This is my first posting on here, but I want to mention something and see what others think.
I own a small childrenswear shop selling some quite exclusive brands. One of my most regular customers is actually my own affluent cousin, who I shall call "N". She has twins and, since birth, she has always dressed them identically. I know many parents do this, although I find it a bit irritating, but the problem in this case is that they are opposite sex twins. This means that half the time her daughter is dressed as a boy and the other half of the time her son is dressed as a girl. This was bizarre when they were babies, with them either in matching blue denims or in matching dresses. However, this is now getting weirder as they are six years old. Their hairstyles are identical (collar-length) and their faces are eerily similar - they could almost be identical twins.
This would bother me a bit with any children, but when these are blood relatives, it becomes disturbing. But what's worse is that, as I am selling N some of her clothes, I am beginning to feel that I am complicit in what she is doing. Today, I sold her two very boyish lumberjack shirts and navy cord trousers, but she was also looking for some summer dresses for her holiday in Tuscany this June, but mine aren't in yet. I was quite glad about that, to be honest. It's bad enough dressing a girl as a boy, but putting a boy in a dress just feels so wrong, especially now he's getting older.
Unfortunately, my mum has fallen out with her sister (my cousin's mum) and they're not on speaking terms, so I can't go down that route, and my aunt must know about how N is dressing her grandchildren. My mum says I shouldn't get involved and it's not worth falling out with her and creating another family rift.
Any thoughts or advice would be welcome.
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Bizarre Twins Issue
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Shazira · 17/04/2013 19:27
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