Wise Mumsnetters, I need your advice.
Husband and I are having a debate about our DS who is coming up to 10.
One of us thinks he should be a bit more independent and responsible and the other does not.
More independence/responsibility in this case would mean the following...
- a few basic chores - taking plates and cups out after meals and snacks, laying the table for dinner, putting washing in machine etc
- not having all his homework corrected before he hands it in. Having some guidance with homework rather than often having the answers or ideas etc given to him by a parent.
- saying hello and goodbye to relatives and guests when we/they visit.
- turning lights off when leaving his room.
- consequences for losing things such as helping to cover cost of replacement or chores
- washing and showering without prompting.
- ordering his own food in a cafe when he is with us.
Which one of us is being unreasonable? And please say if he should/could be doing some but not all of the above...
Thank you!