We've had a rubbish few months. We've had to live apart from dh for 4.5 months due to building work (was only supposed to be a few weeks) in which time I've also had ds2, now 11 weeks.
Ds1 behaviour has really changed in that time, beforehand he was actually really well behaved (as 3 year olds go) hardly ever had a tantrum etc etc. he began to change when I was heavily pregnant, as I was no longer able to play with him in the same way or do the sorts of things we normally did, plus of course we were away from his dad. Then ds2 came along, and he is struggling with that, a lot, so his behaviour took another turn for the worse, more tantrums, trying to hurt his brother etc. then he had a a couple of weeks at the start of the month where he had cough, cold, ear infection then hand foot and mouth. Since then I think he's just been utterly run down, physically and emotionally. He falls apart at the slightest thing, tantrums over everything. Doesn't listen, won't do as he's told. Screams and cries all the time. He just looks so unhappy.
im shattered with a baby who wakes every couple of hours through the night. Exhausted after not having DH around for so long (we moved back a week ago - houses still not finished - more stress) I am finding it so hard to cope with ds and I absolutely hate myself for how I am with him. I also generally appear to be shit at having two children. At least one of them a,ways seems to be in tears I get so impatient and frustrated, and just end up yelling at him, I am in tears thinking about it, I feel like I treat him so badly and have such a part to play in his unhappiness. Some days are better than others and I mange to stay calm (his behaviour isn't much better but at least I don't feel so bad about myself)
I really need to get a grip on this as I feel like I'm ruining our previously great relationship. It's totally understandable why he's acting as he is, he's had so many changes in his life recently, plus illness. I just desperately need to find the patience to help him through this with it resorting to shouting and telling him off all the time.
Any advice?
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Please please help me find some patience for my 3 year old
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Tory79 · 22/12/2014 22:38
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