I took my 4mo baby swimming this morning and she loved it but afterwards got vv upset in the changing room. She was screaming her little head off so I decided to feed her to see if that would calm her down. It didn't unfortunately and she didn't take the feed. While this was all happening a very rude lady approached and said she had lots of breastfeeding experience and I wasn't doing it properly as baby should;t be crying. She said I must be covering her nose with my breast and that is why she is crying and that I should be careful so as not to risk preventing her breathing!!! Now, I know that this can be an issue with breastfeeding as I was advised about it in the hospital early days. However, I really don;t think this is what was wrong, I think she was just really upset at getting cold in the changing room and was crying because of that. I made the mistake of thinking a feed would calm her when I should have calmed her before the feed. The issue is I did not appreciate this woman's intervention. I think it was the way she spoke to me more than anything. I was quite upset and I told her her advice was not appreciated and that it was her at risk of stopping breathing, not the baby!!! Oops, did I overreact and should I have just appreciated her advice, albeit I didn't agree? Or was I right to get irate about this? Anyone else had any experience of getting unwanted parenting advice in public??
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Did I overreact at unwanted breastfeeding advice??
Latium123 · 23/01/2015 16:11
I get some, but I never manage a response, I generally blush and just stare with doe eyes at the person. I can't even say anything, it's like a stunned silence, they just walk off confused then haha
I am kicking myself for not trying to calm her down more before feeding her but never mind.
Please don't! Sometimes a feed is exactly what's needed, sometimes it's not. You don't know unless you try 
it's always worth a try!
Horrible busy body deserved that and more. They're like vultures, some of them. It's the sound of a crying baby that sets them off, I'm sure! They appear from no-where, spouting shit advice and expect mums to be grateful?! Pah. You were nicer than me. I get sweary 
Plus, I think we have had every breastfeeding problem going - lazy baby, bad latch, reynaud's syndrome, mastitis, you name it.
Wooh! If you've made it through all of that then you have absolutely no reason to doubt yourself! By four months, you are an experienced feeder. Several hours per day, every day, for four months? That's a lot of experience.
Even with my fourth, well meaning nutters strangers, always seemed to feel the need to butt in. By then, I'd perfected The Look - a steely glare, which usually has them doing an about turn before they even open their mouth to judge advise
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