Anyone wish they'd stopped at 2

(10 Posts)
Cj1981 Sun 21-Apr-13 21:14:16

I know the 'shall I go for a third' has been done to death but I'm just wondering about the experiences of those who did, and whether at any point they wish they'd stopped at 2. Not suggesting anyone regrets DC3 but would life have been much easier with just the 2? Particularly interested to hear from those with small age gaps between DC2 and DC3. I always thought I wanted 3 but am just so worried about making the wrong decision. Surely everyone has that feeling at some point...right?

OhWhatNoooow Sun 21-Apr-13 22:22:54

Of course life would have been easier with 2! I have 5, its bloody hard work, but I cannot imagine life without each one of them. Sometimes when we are out and its a struggle my husband and I think about how easy it would be with just 2 kids to look out for, one each. But then I think how boring and quiet it would be! Thats only coz I'm used to all the noise though. Truth is, I found it easiest to go from 2 to 3, there is not that much difference. Now, 3 to 4 on the other hand......

DaffodilsandSnow Sun 21-Apr-13 22:25:30

I'm having this exact same dilemma CJ and am going round & round in circles trying to decide - crystal ball would be handy right now!

ohforfoxsake Sun 21-Apr-13 22:25:38

My DC3 is the most amazing, wonderful, perfect little girl. She is an absolute angel.

The other 3 are buggers and if I knew what I did differently with DC3 I'd bottle it and sell it - but no, never regret her for a second. She is the most perfect child. smile

Cj1981 Sun 21-Apr-13 22:45:09

On the one hand I just feel like my family would be complete, DS and DD would have another sibling and I get a cuddly baby again. On the other hand I only have 2 hands, we're not outnumbered, 2 adults, 2 children is what everything seems to be geared for and our current family dynamics work beautifully. Yep, that crystal ball would definitely be helpful!

ohforfoxsake Sun 21-Apr-13 22:53:10

Y'see with three no one is ever on their own - when one child is with you, the other two have each other. It works.

I remember being very surprised having had 3 under 3 that I had time in the day on my own - DC 1&2 would play, DC3 would nap and I'd get some down time.

Of course they lulled me into a false sense of security so I went on and had DC4. Now, no one sleeps, they all back chat, dont do their homework or clean the hamster out. Nagging x 4. Never thought that far ahead, did I? wink

num3onway Mon 22-Apr-13 02:18:39

I had dc 3 on april 2nd, and so far so good!

Ds1+2 are 5 and almost 4, 16 months between them. As a previous pater said they occupy each other a lot and play well together although of course do fall out too. Dd sleeps a lot of the day at the min so I get to keep on top of things. This will do doubt change when she is older though!

Pegglebot Mon 22-Apr-13 10:17:04

I'm having the same problem too. My ds are 15 months apart so I worry that a third will get left out.Also we live in a 3 bed house so the boys would have to share for the forseeable future. Then I worry that I won't have enough time to share with them all. I spend sooo much time thinking about it and still never come to a conclusion. Wish I too had a crystal ball!

ohforfoxsake Mon 22-Apr-13 10:38:48

I had 14 months between my first two, and 22 months between DC2 and DC3. I suppose I was already at saturation point so things couldnt get any more full on.

I don't remember having three under three being anything more than sheer hard work. In fact, I distinctly remember feeling outnumbered so decided just not to try so hard - it was like a load was lifted.

No regrets. smile

Tournesol Mon 22-Apr-13 13:39:27

No! I have a 5 yo, 3yo and 1yo and it is so brill! For me two just felt too neat and I wanted the crazy...and I got it!

Even when DC3 turned out to be a rubbish sleeper and I was on my knees with sleep deprivation I never regretted my decision for a second.

Having three is hard work (but then so is having just one kid!) but it is so much fun and I love looking at my little team all hanging out together.

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