ds started nursery crying every morning sorry probably done to death

[poptot]

Ds has just started full time nursery, he's nearly 3 but quite a shy little boy around adults. The nursery is lovely only about 12 children and lots of lovely older staff. However ds starts saying as soon as we've dropped dd off at school that he doesn't want to go to nursery today he wants to stay at home with mummy and clings to me then screams when I do drop him off. Apparently he stops crying after about 4 minutes and then does enjoy himself with intermittent tears if he's not quite sure of something. It's breaking my heart but I'm taking some encouragemnet from the fact that the ladies say he chatters to them all the time has told them all about our dog our house and his sister and my work. Bearing in mind sometimes he won't even look at or talk to my friends I do think this is a good sign and he talks about nursery in agood way when he comes home tells me allt he things he's done and that he's had a nice time so how can I make the mornings easier for him and do you think he will settle eventually or is he really not happy.

[colditz]

he isn't unhappy at all by the sound of it, just finds seperating from you difficult, as a lot of children that age do. Try to leave as relaxed and quickly as possible, ie, quick kiss bye bye, going shopping now, you are staying here to pklay with all t6hese toys, see you after you have had a drink and snack here/story/whatever happens before hometime.

[3littlefrogs]

This is absolutely normal - don't worry. The staff sound lovely and i am sure they would tell you if they thought there was a problem, or he wasn't ready. At my son's nursery there was a sort of viewing point where worried parents could observe their child unseen and it was quite a revelation. It is really important to get them used to being with other people, without you, in a safe, happy environment. If he is still upset in a couple of weeks you can review / discuss again. I always used to tell mine that I was going shopping to get something nice for his lunch, then he could have a mental picture of where I was and what I was doing, and he could understand that I would be back for him at lunchtime. I am sure he will be fine.

[gigwig]

I am sure he will be fine. It's the separation - sometimes they find it hard to move from one part of their life - ie home and you - to a new one - the nursery and other children. He's chattering to the teachers and even tells you what he has done that means he is ok there and settled. (Wish my DS would tell me what he did!!)