DS (6) was eating dinner about 15 minutes ago. He asked if he could have some raisins for pudding, I said no, there aren't any left. So he went into the kitchen and looked, and found a small amount in the packet. He said "Oh yay, there are some left, look! I'm going to eat these!" I said "No, don't please, I'm saving those, there aren't many anyway. There are probably about 12 raisins in the packet, I was going to make a tiny cake thing with them.
I asked him to put them back about 3 times and he refused, I got up to take them off him, he put his hand in the packet. I ended up scraping them out of his hand at which point he dropped three and ate one, gloating "Haha, I ate one!" I said "Fine then you can have nothing for pudding." Thinking that was the end of it. DH then turned off the TV and took DS to his room, saying he could wait there until it was time for his shower (now. We're an hour ahead of UK.)
Now DH has gone out, but he said that he is sick of DS not listening to me and that he suggested that I should tell him after his shower that he loses his bedtime playing/TV/story (he's allowed to choose) because of this. I feel a bit conflicted, because surely he's already been punished - first with no pudding, also being sent to his room (DH said that was a calm down rather than a punishment), but OTOH he's still running around being cheeky to me saying things like "Oh I've put the water on but now I can't remember what to do!" and generally in that wind-up type mood, although he is actually IN the shower, which I was expecting to have a battle over.
WWYD? I feel mean punishing him in a way he isn't expecting for something that is really relatively little, I mean a raisin is stupid, but DH reckons it's about the fact that he went directly against what I asked and I should be coming down harder on that.
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BertieBotts · 25/10/2014 17:39
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