I find conversations with my DD really boring

(11 Posts)
dimsum123 Sun 21-Apr-13 12:18:18

She is 9. She has a low attention span, is not good at listening and constantly constantly interrupts and cuts me short whilst I'm talking, even if she has asked me a question which I am then answering.

Conversations with her consist of her talking and me listening. She will tell me every minute detail of what she's going to do, what she has done etc etc and I find I just cannot listen to her for more than 30 seconds without feeling the need to get away.

She has always been a talker but she has very poor conversational skills. I try and reinforce constantly that interrupting is rude but she just cannot seem to help herself.

I feel bad for not spending lots of time chatting with her, but as I said her chats involve me just being a listening post which I just cann

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Sun 21-Apr-13 16:14:12

How is she doing socially? At school with friends?

RandomMess Sun 21-Apr-13 16:15:44

That does sound really really hard work, you have my sympathy!

CPtart Sun 21-Apr-13 16:17:17

You are describing my DS 10, has a terrible attention span, gives running commentary on tv programmes. So irritating!!
Watching with interest.

LeoTheLateBloomer Sun 21-Apr-13 16:20:45

Have you tried a timer or a talking stick so she gets the idea of someone else having a turn?

ppeatfruit Mon 22-Apr-13 07:49:12

But if YOU are turning away from her after 30 secs then you sound like you BOTH need to listen better grin Maybe take it in turns to find a subject that is interesting to both of you and as Leo says use an egg timer or whatever to time the conversations after say one minute. You could make it into a game.

SquidgersMummy Mon 22-Apr-13 10:36:44

You are the best person to teach her - I think making it a game sounds great. Is there a good friend to invite for tea to also practice with too? I'd also speak to her class teacher to see if they are all the same - some schools do social skills groups.

rubyrubyruby Mon 22-Apr-13 10:42:30

Definitely use the talking stick technique.
You can use anything - but you only talk when you are holding it.
I used this with my 4 when they were younger or else everyone talked and interrupted and no-one listened.

Margetts Mon 22-Apr-13 10:44:59

Have you tried doing something like cooking and talking to her about what you are doing? Or role playing tea party after making the cakes and acting out the sort of conversation other people have?

ppeatfruit Mon 22-Apr-13 11:17:49

Yes a very good idea Margettsgrin

dimsum123 Tue 23-Apr-13 11:28:42

The talking stick sounds like a really good idea. Will definately try it.

She seems fine with friends. Is very sociable and seems quite popular at school.

I think it's partly incompatible personalities. I'm an introvert who needs loads of alone time and head space. She's an extrovert who just wants to talk all the time and just wants someone to listen to her rambling on. Sometimes I don't mind doing that, other times, if I'm stressed, worried or tired I just kind of want to withdraw into myself and be left alone, not be forced to listen to inane chat.

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