Sorry this is a bit long!
I'm trying to work out a good routine to suit my DD2 who is almost 10 weeks old but still trying to work things out. Initially I just tried the Gina Ford routines from birth until about 7 weeks as this is what I used for DD1 and it seemed to work well (I think she might have been a textbook baby!). However, that was over 5 years ago so I might have forgotten a lot of stuff and I was also dealing with severe post natal depression and got married when DD1 was 10 weeks old (crazy I know!!) so my memory is a bit hazy.
Anyway, having tried pretty hard with Gina's routines for 7 weeks, I just couldn't get DD2 to fit them so I turned to the Baby Whisperer and found loads of useful information and other suggestions. So I'm now kind of doing the E.A.S.Y routine but mixing in a bit of the Gina routine too. I'm basically writing everything down each day so I can try to figure out some patterns, which do seem to be emerging.
I guess I'm a bit of a control freak (in fact I know I am!) and I'm very eager to get her sleeping through or at least as well as possible at night because I have bipolar disorder and sleep is massive trigger for me (or rather lack of).
I'd appreciate your thoughts on a few issues:
- swaddling. I stopped swaddling at about 7 weeks (Gina says to half swaddle and stop swaddling at about 8ish weeks onwards) but then Tracey recommends swaddling till at least 4 months (in her solving all your problems book). I'm a bit worried about overheating etc. but I've now gone back to swaddling which DD2 seems to be fine with. How long did you swaddle for?
- late evening feed: Gina recommends waking baby up to take a 10/10.30pm feed to ensure he gets a full feed but Tracey says to do a dream feed at 11pm and not wake baby up at all! I've started to try the dream feed and must say it seems to work and she takes the same if not more milk! This is the only feed where I use a bottle of expressed or formula milk and the rest of the time I breastfeed. Obviously these are opposite approaches for doing the late feed. DD2 still wakes between 2.30 and 4.30 in the night and I'm struggling to get her to take more than about 4oz at the late feed. Any thoughts on this feed?
- bedtime routine: I was previously doing '1 breast feed, bath and then other breast feed' as per Gina's routine but found that she was starting to associate the breast with sleep and because she can be difficult to settle in the evening, I kept going in to let her have a bit more (bad idea!). So I've now started to do feed, bath and then bed so that there's a split between the feed and bed and to stop that association. What do you do? I've been using the 'shhh pat' technique and dummy to settle her which seems to work with a bit of persistence.
- daytime sleep: Gina reckons DD2 should be having about 3.5 hrs sleep in the day at this age but she needs at least 4.5 hrs if not more, which seems to fit more with the E.A.S.Y approach...
And generally did you find that your child just came up with their own routine that suited them in the end? There are lots of similar bits of advice but some of it is quite contradictory.
Thanks for your thoughts!!