Toddler regression - how to deal with it.

[kiki0202]

DS has always been very independent and wanted to do everything for himself until last month when he's suddenly realised how much easier life is when mummy pushes him in the buggy instead of walking and as for lifting a fork to feed himself why have a dog and bark yourself.

I know it's quite normal about his age (2.7) to get lazy now things are not exciting anymore so not worried about it but DP and I (and our mums) have very different ideas on how to deal with it.

I have been saying to DS ok go in the buggy but once your in your in no getting out once you find something to do, and with not feeding himself I have been sitting with him encouraging and helping him but DP is of the opinion he should be forced to walk and feed himself. DP's method results in it taking us forever to get anywhere (I don't drive) while DS crys and pulls at me to be carried and meals becoming a battle. DP works FT and I am at home I think he doesn't understand that I don't want to spend my whole deal fighting DS he see's it as me being soft but I see it as a phase he needs to be helped through and he will grow out of it.

Each of our mums are backing us up we were both brough up very differently my mum was quite attachment parenty and DP's was very strict and unyeilding so it's fueling the fire with my mum said. How would you deal with it??