Why am I the only parent I see carrying a screaming toddler?

(55 Posts)
NuzzleMyScratch Sat 09-Feb-13 20:21:21

DS is just 2. He likes to go walking which is great. My rules are that he must hold my hand if we are walking along a main road, crossing any road, and at any other time I see fit.

Most of the time he's happy to oblige but sometimes refuses, if there's something very interesting he wants to get to (like a bus or horse across the road) or if his interpretation when he should hold my hand doesn't match mine!

My tactics are that I will ask him to hold my hand, tell him if he doesn't hold it I'm going to pick him up, and then pick him up, screaming and kicking.

I see no one else doing this! Am I alone?

Leo35 Sat 09-Feb-13 22:22:51

IT's awful isn't it? DS2was/is a bolter, and can put on a turn of speed. I really appreciated the Little Life sack as a help. I insisted on the holding hands as well as the Little Life, because he wouldn't fit the Little Life sack forever! Good luck and stay firm.

ledkr Sat 09-Feb-13 22:26:58

Mine bolts too. My friends said they saw me running down the street after her the other day. They were impressed by my speed and now call me Mo.

PickledInAPearTree Sat 09-Feb-13 22:55:56

I'm going to have to get reins.

Maybe we could make a new sport of it ledkr, release them all in an arena and see who can catch the most?

PickledInAPearTree Sat 09-Feb-13 22:56:39

I tried the sacks and he clutches at them and hisses like there is acid on the straps! Argh.

Flojobunny Sat 09-Feb-13 22:58:37

You're not alone, except I'm now carrying a screaming 4 year old. Shouldn't it be easier by now?!

PickledInAPearTree Sat 09-Feb-13 23:04:18

Jesus no!

Yika Sat 09-Feb-13 23:08:58

Oh, I'm so glad I saw this thread! No way can I let go of dd, 28 months. She bolted when going through security on a weekend trip last week, under the security conveyor belt to where I couldn't reach her. She laughed. But I had the last laugh cos then I mercilessly strapped her, screaming and kicking, in the pushchair till we got to our seats.

MerryCouthyMows Sat 09-Feb-13 23:18:47

Because you are too busy carrying a screaming thrashing toddler to notice all the rest of us doing the sane thing? grin

I can assure you you are not alone. 3/4 of my DC's regularly ended up being carried kicking and screaming away from wherever I was.

The fourth one decided not to 'do' the terrible two's at 2yo. Or 3yo. No, he waited till he was 4yo to start the terrible two's. Try carrying an angry ball of rage that is twice the size of an average two year old!

(In his defence, he has SN's and severe GDD, so developmentally at 4yo, he probably was at a 2yo's level - he didn't take his first steps till 3y7m, or say his first word till 3y6m.)

But still, he lulled me into a false sense of security and made me think that he was just going to skip that stage, and then BAM! There we go with the incandescent rage over a cutted up banana...

wiltingfast Sat 09-Feb-13 23:23:32

Did you not see me in the play centre earlier today carrying my screaming almost 2yo under my arm while speaking to my screaming 3yo in (what I hoped was) a very firm but calm voice?

We did later all manage to cross the road holding hands...

PickledInAPearTree Sat 09-Feb-13 23:25:54

Toddlers are so bloody weird!

ledkr Sat 09-Feb-13 23:26:07

Yes pickled babyators hehe

FrantasticO Sat 09-Feb-13 23:32:31

You are def not alone!
Other parents like me are frog marching their children to the car...or debating why the two older siblings are NOT to wear makeup being that they are 4 and 8
All good, return to manhandling toddler.
At ease.

Startail Sat 09-Feb-13 23:34:37

No screaming, DD1 was just firmly strapped into walking reins the second she left her car seat.

She's only still alive because she instinctively knew roads were dangerous.

Never ever would she hold hands. She's more likely at 15 to hold hands than she was at two.

steppemum Sat 09-Feb-13 23:37:45

only reason you haven't seen me is that mine are past the toddler phase!

trikken Sat 09-Feb-13 23:38:28

my three year old is a bolter and screams she wants to be carried instead of walk. I have 6 yr old ds who isnt well behaved when walking too. I find the school run a nightmare most days.

MiniEggsinJanuary Sat 09-Feb-13 23:42:45

Of course you're not alone, OP! We never see each other as we are deafened by the screaming! I once had to pick one of my DC up and carry him out of the toy department with his arms flailing and legs kicking. As DH held other DCs and lift door, DS managed to punch be across the face (accidentally) and all I heard was a man saying "ooh - bet that hurt". Felt like saying that I could get DS to punch him too if he was so interested!

TepidCoffee Sat 09-Feb-13 23:46:14

Our Little Life backpack has been an absolute lifesaver with this - my DS absolutely refuses to hold my hand ever, unless he's dragging me somewhere to the telly

He hated normal reins, but doesn't seem to notice the backpack at all.

He did spend an hour on the train shouting at every other train we went past as we travelled via the busiest station in the UK the other day, though. Even the tenth train in so many minutes. And the twentieth train...you get the picture [knackered emoticon].

NuzzleMyScratch Sun 10-Feb-13 10:23:35

Thank you everyone, I've loved reading your tales of torture! DS has a backpack, but he'll only carry it by the handle, refuses to wear it....

nappyaddict Sun 10-Feb-13 10:30:02

Convert Where in the Midlands are you?

Convert Sun 10-Feb-13 14:01:46

I'm near stafford nappyaddict

Leo35 Sun 10-Feb-13 14:22:57

Could you let him carry the backpack and use reins as well?! So many familiar scenarios on this thread - particularly that this doesn't stops at 2.5, or 3 but keeps on rolling. Perhaps less frequently, but enough to keep you on your toes!

I can't wait for September and Reception to start. Four long years of being constantly vigilant with DS2 have taken their toll....

cranverry Sun 10-Feb-13 15:20:22

Oh definitely no alone. The other day I had to carry my 2 year old out a book shop screaming. I also had my 11 month old in a baby carrier at the time and she was most bemused.

nappyaddict Sun 10-Feb-13 21:07:34

Convert Oh I'm near Stourbridge if you know it?

notcitrus Sun 10-Feb-13 23:04:29

I couldn't carry ds - so had to take a buggy 'for my bag' just in case for ages! The little life backpack worked in the sense that he hated it so would walk rather than wear it.
He wasn't a runner, thankfully. But rapidly decided tantrums were way too much like hard work so would just lie down on the ground...
Now 4 he will let me drag him but scream while it happens. Suspect dd may be a runner so she's getting reins as soon as she can toddle.

PickledInAPearTree Sun 10-Feb-13 23:09:52

The best thing about the little life ones is that incredibly cruel little rain hood inside it. Hlarious!

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