Anyone been routine led with dc1 and just thought "ahh fuck it" with dc2?

[ThinkIveBeenHacked]

Its 8.30pm and week old ds is asleep on my chest. With DD, she had been bathed, fed, swaddled and put down in her basket in the lounge by now and we would be pretty hands off with her til about 10/11pm.

But he is so bloody snuggly and its my last one and its just utter bliss.

Tell me I need a routine.

[SpottyTeacakes]

Me! It worked really well. By the time ds was 14 weeks he had brought his bedtime to 6:30. Enjoy your snuggles

[justaweeone]

No enjoy
Both of mine had no routine
It wasn't intentional , but I always remember my mum saying about not enjoying things a we were 'out of our routine'
They are now 11 and 16 and fab kids.
Enjoy your wee one x

[GozerTheGozerian]

Me too! DS2 is 6 days old and I just can't put him down - am totally going with flow this time and trying to enjoy every last moment rather than stressing about whether he can self settle or why won't he sleep in his Moses basket.... Not sure what I was thinking first time round !

[MoHintawnFein]

Absolutely. I was a slave to Gina Forde with DC1. It worked for us. Her routine was set in stone and even as a teenager she still sticks to a routine by herself - loves her sleep and food at practically the same times as her toddler routine. That is a lot to do with her personality I'm sure but she will take herself off to bed at 8:30 in order that she can "have a good nights sleep", gets herself up at 7 and has a decent breakfast 7 days a week. DC2 on the other hand, being a second had to slot in. Plus he had to work around PFB's schedule as she was 7 by then. He still takes ages to go to sleep, faffs about with eating and would never suggest bedtime even after midnight! For all that, it worked for us that he didn't have a routine, it would have been difficult with a busy 7 year old but he's fine for all that. It might have been easier if we had focused on routine in terms of him going to bed nowadays but I am only human and couldn't manage it!! Go with the flow and enjoy him - mine was my last too and I relished every baby moment.

[Recovering]

Enjoy the snuggles :)

[ThinkIveBeenHacked]

DD was a Gina baby too - and very much still is at 3. She took to it and so did we.

Today we all went out for a nice walk and I just shoved a carton of milk, a nappy and a pack of wipes in my coat pocket how easy! I was like a pack horse with DD.

[IHeartLockhart]

Congratulations!!
I would say just enjoy it for now, you can always start to get a bit more of a routine in a couple of months.

I was obsessed with sticking to Gina Ford with DS1.
With DS2 I've just been going with the flow. I try to let him have a long lunch time nap and no naps after 5 but apart from that he does what he wants. He still wakes a couple of times in the night but so did ds1 so I'm not putting it down to routine.

I've enjoyed ds2 so much more than I did ds1. I've been able to relax and just enjoy it

[ItsGotBellsOn]

Yep. Followed routines for sleeping/feeding with DC1. Did some sort of ridiculously protracted bedtime routine of low lights, lullabies, bath etc etc. Weaned him by the book with freshly prepared veg mush. Was generally a high octane helicopter PFB mum.

With DC2, I had a toddler to look after and just couldnt be arsed with all the routines and fuss. It worked out well. I fed on demand, let her sleep when she wanted, took a lazy BLW approach to weaning and was just generally a hundred times more chilled.

Could be their different temperaments, could be my different approach - but DC2 is and has always been a much 'easier', more chilled put child.

[dorasee]

Oh my goodness... No routine is the norm at this stage. Just enjoy and get through these early days. Routine will come soon enough.

[Meerka]

yeah, was quite strict with routine with first son. Much more laid back with second. Worry a lot less too.

I do notice he has settled into a sort of flexible rhythm of his own and he doesn't like it if he doesn't get lots of peace and quiet in the day, he gets a bit fussy and whiney which isn't like him usually. He's normally very placid (do hope he doesn't become a horrible teen to make up for it!)