Yes, I intervened and told the other girl that the ball pool was for everyone to play in, which it was. The other girl wasn't trying to tell us the rules or anything, she was being mean. She told me she was a naughty girl, in fact! I do agree that at 3 the correct response is for dd to get an adult to help. But I'm also so aware that she does need to learn to deal with conflicts on her own, and was wondering how to approach this.
My dd1 is the same age and I tell her to go and ask them to share. If she comes back again and says they won't share I go over and say the ballpoint is for everyone so lets share please.... Difficult isn't it!
At a party today a girl told 3 year old dd she wasn't allowed into the ball pool. Dd cried and came to find me. I thought this was a sensible response on her part. Dh felt she should be able to resolve this sort of problem herself, but he couldn't decide whether she should be taught to argue, assertively disagree, push other child out the way etc. what do you teach your dcs to do in this sort of situation? Don't think I want her pushing other children, but I suspect dh thinks this is the best solution. Any suggestions?