I posted a week or two ago - I found out I had a very low ovarian reserve and wasn't sure I was ready for a 2nd as DS is only 9 months.
Ready or not, I very badly want a 2nd child and don't want to miss my chance. I know there are no guarantees I'd even get pregnant but I want to at least try.
However DP is adamant he doesn't want another. He rolls out practical/financial reasons (that I shoot down as they are daft) but then just says its an emotion and he can't explain it. He's a serial commitment-phobe in just about every aspect of his life, he only just bought his first property at the age of 35 as having a mortgage was too much of a tie...
I don't know what to do. He says he hates pressure and that I need to back off. He said he'd give me an answer in January.
I'd be devastated to not have a 2nd child. I come from a big family and so does DP, and he loves his family.
I've laid out the biological facts and he understands all that.
I do not know what to do or say or try to change his mind.
And if he wont change his mind, what do I do? The sorrow would be overwhelming.
Why does he get to decide my future and that of DS? It doesn't seem fair.
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octanegirl · 05/11/2013 21:53
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