How many children do you want? Ideally?

(108 Posts)
redplanet Mon 25-Mar-13 16:43:31

Are you having less than you would like to becuase of financial/ social/ practical restraints? Do you think you always regret not having the last one?

MakeNoResolutions Tue 02-Apr-13 05:32:46

We have 2 fabulous children, currently 6 and 9. I would love another one (or two if I'm honest) but financial and time (i.e. not enough hours in the day) constraints mean we have decided our family is complete. It's something I struggle with all the time but I'm sure as time goes by I'll make my peace with the situation.

TreeLuLa Tue 02-Apr-13 05:00:32

I wanted 4. But was infertile. 7 years of trying.

Went all out for fertility treatment - could only afford one go.

Had twins! Feel so blessed to have 2 - so we'll be sticking with that! grin

MyBaby1day Tue 02-Apr-13 04:31:47

I have always dreamed of just having the one, I'm an only child myself and so know what the experience is like-bloody GREAT!! grin

stopprocrastinating Mon 01-Apr-13 21:15:24

We have one, and I'd happily stop at one. However DH wants two or three.

MummyPig24 Mon 01-Apr-13 20:10:38

I want 4. We have 2 and will definitely have a 3rd but almost certainly not a 4th, that would just tip us over the edge financially, space wise and everything else. 3 seems like the magic number for our family, 4 would be nice but not doable.

leonardofquirm Sun 31-Mar-13 17:59:00

I always thought I wanted 2, DS2's birth was a lot easier than his big brother's though and I remember thinking "I could totally do that again" blush

If we had the lottery win and big house I'd have one or 2 more I think, I really want another squishy new baby (and cool little person). grin If we had one now with me working full time and DH as SAHD I think we'd fall out every day though as i am too sleepy and busy. zzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Essexgirlupnorth Sun 31-Mar-13 16:25:46

I'm 13 weeks pregnant with my first and would like two in total as would DH.
One of my friends has two boys and wants a third mainly because she is desperate for a girl. She had such a bad pregnancy with number two she said no more but as soon as she had said she would like another.

jellybeans Sun 31-Mar-13 14:48:52

I always wanted 3 or 4. However once I had 4 (3 & 4 were twins) I wanted a 5th. Always wanted big family. Don't want more though feel complete smile

mysweetie Sun 31-Mar-13 14:41:43

I ideally want 3-4,. but change it to 2-3..lol I have 1 as of now and DH is away so I think things will be as planned.

doublecakeplease Thu 28-Mar-13 19:20:17

We have 1. We'd dearly love another but i had a rubbish pregnancy and my bp (not pre eclampsia, just ridiculously high) put me at risk, meant our DS had to be born early by emcs and was really ill for a while. We hate that DS is going to be an only child, we love being parents and would have liked at least another. But i don't think i could face it all again. Makes me sad BUT we're lucky to have DS...

AnameIcouldnotthinkof Thu 28-Mar-13 19:13:46

I have 4 DCs. I wanted 5, DH wanted 5 or 6. We started young (though not by choice) and hoped we could have all the DCs we wanted.
3 biological, 1 adopted.
I an ideal world I would have one more but I cannot have anymore DCs. However I am greatful for the DCs that I have and we would love to adopt more in the future.

Jayne266 Thu 28-Mar-13 18:45:40

I want 2 and I have one waiting until DS starts school before another.

Neiffer Thu 28-Mar-13 18:30:44

I always wanted 3 or 4, currently pregnant with dc2 and suspect this will be our last sad We struggle with money as it is and double childcare costs etc make it harder. And dh only ever wanted 2...who knows, maybe one day we'll have a third z

sjupes Thu 28-Mar-13 18:22:42

For my expecting dc3 and saying i wasn't sure about it - we found out yesterday dc3 is a second dd and it's starting to feel like my family is complete - i know i don't want more but after not being sure about dc3 i know she is just right.

No more no less i think 3 will be my magic number smile

equiliteral Wed 27-Mar-13 20:28:28

Pre-children I wanted 3 or 4; I have 2 (aged 4 and 2) and it's perfect! No more babies for me smile. My 2 are great pals, I can just about manage to find enough time for each of them, and I still have a (little bit of a!) life myself - all fairly civilised (I will live to regret saying that, I am sure). I don't know how people manage with any more. I also far prefer being a mum of toddlers / children to the baby days, couldn't go back there now.

GraceSpeaker Wed 27-Mar-13 19:54:57

One. Wasn't massively keen on pregnancy, birth was messy and I've found I'm not suited to sleep deprivation and baby-induced monotony! One perfect little thing is fine by me.

Chiggers Wed 27-Mar-13 19:40:00

I have 2 although DH had talked about having 3 or 4. As soon as he made it clear that he wanted more than 2, I spoke to my GP about getting referred for sterilisation.

I got really excited when the date for the op came through as I couldn't wait to put an end to having more DC. I just didn't want to be pregnant ever again even though the pregnancies and births were fine.

PearlyWhites Wed 27-Mar-13 13:57:08

I have four, I would like at least two more maybe three.

willyoulistentome Wed 27-Mar-13 13:52:34

I'd have loved to have 3. Got 2. DH had a vasectomy after number 2. Fair enough he already had 3 others - so that made 5 for him. Do feel quite sad about my mising number 3 though.

rrreow Wed 27-Mar-13 13:49:27

I have one DS, and am pregnant with DS2. I initially wanted two and be done having kids by 30 (I'll be 28 when DS2 is born), but I'd also really like a girl (and so does DH). I really hate being pregnant though and not sure I want to do it a 3rd time. I'm not ruling out a 3rd though! And if we have 3 we might well go for 4... I don't know, I think it will come down to practicalities/finances in the end.

lightsandshapes Tue 26-Mar-13 20:44:58

I have one. I would like another 1 or 2. I am 36 so I'd better get a move on.

Bowlersarm Tue 26-Mar-13 20:03:30

I wanted 4. DH wanted 2. We have 3 smile. Now they are all just about teens, and the terrible broodiness sibsided a few years ago I am so so glad we didn't have the 4 i originally wanted. I am knackered and not sure i could have coped with that fourth! They are all lovely, and we have a great relationship, but it's full on. I am in awe of those with more than three

Beatrixpotty Tue 26-Mar-13 19:54:01

Just had my 3rd and this will be my last.If it wasn't for age (39,DH 43) might be tempted to have another..

I want two, but I don't have the room for another one sad
Hopefully I'll manage to move eventually as I'm already regretting how big the age gap will be.

Still18atheart Tue 26-Mar-13 18:22:53

want 3 but would settle for 2

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