I'm fat and I don't know how to deal with it with DDs (4&6). They already talk about people being fat or not and in fact it seems to be a bit of a swear-word at school.
They have said things to me like 'you have a fat tummy', compared me to other people's mums, and DD1 this morning said 'I don't want to hurt your feelings but you are quite F A T (spelt it out)'.
Of course my feelings ARE hurt by this kind of comment but I don't want to make the topic forbidden from conversation. Obviously fat is not a great thing to be. I don't want THEM to be fat either, but nor do I want to say 'if you eat too much chocolate you will be fat like me' because I don't want to slag myself off to them. I have said things like 'there are worse things to be than fat, other things are important too like being kind' etc and sometimes I have even said 'yes it's my lovely fat tummy' and patted it because I don't want them to think I hate myself (because that's bad for THEIR self-esteem, too). Does anybody have any advice?
As an afterthought, please don't make the advice be 'lose weight' because although I am trying to, I feel like I want to teach them not to be judgmental (also if it were just as easy as 'lose weight' I would've by now).
Thanks in advance.
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HELP. How to broach the subject of 'fat'.
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plantsitter · 12/05/2015 14:18
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