My ds is 20 months old and starting to tantrum. We were quite baby led when he was smaller, not leaving him to cry and trying to meet his needs as quickly as possible.
The problem is that now his "needs" quite often are a need to run around the shop or a need to not leave the park.
Today he had a tantrum in a shop because he wanted to walk/play, I acknowledged that he wanted to walk/play and explained that he couldn't because it was dangerous, I put him in the trolley and he screamed for about 15 minutes. He shouts mummy mummy mummy and holds his arms up to me but if I pick him up he just wiggles and kicks to get down so I just held his hand and stroked his head and said we'll be finished soon and tried to distract him (unsuccessfully) as soon as the shopping was finished he was happy and all was forgotten.
Is this the right thing to do? I felt bad that he was so upset but abandoning the shopping and leaving seemed counterproductive as we would just have to go and do the entire shop again (probably with an inevitable tantrum) later today or tomorrow.
I'm having another baby in a few weeks so there are going to be more occasions where he can't have his preference met, do they get bored of screaming and start to be compliant and happy or is it best just not to leave the house?
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Toddler tantrums, what should you do?
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ikeaismylocal · 01/09/2014 10:30
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