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Anyone know a family of all boys go on to get a baby girl?(35 Posts)
Hi everyone, I've just signed up today because I'm wondering if any of you ladies know of, or have a large family of all boys that had just one little girl in the mix? I have 5 young sons and I'm hoping for a daughter someday. I know it's possible but I don't personally know any families like that. Any input welcome
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I have just had a daughter after three sons. We didn't do anything differently.
DH and I did examine our motives very carefully before trying for a fourth child to check that we could satisfy the 'Do you want another CHILD'? question. The answer was clear - yes. We felt like there was an empty seat at our family table. We also considered the impact of another baby on our other children, our lifestyle, our health, our careers (which I think anyone ttc should do anyway ).
There are some people who never have strong feelings about having a child of a particular gender. There are also lots of people who do have a preference, and I think that is perfectly normal. However, if you are one of them it is important to understand your own psycological reasons for that desire and deal with any issues before you TTC.
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I know someone that had 7 daughters then a son. Logically it should happen the way round you want as well!
Local family had 4 boys followed by 4 girls.
DH has among his relations, one family who had 3G 2B 4G 1B.
I think "the only girl as spoilt princess" only happens if you let it.
"It's pretty simple, do you want another CHILD"
I agree with this. You don't have more to have a set gender, you go on to have more if you want another child, a person.
I was told by a fertility specialist i was unusual to get a girl after four boys. I donated eggs last year and had to see him for that and a thorough mot and genetic testing etc. He said once you have three or more of the same gender its unusual to go on to have the opposite gender but obviously some people do.
As long as you dont mind either way what you get then fine but just how many times would you keep trying?
Bananapickle is right there certainly are genes involved in reproduction but it is 50/50. And the eldest being a boy for several generations? The chances of that happening are actually reasonably high since all of them have a 50/50 chance of having a boy first, so if you lined up a row of people (say, six?) and they all tossed a coin and all got heads that would be a coincidence. OP, I can understand why it gets annoying hearing guff about how you are predisposed to have only boys! Anyway as others have said, if you'd be happy with either sex then there isn't a problem.
I am the only girl with three brothers so it does happen but I think genes are involved. In my husbands family the eldest son has boys, it's been that way for generations. It could be coincidence but I reckon there's more to it.
If you want more children then go for it but be prepared for it being a boy. My SIL (husband's brothers wife!) is desperate for a girl and was almost disappointed when she had a third boy...
My cousins - 4 boys and 20 years after the first they had a girl
I know of 2 families with 3 girls and 1 boy and one with 3 sons and 1 daughter. <Racks brain> There must be more recently famous families with boys and one girl than the Osmonds? I think the actor Ralph Fiennes has 3 brothers and 2 sisters, the actor Lawrence Fox has 3 brothers and 1 sister.
If you are happy at the idea of a sixth son, then a daughter would be a bonus, and it's win, win
I wouldn't push my sons aside if I had a daughter. I don't think I even hinted at such a thing did I? That's not the kind of person I am. I know the perfect mother daughter relationship is a fantasy but I wouldn't expect it to be perfect. Right now as it stands I have zero chance of any kind mother daughter relationship. If I had another child and it was a boy I'd be ok with that. I love having a big family and my sons are so funny and loveable. I'm so lucky to have them and I do know that. They get all the love and attention in the world and are all really confident. I.don't mention this in front of them at all. they're all so amazing when they get a new little brother, I've never had an issue with jealousy or anything, I've been really lucky. that's why I know I wouldn't treat a girl any differently, because that's just not what we are like. I think my philosophy has always been, a daughter would be great but I'm always more than happy to welcome another son.
I'm one of 6, 4 boys 2 girls
I agree don't have another baby unless you are happy to have another boy.
I am not sure what you are hoping the difference will be with a girl but time there isn't a difference so far. Other than clothes of course!
We always wanted four and were not bothered about gender, we bummed and ahhed about having no 5 and then left it to fate and ended up with no 5 who is dd, it was a lovely surprise to get a girl but we would have been just as happy with another boy.
As for the spoilt issue, dd us certainly not spoilt and nor will she be, she is treated the same as the boys.
I agree with squidger, you can't possibly predict what kind of relationship you would have with a daughter - and how are your boys going to feel if you keep having more boys, then have a girl and your boys are then pushed aside for you to develop this "special relationship".
Some mums and girls are close, some are indifferent and a small minority are at total odds with each other.
4 boys and a girl for my SIL.
I used to know a family of 8? girls and a boy.
Sorry but the fantasy of what it would be like to have a girl - and how she would be - and what you would do together etc is just that: a fantasy. If there's something missing from your life, or something you need to resolve you need to sort that out. It's unfair to expect a baby to do and likely to just not happen. If you had a girl she would have her own ideas - and you could get on very badly. She could be a complete tomboy or just not be close to you. You can't assume it would be perfect. We all dream about what it'll be like to have a partner, baby etc but its never like real life is it? In the meantime you have some gorgeous boys who need all your love and attention - not someone whose sat there wishing she had a girl. How many baby boys would it take for you to give in? Can you figure out where this need comes from. Hugs x
There have been quite a few threads on here recently about people being disappointed/regretful/depressed about not having had a girl. I think Yahbro is right, if you only want another child if it's a girl then you shouldn't have another baby. You really have to be honest with yourself about how you'd feel if you had another boy.
wow thanks again for all the replies! well, first I want to say that my desire for a daughter goes much deeper than the colour pink lol. really, what it is the relationship that I want. I always have since I was a little girl. I know that sounds a bit naff but its true, I remember feeling this way long before I even knew or cared how babies were made! its just something I've always thought of.
I do actually think of the coin toss thing Tolly. no one would be astounded if you tossed 5 heads in a row but when its a same gender family some people are like "wow 5 boys" - sometimes they're saying it enthusiasticly and sometimes its sarcasticly.
about the only girl in the family being spoilt, yep I can relate to that cos a friend of mine is having a girl after 4 boys and the comments on Facebook are all "oh she will be a spoilt little princess" seriously that sounds like an absolute nightmare to me. since when did spoilt become a good thing?
yahbro, you're so lucky to have never cared what gender you got and you're so lucky you got both! I don't know what treads you mean as I'm brand new here but I'm guessing you mean people wanting a mixed gender family?
It's pretty simple, do you want another CHILD?! All of these threads seem a bit weird to me (as a mum of 3 boys, 1 dd). I have never cared less about what sex my kids were. DD came at no3. Obviously I adore her but she means no more to me than my boys. I adore them all equally. DD hates pink. If that's the kinda vibe you were after....
It's just 50/50. If you took a coin, you could easily toss 3 or 4 or 5 heads in a row and you wouldn't say this coin cannot throw tails. But equally, you could still throw another head. I know families that have had a girl after boys but also families that didn't (I myself have three older brothers, then there were 2 girls, but dh is one of 4 boys). Fwiw, the baby's sex is actually determined by the sperm and not the egg, so if anything, they should be saying your dh can't father girls! I think before you try again though you need to consider if you'd be happy with another boy, and when you'd stop trying for a girl. Also, in the families I've known that have had a few boys then a girl, the girl has been really spoilt. How will the dynamic work with one girl?
My paternal grandma had 8 boys before having a girl. She late mc'd the next baby and didn't have anymore.
My brother and SIL had 3 sons then a daughter. And a friend has the same, her baby daughter was born last month. Both of them were really keen for a girl but I know lots of families who are very happy with just sons.or daughters.
The other way round, but my great grandma had 8 girls before her two boys!
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