I find conversations with my DD really boring

(10 Posts)
dimsum123 Sun 21-Apr-13 12:18:19

She is 9. She has a low attention span, is not good at listening and constantly constantly interrupts and cuts me short whilst I'm talking, even if she has asked me a question which I am then answering.

Conversations with her consist of her talking and me listening. She will tell me every minute detail of what she's going to do, what she has done etc etc and I find I just cannot listen to her for more than 30 seconds without feeling the need to get away.

She has always been a talker but she has very poor conversational skills. I try and reinforce constantly that interrupting is rude but she just cannot seem to help herself.

I feel bad for not spending lots of time chatting with her, but as I said her chats involve me just being a listening post which I just cann

dimsum123 Sun 21-Apr-13 12:19:00

sorry, just cannot do, no matter how hard I try.

valiumredhead Mon 22-Apr-13 18:36:59

She sounds like any other 9 year old tbh a chatty know it all!

You sound very low, are you?

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Mon 22-Apr-13 18:54:17

Is she like this at school?

If she cuts you short, get up and walk away. Just up and go to another room, outdoors, start doing something else.

Tell her you want to hear what she has to say but when another person is talking it's rude to interrupt.

Then you can handle the topic of conversations. Explain that a monologue is one person battering the other person's ears. Show her that if she draws breath another person can add to the conversation. if people look bored, glaze over, yawn or walk away then she is losing her audience.

dimsum123 Tue 23-Apr-13 09:39:05

Hello, sorry for disappearing.

Perhaps I was a bit low or stressed when I posted. I do find my tolerance levels with DD's battering my ears (great phrase) depend on my mood. Some days it doesn't bother me so much, other days I just can't bear it and need to be left alone and given some/lots of head space.

I'm very much an introvert and she is an extreme extrovert so it is a real clash or incompatible personalities.

She's a lovely bubbly, happy girl. I can be quite moody and changeable especially if I'm stressed or worried about something or I'm tired.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Tue 23-Apr-13 18:17:43

Like valiumhead gently put it, perhaps you are low, DD's chatter is sometimes the straw that breaks the camel's back. Anything you want to offload about vent here or if you'd rather, name change and try a different section, take care.

dimsum123 Tue 23-Apr-13 22:26:47

Donkeys yes the chatter is the last straw sometimes.

I have been very stressed about some work we need done to the house, the cost of it all etc.

You are very kind, Thankyou for taking the time to post.

Springforward Tue 23-Apr-13 22:34:58

I sympathize I think, DS started talking and hasn't stopped since. I'm quite introverted and need peace every now and again. We have a few activities which keep DS occupied on his own for 30 mins at a time, and I deploy them judiciously. Have you got anything your DD might find absorbing enough to give you a chance of a little quiet when you really need it?

mamacoffee Thu 25-Apr-13 15:07:44

I agree with PPs who say you should find ways to cope, but as someone with two ppl in my life who could both talk for for England I would suggest that over time finding ways to teach her to stem her chattiness will do her a big favour in terms of her social development smile

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Thu 25-Apr-13 15:29:43

Maybe some calming music through headphones would help or just the headphones so you can look like you're concentrating with your eyes shut wink.

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