Newborns, Bfing, Toddlers and Tantrums

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SayCoolNowSayWhip Mon 01-Apr-13 11:36:40

A carry on from the Pregnant and Overdue - 37/38 weeks thread in Pregnancy.

For those of us who have finally met our bundles of joy!

Come here to share birth stories, newborn issues, feeding, tips on how to deal with toddler siblings, or just general gripes and chit chat.

DS was born on Saturday and just sleeps and eats. I have a 2.5 yo DD who is being a bit of a monkey (understandably) with the new addition.

DS looks like he has a posterior tongue tie which is making latching incredibly painful. Have sent DH out for nipple shields - anyone used these?

Whereisthesnow Thu 25-Apr-13 03:03:21

Oh dear ruby and twinkles hope you and your wee ones feel better soon.

My antibiotics are kicking in at last. Not before getting horrid ear pain. How can an infected boob lead to a sore ear?! Plus it's made night sweats return with a vengeance - woke up earlier and it was so bad I thought I'd wet myself!

Pontouf Thu 25-Apr-13 20:08:56

Hello all, I finally made it over here - was a bit of a latecomer to the Pregnancy thread and then went 11 days over with DD.

Birth was pretty hideous. Went from 0 - contractions 2 minutes apart within two hours. By the time I'd called the hospital and had a quick shower they were at 1 minute 30 and lasting 30 seconds. Arrived at hospital to discover I was 1cm! Oh God, the disappointment! Anyway they broke my waters and over the next 14 hours I managed to get to 8cm at which point I asked for an epidural because I was exhausted and in agony. Then I stopped progressing. Consultant said the baby was a bit stuck and said she was recommending a c-section, but not an urgent urgent one. Then she left the room and DH left to go and get chnged and suddenly everything went to shit. DD's heart rate was dropping to 60ish and then just not recovering so I was rushed to theatre very quickly.

The epidural was only working down one side at that point so they topped it up and hoped for the best. It wasn't great and I ended up having G&A in theatre during the op because I could feel a lot of what was going on. I then went into shock a little bit and got uncontrollable shakes on the table. Anyway in the end DD was born on the 17/4/13 weighing 7lb 12oz and is utterly perfect. I can't believe how much I love her!

The aftermath has also been a bit crap. I have had major problems BFing due to totally flat nipples blush so found it nigh on impossible to get a good latch and DD has shredded my nips to ribbons. I persevered for 5 days, despite having bitten a hole in the inside of my top lip trying not to scream every time she latched on. On day 5 I tried nipple shields which did not help really - they wouldn't really stay on. Then I ended up expressing milk instead and cup feeding. This helped for a bit but have ended up mixed feeding so she's having EBM for about half her feeds and formula for half which is working for us at the moment.

I was very very upset about not being able to BF, especially as I had managed with DS but as I have also had a wound infection causing flu like symptoms and horrendous abdo pain, and have a toddler who has decided that he doesn't want to sleep through the night either, it was just one battle too many!

DD is 8 days old today and things are gradually getting easier. Am dreading DH going back to work though as I have no family support around at all. Will just have to be super organised I think confused. Lovely to read everyone else's experiences, congrats to all on their growing little bundles smile

Dirtymistress Fri 26-Apr-13 06:33:01

Oh pontouf you poor thing, that sounds absolutely hideous and not what you would expect from a second birth. I really feel for you, it's hard enough as it is trying to juggle newborn and toddler without physically feeling rubbish. I hope things get better quickly.
I am on antibiotics now for my horrible cough. I have had it for nearly six weekshmm it stops me sleeping even when dirtybaby and dirtytoddler are snoring. Hopefully the pills will clear it up.

Dirtymistress Fri 26-Apr-13 06:34:59

What's your age gap pontouf? I have no family nearby either. It is tough. Yes, yes to be super organised.grin

Pontouf Fri 26-Apr-13 06:53:53

Hi Dirty, DS is 2.6. He has slept through pretty much since he was 4 months old so am fairly certain this is an attention/jealousy issue. He has taken to his new baby sister really well generally, keeps stroking and kissing her etc, but there are moments (usually when she's screaming) that he is clearly a bit pissed off at her presence! What's your age gap?

With regards to it being a second birth, it was an attempted (hollow laugh) VBAC, DS was born by elective c-section due to being breech, so first attempt at a vaginal birth. It's funny, it wasn't till I wrote it all down that I realised just how shit it had been!

Poor you with your bad cough. I can't imagine anything worse than having everyone else finally asleep all at the same time and still not being able to get some shut-eye! Those first few seconds as you drift off after a 3am feed are utter utter bliss!

Dirtymistress Fri 26-Apr-13 08:11:36

My age gap is a crazy 17 monthsgrin I do not recommend!

RubyrooUK Sat 27-Apr-13 14:56:50

Hi Pontouf! Welcome and congratulations on your baby!

Today DS1 is ill. He has a fever and is watching back-to-back DVDs and has only just eaten for the first time...a biscuit. Argh. He is highly pathetic and prone to weeping because he can't find the owl in a particular DVD that doesn't feature an owl.

DS2 is still on antibiotics for his rash which aren't doing anything apart from making him vomit up feeds. I am going to give up and phone the doctor on Monday. He also has a cold and is constantly snotty.

I am considering barricading myself into a health spa and leaving them all to become an international pop star with a massage therapist on call, no cellulite and my team of nannies dealing with these smelly, messy, ill children.

birdofthenorth Fri 10-May-13 15:13:19

Hello all, can I join in?

I have DD aged 2.8 and new DS who
is four weeks (born 11th April). DH works away 2-4 nights a week -this week was his first back after 3 weeks paternity leave & chaos has well and truly descended!

DD is being pretty good with DS except during her bedtime routine and first thing in the morning when she is a needy monster... she has also regressed to having disturbed nights, usually just as I've got DS off -argh! She is also still in the midst of potty training so I am having to leap up during breastfeeds to get her to the nearest loo!

DS is not a bad baby but has a bit of reflux (megavoms after most feeds) which is starting to cause him more discomfort and make him grouchier and sometimes un-put-downable).

Oh, and I have two large dogs to manage too. And as I'm self-employed work is still rearing it's ugly head when I least need it!

My ambition for each day is no more than survival at the moment so I very much need a thread where I can rant and sob!!!

yogafan Tue 21-May-13 07:42:07

Hi birdofthenorth - hope things are going ok and you're managing to survive each day. I don't really belong on this thread (I am preg and expecting the same gap between DC2 and my DD as you have between yours) - I've just been reading this thread to prepare (and totally freak myself out! Just wanted to offer done support and let you know what a friend if mine does at bedtime, in case it helps you. She bathes them together, puts baby in a bouncy chair while reading to and settling the oldest one (baby sometimes cries, think they ignore but speed up bedtime - oldest is generally pleased to have the noisy babe our the room at this point) then mum pours herself a glass of wine, gets into bed with baby and feeds /settles for the night. Good luck with it all, it sounds incredibly tough. But the main message I have picked up is to have low expectations and just survive (as you already know) and that it gets easier / which you also already know but hopefully you'll start seeing soon. All the best x

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