Hello all...have been watching for a while but first post. Wanted some advice about ds. Dd is 27m and ds is 5m. We've had a bit of a shitty time...recurrent abruptions third trimester, emergency caesarean 35 weeks, thought we were through worst and then ds stopped breathing at home and spent 10 days in intensive care at 3 weeks old with bronchiolitis....pretty much the hardest week of my life, after my dad dying. Then the usual newborn stuff... spell of not sleeping at night, followed by 4-6 weeks of evening colic and more recently screaming episodes in the day which can last for hours (6 hours being the record!).
Strange thing is he'll have bad days when he cries and cries or good days when he's all smiles...so don't think it's medical (reflux, intolerance etc). Have seen cranial osteopath but no major changes so far. Think main issue is a sleep one... Really fights naps. Takes 30 mins to settle and only ever sleeps 30 mins in cot (sometimes longer in buggy or car). Then gets over tired and screams. Does really well at night - feeds to sleep at 7.30 pm and wakes once around 4 am for a feed. Should say pretty much ebf.
So my questions...
- is it ok to feed to sleep lunchtime and bedtime as only way really to settle him...rods and backs a problem?
- how on earth do you get a reasonable routine with a busy active toddler to entertain - tbh she's pretty much an angel (with the odd tantrum thrown in) ...but feel constantly guilty little man gets shipped about and fed/settled when it suits...and that this is probably contributing...
Was worried 3-4 weeks ago I had pnd because everything sooo hard.., think I'm just plain shattered. Dh (who is a star but out of the house 6.30 am til 8 pm mon-fri) has been helping out with some bottles at night and I do feel a lot better...but still struggle when things not going well.
Should say won't take a dummy (not through want of trying) and not super keen on sling. I'm kind of hoping the next month or two might help as he learns to suck his thumb ( trying all the time), starts to sit (trying all the time) and starts weaning (starting to show interest) ...
Ant thoughts ladies?