Daughter cut head in Nursery

(60 Posts)
MetMum Mon 09-Dec-13 17:54:35

I am furious my 3yr old little girl has just come home from school with a golf ball size bump on her head with is also cut she tripped over a ball in nursery they didn't ring me to inform me my neighbour (who's Daughter is in the same room we take turns taking or collecting the girls) signed the incident report sheet they didn't give her a copy my Daughter says she fell over the ball them was brought in to have it cleaned then watched a DVD my neighbour was told it just happened moments before she was collected advice for when I go the Nursery tomorrow please

BunnyMama Mon 09-Dec-13 22:56:31

Golf ball bumps are not the same as a small bump that doesn't swell or leave a mark of any sort. I think the OP was right to be annoyed at not being called asap (even if it coincided with the neighbour collecting the child, the OP should have been informed personally IMO).

Hulababy Mon 09-Dec-13 21:37:46

I am sorry to hear that your DD has taken a nasty turn following her bump.

I don't think most (any?) people are being rude and ignorant. They just are stating that it does sound like the nursery followed correct procedures.

Head bumps are incredibly common at nursery/school, especially with little children. And head bumps at this age are often really big and nasty looking even when they are not serious or unduely worrying. Likewise a cut on the head will bleed - a lot!

Concussion does not always present immediately - that is why a parent is informed at pick up either verbally or via a head bump note. So that parents can watch the child and act accordingly should concussion begin to present later on.

And the nursery did say that it had only just occured. Presumably within the final half hour or so - which is why they probably didn't call you, as youd be there soon after anyway (or a nominated carer.) I very much doubt a phone call to you would have changed the course of events ths evening.

You have had a scare. It is nasty having your little one hurt, even accidently. Ad even more unpleasant when they end up at hospital. I assume you are there with her still now - I hope you both get some sleep and rest tonight and that she will be home early tomorrow.

Pooka Mon 09-Dec-13 21:27:31

At our school in reception, if they've banged their head thy cone out wearing a sticker on their jumper. The school will phone if is in middle of day. If nearer pick up, the teacher will grab the parent (the stickers are backup).

MarthasHarbour Mon 09-Dec-13 21:25:14

The Nursery did everything right. DS used to come home from nursery with an egg on his head occasionally. I signed an accident form, done. At his school in YR they dont even have an accident form (hasnt happened to me but did happen to my friends DS - the teacher didnt even mention it)

I am sorry that things have moved on but from your original OP i would say that you have no reason to be angry. The fact that your DD has had a seizure is more to do with DD's physical reaction to falling over a ball. Are they doing any kind of neurological tests? as this is a worrying reaction to what seems to be a regular toddler style fall.

Hope she is ok

Pooka Mon 09-Dec-13 21:22:00

A&E told me there are masses of blood vessels under the skin and that when these are knocked they can cause what looks like hideous swelling.

What's important is to closely observe the child for a couple of hours after the injury to ensure that they don't suffer any of a range of symptoms that could indicate internal injury (and then keep observing at intervals for about 24 hours after, i.e. was once told by NHSdirect to check on one of my other children every 2-4 hours in the night).

Clearly in the OP's case, her dd has shown other symptoms and she's in the right place.

That doesn't mean though that the nursery failed in their duty of care/injury protocols. The responsible adult was (according to them) told shortly after the incident. Telephoning the OP would not necessarily have resulted in a speedier trip to A&E.

tracypenisbeaker Mon 09-Dec-13 21:18:27

Tbh, I wish I hadn't commented now. I understand that my experiences have shaped my view on this sort of thing, so perhaps I'm not the most rational then, especially seeing as the majority of posters disagree with me.

I can see why the poster is upset, even if it is misplaced anger... Her little girl is hurt. I hope she feels better soon, and when she is tell her that a Christmas Robin was naughty and left its egg on her head wink

ICameOnTheJitney Mon 09-Dec-13 21:18:26

OP you're upset that she was hurt that's all. she's ok though and they do fall and things when you're not around. It's part of growing up into a bigger kid.

lilyaldrin Mon 09-Dec-13 21:17:21

Big bumps really aren't that unusual when children smack their heads.

Pooka Mon 09-Dec-13 21:11:58

DS2 had eggs on his head that looked like horns after falling down our stairs. I took him to A&E because I couldn't believe he hadn't been terribly injured internally (it happened on my watch, too). They kept an eye on him for about 45 mins and then we went home with a HI leaflet.

tracypenisbeaker Mon 09-Dec-13 21:11:56

Doesntleftover I mentioned that because I had no visible sign of being attacked, yet felt the after affects. This child had a 'golf ball' sized bump on her head.

DoesntLeftoverTurkeySoupDragOn Mon 09-Dec-13 21:11:46

But that isn't the same scenario at all, Tracy confused

audreyandrustygriswold Mon 09-Dec-13 21:10:55

At DDs nursery they always call the parent to inform you there has been a head injury, just so you know. Obviously if they thought they needed to be taken home or to A & E they would tell you that too. I can understand why they do, so you don't get a shock when you turn up and they have a big bump on their head.

So, I can get why you were annoyed they didn't tell you. I would want to know as I may decide to take DD home.

tracypenisbeaker Mon 09-Dec-13 21:10:31

I guess I see things differently as my brother was hospitalised for ages and because that nurse had said 'Stop being dramatic there's nothing wrong with him' (she was actually struck off for that but that is a whole other story)

DoesntLeftoverTurkeySoupDragOn Mon 09-Dec-13 21:09:43

I've been attacked in the street, with no visible bump but was left with vomitting and dizziness 20 mins later. Had to get seen to at hospital

Yes, you were seen at hospital because you showed signs of concussion. Not sure how that is relevant.

Pooka Mon 09-Dec-13 21:09:42

But the op posted at just before 6pm asking what to say at nursery tomorrow.

If the accident happened just before pick up, and is a school nursery (which was suggested in the OP), then the neighbour could have as designated picker-upper called the OP, taken the dd straight to A&E or taken her home. If its a school nursery, then the OP was itself a couple of hours after pick-up. If not, and a nursery with later hours, then the fact that the nursery didn't call the OP is only a problem if the injury happened long before the OP's daughter was released to the neighbour.

The OP seems to think that this is the case on the basis of her dd saying she watched a dvd after the injury. As previous posters have suggested, this might not have been a delay, but have been for 15mins for example between injury and pick up.

Of course the OP can query this with the nursery if she is concerned. But on the face of what the nursery have reported i.e. injury happened not long before they would have expected the OP or responsible adult to collect, in noting the incident and getting neighbour to sign accident book the nursery seems to have followed correct procedure.

I certainly know how horrible it is when dcs are injured. Have had some heart in mouth moments when they've been in my care and also when at school/preschool. It's horrid. But there doesn't necessarily have to be a fault or someone to blame. Accidents happen and of course the OP can clarify with the nursery the timings if she feels they are in dispute.

Floggingmolly Mon 09-Dec-13 21:08:54

God, op, your initial post just had your dd coming home with the wound still "oozing blood". Now you're pissed off at posters not being divinely inspired with the information that she's had a seizure and is in hospital for observation.
Two very different scenarios; which obviously elicit very different replies...

tracypenisbeaker Mon 09-Dec-13 21:07:35

Meh, sorry if I come across as over-cautious or batty, but the fact the bump was described like a 'golf ball' just reminded me of my brother- it just doesn't sound like a bog-standard injury to me (and it obviously wasn't- if the girl was having a seizure). A bump near that size would have been caused by quite an impact. If the injury happened literally just before pick-up time, I could understand them not phoning. But if it happened longer than that, I don't get why the OP wasn't phoned.

Moreisnnogedag Mon 09-Dec-13 21:05:14

You are being dramatic. At the time she had no symptoms and was already home.

DS smacked his head at his CM's and began vomiting 20 mins later. I would have been nightly pissed off if they hadn't called me then. But I hardly expect to be called for everything.

And by the way, a head injury does not need to be seen in A&E all the time. Pretty much everyone gets a HI advice booklet and told to come back if there's a prob.

DoesntLeftoverTurkeySoupDragOn Mon 09-Dec-13 21:04:29

tracypenisbeaker where did the OP post any concern about her DDs health? She was being criticised for being angry at the nursery, which is all she has posted about.

lilyaldrin Mon 09-Dec-13 21:03:07

Nurseries can't call parents for every bump on the head if there are no other symptoms - obviously if a child loses consciousness, is dizzy or vomits then they would. Just before pick-up it is perfectly normal for a nursery to hand the child over to the person collecting and verbally tell them about the accident.

Gileswithachainsaw Mon 09-Dec-13 21:03:05

I don't even get told with my dds school. She comes home with a sticker and a check list.

Sirzy Mon 09-Dec-13 21:00:27

Tracy - if nurserys called parents every time a child bumped their heads they would never be off the phone.

And even if they did phone just before home time what exactlywould it change? Nobody would get there any sooner, the symptoms at the time would be exactly the same - ie showing no signs for concern at that point. They informed the person who picked the child up and recorded it in nursery - they did everything right.

tracypenisbeaker Mon 09-Dec-13 20:57:37

Doesntleftoverturkey people were condemning her, saying stuff like 'stop making a drama out of an accident.'

The OP should have been called - she needed to be given the choice of whether to take her DD to A and E right away. Doesn't matter if it is 30 mins before the end of the session or 4 hours. It is not really their call on whether she was fine or not- they are not health professionals- this isn't a scraped knee ffs, this was a head injury. Of course I'm going to get called dramatic but I've been attacked in the street, with no visible bump but was left with vomitting and dizziness 20 mins later. Had to get seen to at hospital.

Gileswithachainsaw Mon 09-Dec-13 20:53:03

Why would we be eating our words?

Even if she had gone straight to a&e they may or may not have glued the wound but they would hae discharged her with a check list of what to look out for.

Symptoms aren't always present straight away and all you can do is watch.

I hope the dd recovers quick but I don't see what nursery did wrong.

Dwinhofficoffi Mon 09-Dec-13 20:49:47

I hope you DD is ok and I know its hard when your little one has an accident but I don't see what the nursery did wrong.
I don't think anybody has been rude to you OP.

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