7yr old 'hates' school

(10 Posts)
bunchamunchycrunchycarrots Thu 17-Jan-13 09:33:42

Every morning I'm getting a tirade of abuse from her as she hates school. There isn't enough play time. She hates maths. It's boring. This all sounds minor but it's the venom coming from her that bothers me, and the worry that it'll only get worse as she gets older and I'm concerned I'm going to end up with a school refuser. I'm at my wits end trying to get her to understand we have no choice and she needs to just accept this as part of her daily routine.

Any advice?

WowOoo Thu 17-Jan-13 11:18:02

Have you spoken to the teacher? Is she bored as the work is too easy? Has she got good friendships?
I'd want to know and I'd be asking her more in depth questions and her teacher will be able to tell you what she's like in school on a day to day basis.

Catsdontcare Thu 17-Jan-13 11:21:18

Think you need to get the bottom of why she is so unhappy. Of course going to school is part of life but she needs to feel that she is being heard and that you are acknowledging how unhappy she is.

I would arrange to see her teacher and find out how she is once at school. Maybe her teacher can have a chat with her?

Agree - talk to teacher as soon as poss before it really festers.

Timetoask Thu 17-Jan-13 12:47:36

Totally agree with WowOoo.
Choose a time when she is calm, tell her you understand she is not enjoying school but you need to understand why in order to help her.
You need to get to the bottom of why she dislikes it so much, she may be finding the work too difficult, (I doubt it will be too easy, ortherwise she wouldnt hate it so much), she may be bullied, who knows.

At 7 she should definitely be enjoying her time at school. Something is not right.

HungryHippo89 Thu 17-Jan-13 14:36:34

My DSD who is also 7 - Went through this before Christmas - Constantly complaing about school and crying when she was dropped off because she "just hated it" after a few weeks it all came out that she didn't like her teacher because she was too strict and she shouted a fair bit ... It probably isn't the same reasons behind your daughters hate of school ... But I would be pretty confident in saying she probably doesn't "hate" school she is probably just struggling with some aspect of it. Maybe something has changed recently?

My DS is like this too. I think he'd just rather be at home with me playing with his toys. He has autism and I know he finds school hard work.. I feel so guilty for sending him to school everyday. sad

Don't have any answers but I know how you feel OP and I also worry about when he is older and just refuses to go.

pumpkinsweetieMasPudding Thu 17-Jan-13 14:40:59

It could be to do with the teacher being strict, it can blight a childs school life when they are scared of their teacher or bullying, which can have a profound affect on a childs behaviour.
I would speak to the head & find out what is going on.

bunchamunchycrunchycarrots Thu 17-Jan-13 15:51:17

Thanks for the replies. Managed to have a quick word with teacher and got appt for Monday morning to speak to her properly. Will hopefully get to the bottom if what the problem is.

bananacarnival Fri 18-Jan-13 21:55:25

I went through this with my 7 yr old ds, throughout autumn term. Made several appointments to see the teacher who was useless. She just looked at me as if I was mad and said he was fine. When he was in actual fact very angry and tearful. I coaxed it out of him that he felt concerned about a 'gang'. DH and I wrote a strong letter to the school and this was dealt with.

I also went overboard arranging playdates with children I wouldn't normally arrange one with. The result was immediate. He was so much happier.

I also stopped being so 'interested' in his little niggles about school.

Hope that helps.

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