Hi
My DS(8) seems to struggle socially in 'law of the playground' stuff. He is not really streetwise at all.
He has been playing out with a neighbours DS who he gets on with and enjoys playing with. But when others come along it all seems to end up with my DS being teased, including the 'friend' who will join in laughing or offer up his own tease soundbite. He came home quite upset last night, this has happend a few times now since the start of the holidays.
When telling me all different things I felt there were some things that were silly teasing and he should just shrug off. There were other things that I think were more personal about my DS and unkind. Two things were said by friend in front of others. There was also something DS told me, he had said, that I dont think helped him at all. He doens't seem to be able to stick up for himself - like banter/batt things back to other kids, it jsut sounds wrong (if that makes sense). I think this is because it does not come natural to him and is not in his nature.
He is sensitive, intelligent doing well at school. He has friendships with others where this does not happen. Earlier in the day for example we had been to the park with another child and they played great.
DS has said he does not want to play with them anymore (but he has said this before then changed his mind after a few days) DH doesn't want him to playing with this group of estate kids and neither do I.
BUT - is there something I should be teaching him, to enable him to get on better or just accept that these kids are not his type? It's a shame as we've only just started to allow him to play out.
It's all awkward as we are reasonably good friends with parents of the friend, socialise etc and we were supposed to be this weekend. DS does not want to go, DH and I don't feel it is fair to force him and are happy not to. We have been wondering if we share enough 'values' with this family...
Has anyone experienced this?
Any advice of what to tell DS?
Don't want to keep him in wrapped in cotton wool (as DH said this)
Should I let him go if he changes his mind?
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Teasing: What do you ^honestly^ advise your DC when they come home upset
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adviceforme · 07/08/2014 11:07
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