeling is because I feel
Like I can't escape it, we talk about work constantly, never have time together, he rarely gets time with the kids and when he does get to see them I am so frazzled I am just shouting and moaning all of the time....
I suppose we all have to deal with life throws at us and I should be grateful for a strong marriage with three healthy children.
Thank you for replying, I do feel perked up just to feel like I am not alone x

ROARmeow Wed 13-May-15 21:44:35

You're defo not alone. I am my happiest when the kids are safely tucked up in bed and the house is peaceful.

It's natural that you're frazzled, esp about the ££ and business. I have no idea what it's like to run a business, so can't advise on that.

If you're anywhere near Co. Antrim, NI I'll be your friend. I'm always up for a brew

SweetieXPie Thu 14-May-15 18:25:49

Thank you so much ROAR that is so sweet of you, you would have to get a plane to me though gringringrin
Been at work today, although a bit tired, feel a little more human today.
Thank you for the hand holding.
Hope you have a good week x

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