Bath time Hell! Help!

(32 Posts)
SingleMama Fri 19-Apr-13 20:22:11

Ok night time baths are hell for me. If anyone has any tips, please advise.
Hair washing first hurdle- usually crying & fuss from Youngest. Eldest messing when asked to get out and shouting at top of voice. Then when wrapped in towel- shouting and screaming 'I'm cold' when Im trying to get youngest dried... Youngest not letting me fully dry hair & running away. Then once they're dry they're delighted and Im a crumpled nervous heap!!!! :-(
Slightly better in morning as I have more energy but still leaves me drained!
Any tips much appreciated!!! :-)

SingleMama Sat 20-Apr-13 20:10:17

Thanks so much for all your posts. I ordered a towel dressing gown for my son online today :-)
Any ideas on when it might b poss for a little girl to dry her own hair and if I should get her her own little hairdryer already- all in the name of leaving them to it? ;-)

SingleMama Sat 20-Apr-13 14:41:58

For a *week that should read lol

SingleMama Sat 20-Apr-13 14:29:51

Really SarahandEmily?
If I don't wash my daughter's for a sweet it starts to smell musty like a dog's hair! Lol!

GreyWhites Sat 20-Apr-13 12:37:56

Ha I completely understand not wanting to do anything that challenging with a child at 5pm on a Friday. There's a time for everything!

sarahandemily Sat 20-Apr-13 08:35:21

Bath times very much like described by cruxible etc. All I have to add is that I haven't washed my dd's hair for about 3 months. It is a short bob and looks lovely and shines and doesn't smell or anything. It does regularly get wet as she loves going in the shower and bath

littleomar Sat 20-Apr-13 08:22:15

YY to sit on toilet seat drinking wine

SingleMama Sat 20-Apr-13 08:10:43

Ledkr- I like you too! Lol

Ipadtypo- yes this is what I do re: hair washing my son but my daughter (3) says no she doesn't want her hair washed and stands up crying so that I have to just hold her arm and tip the water over her head, reminding her to close her eyes.
I think you're all right. I need to have the attitude of Ledkr and step back, relax! ;-)

iPadTypo Sat 20-Apr-13 00:25:12

With the hair washing, get them to sit facing you cross legged. Then get them to hold the side of the bath while they tip their head. Back. This stops them feeling like they will fall backwards while you use a jug to rinse their hair. That's how I got mine used to it before they did it themselves. Also, give them a small dab of shampoo/conditioner on their palm to get them used to washing their hair.

Tigresswoods Fri 19-Apr-13 22:11:26

Ledkr- I like you grin

DoodleAlley Fri 19-Apr-13 22:06:44

We use goggles in the shower after swimming. It's not a great life lesson but I work on the basis that DS will stop needing then to shower before he leaves home!

Ledkr Fri 19-Apr-13 22:04:30

I bath every night but like this.
Infa care in bath. Plonk in baby with toys.
Drink coffee or wine while sat on the toilet seat singing songs and ooccasionally helping with bath toy workings.
If hair wash needed do at last minute whilst ignoring protests.
Get out wrap in big towel and plonk on front of the night garden while get her dressed. Bottle bed.
Easy

Oh and I work in a health club , that does children's swimming lessons , some of the children that go create the most tremendous fuss when the Mums are there making them wash their hair and stand in the shower , the children get on much better when the Mums ( or better still Dads ) just give them their shampoo and tell them to get on with it , and come out when they're dressed .
Step back a bit , and let them sort themselves out .

humblebumble Fri 19-Apr-13 22:01:09

My approach to bathtime is the same as cruxible and brownowlha. It is the only time I can put the washing away, etc. Our bath isn't very deep and both of them love the bath. The floor gets flooded most nights though ...

My two are 5 and 3. When I want them to get out I take the plug out and walk off and wait for the bath to drain otherwise it's a battle to get them out. Then I leave the towels out and let them dry themselves (or I help dry the youngest, he likes playing hide and seek).

Both of mine love showers as well the oldest will wash the youngest's hair. I basically have a similar approach except I turn the water off after a 5 min warning.

FunnysInLaJardin Fri 19-Apr-13 21:58:45

my two are like dogs at bath time. A nightmare. So we bath them 3 times a week max. They run about shrieking and get so over excited, they are 3 and 7

My two loved bath time , just used to create when they had their hair washed ( just ignore them and carry on )
They used to hate showers too and scream the place down I just ignored the screams and now they're teenagers and stay in there for hours .
Shakes head trying to work out which is worse , Teens ? Toddlers ? Infant school age ?

SingleMama Fri 19-Apr-13 21:52:17

Greywhites: Well that's not the only reason for not doing the swimming lessons. There were lots of them! But I am a big swimmer & will bring him & on his own & teach him myself every Friday morning this summer instead :-)
Those lessons- at 5pm on a Friday evening!- with my daughter in tow playing hide & seek in the lockers- were horrible!

SingleMama Fri 19-Apr-13 21:48:34

BrownOlahy: Hmm yes I can see the sense in that. Maybe I should do it more often for some extra peace. How long do they stay in the bath in your house? I think my two might need some more bath toys too to stop the inevitable splashing and flooding.

GreyWhites Fri 19-Apr-13 21:44:34

"Needless to say we don't do swimming lessons anymore! "

No! You just need to persevere. Our boy freaked out at the communal showers at first (doesn't have showers at home) but he got used to it soon enough. This also made i far easier to wash his hair at home as he is more used to having water running over his head.

SingleMama Fri 19-Apr-13 21:41:38

(So if any of you have any shower tips that would be so good too!) :-)

SingleMama Fri 19-Apr-13 21:38:32

iPadtypo that is funny re:benign neglect!
I am in awe of anyone who gets their child (mine is 6) to stand under a shower let alone wash their own hair!!!!!!
Swimming lessons were an eye opener let me tell you!
My son (and I have to point out that he's really capable and smart with most things!) stood under the communal shower squealing. Needless to say we don't do swimming lessons anymore! Will have to get him used to it at home first!

orangeandlemons Fri 19-Apr-13 21:32:28

But my dd gets an itchy bum unless she has a bath every other night. I would love to bath her twice a week, but alas we are ruled by her bottom in this house!

SingleMama Fri 19-Apr-13 21:32:12

Hooded towelling dressing gowns is ingenious! (my two have fleece ones.)
I also move them from bathroom to bedroom in their towels, which is prob not ideal. Should just get dried & pjs in bathroom.
At what age should they be able to dry themselves? Excess wet rubbed off hair etc? Honestly my eldest just screams when asked to dry himself it's infuriating!

Brownowlahi Fri 19-Apr-13 21:30:36

Cruxible, that sounds like bath time in our house. We have a 7, 4 and 2 year old and just put them in the tub, leave them for a bit until they ask to get out, wash faces, get them out, let them mess around in their rooms for a bit while they dry off, then get pjs on. Done. They go in the bath every day, only chance I get to sort out their rooms/put washing away etc. the younger 2 still fit in the hooded towels which make things easier too.

SingleMama Fri 19-Apr-13 21:28:17

Well I don't know how all these parents bath kids every night. I certainly don't and never have. Hair wash with bath twice a week (mainly because my girl has long hair.)
This week it has only been once as we had such a busy mid-week but needs to be done twice a week.
Thanks so much for those tips! Yes, warmer bathroom I have already planned. Wasn't really warm. I think my eldest is just a bit spoilt. His daddy insisted on drying and dressing him way past the age he needed it (for easiness sake of course.) They are 3 & 6 now.

SingleMama Fri 19-Apr-13 21:23:51

Oh wow thanks you are all amazing!

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