We are thinking of TTC DC2. Am excited at the thought of twice the joy that I currently have with DD, but also slightly worried about loving the second one differently from DD. For example, I had oodles of time with DD as a newborn, and sang to her, cuddled her, bf her...life revolved around her. Given I am the least tactile and physically affectionate person in the world, this was remarkable and I was totally bowled over by my own instinctive behaviour.
I really feel all the above has contributed to the intensity of my feelings for DD, and am now feeling worried that I won't have the same for DC2. How will I have time to gaze into its eyes like I did with DD? How can I spend that time allowing it to sleep on me after a bf in those early weeks and months? How can DC2 be anything other than the child that fits around DD at least to a certain extent? I know DD will need to share me too, and frankly that will probably be in her best interests I think, but I'm feeling so pre-guilty that DC2 just won't get the same from me that DD did.
I guess this is normal being the second one (which is what I am to my parents), but am struggling a bit accepting the "fairness" of this. Am I being ridiculous??
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Could I love a second child the way I love my PFB?
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Thesunalwayshinesontv · 20/06/2013 21:39
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