Suitable discipline for 20 month olds?

[Overrun]

I am looking for advice on how to manage my dt's behaviour. It's not that they are out of control, but it's more that there are two of them, and they just ignore my attempts to stop them doing things.
I remember doing the naughty step with ds1 at around this age, but maybe because their language is not that developed I wonder if it would help.

Any ideas?

[Twiglett]

I think that yes it will help

isolate them a minute for each year

understanding is there if not language skills

[Overrun]

thanks for that, okay I will give it a go, I reckon as you say that the understanding is there, and I have to start sometimes. Mind you, it's hard to be dealing with one, and then the other one starts up while I am by the stairs!

[Twiglett]

I can imagine .. but have no experience of twins I'm afraid

good luck

[IamBlossom]

I am doing time out/naughty step/back in cot/downstairs loo for two minutes with my 21 month old. I do this if he repeats something I have given him a warning about, usually hitting me, or throwing his toys. (Down at his eye level, "if you do that again you are going in there for two minutes") It gives me a chance to count to ten and calm down, as I would feel terrible if I slapped his hand or something, and he is slowly getting the message I think. I also hate shouting at him, and I am finding it has no effect anyway.

[Overrun]

I think part of the problem they have really worn me down, and it takes energy to start these things, I have started to try, but as I said, it is so hard when the other one then starts up, or comes over and starts laughing and distracting the one I am trying to discipline.
At the moment our lounge where we spend most time is yet again a problem area. Every time we think we have finally got it properly babyproof so that I can lock them in with the gate while I take the oldest to the loo or do some cooking, they find a way round it.
If I was to take one upstairs, I tread to think what I would find on my return because they have worked out how to get the glass front off the telly and are obsessed with trying to post things into the video. Why is our video machine the only one which doesn't fit those video protector things.
RANT RANT, god I am exhausted atm

[poppiesinaline]

I think this is a really hard age. I cant imagine what it must be like with twins.

[tassis]

We def did "the naughty step" at this age

wasn't sure if ds understood until one day he threw a brick having been warned that if he did it again he'd have to sit on the step and then he took himself off to the step, sat down and started wailing!!

[Overrun]

I will keep trying, as you both say they do understand they are just so good at undermining my confidence.
I didn't really struggle with discipline with my ds1, well obviously there were always issues, but friends would say, you're really strong in that area, I guess it's just power in numbers, and I need to crack it otherwise I can going to get more and more stressed

[IamBlossom]

respect to the mums of twins, I don't think I could do it. It must be very difficult, keep your chin up, it has got to get easier.

xx