Waking hourly at 6 months(61 Posts)
Hi all. My dd is almost 6m old and after recent teething ( now has 2 sprouting through the bottom gum), is continuing to wake hourly almost at night. As soon as she's picked up she relaxes and cuddles in, but as soon as we put her down again, she wakes again and refuses to sleep in her cot. She's been sleeping on us for much of the night for a couple of weeks now. I'm shattered and just need sleep!
I'm exclusively bf, but dd is now on 2 puréed 'meals' a day, plus all usual bfs, with the last solid no later than 5.30pm. I haven't a clue what's going in but feel like I need to tie a knot at the end of my tether and hang on!
DH is excellent in the day and does try hard to help at night but is so sleepy it's hard for him. I just snapped his head off for snoring as I've had 30 mins sleep since we cane to bed and just as I return from the 'go to sleep in your own cot' challenge number 1 of the night, he's snoring his head off, which is making me jealous and cross, and now I can't sleep! Grrrrrr!
Any ideas? If not, any words of wisdom to see me through? Thanks in advance x
Same here last night, i've got a terrible cold and DD started with a little cough as well as teething pain so she came in
took over our bed, and slept like a proverbial baby with 5 hrs between 1 feed. Not that i slept much between her and DP.
We were doing well for a couple of nights on the # of wake ups and a bit of self settling. Ah well Hoping to get out for 30 mins this morning before the snow arrives!!!
I also have a wakeful 6 month old! Sounds like we are doing similar joosie trying to get her to self settle in the evening. I feed her though until she is just dropping off asleep, then take her off and put her in her cot - she usually protests, so I pick her up and let her suck for a few seconds & try again (and again and again some nights!).
It started working for us, she did a couple of nights where she was staying asleep 6 hours before waking, and then a few weeks ago she got a cold, and was coughing herself awake. She's taken ages to get rid of it, but now the coughing is finally going - but she's still waking up every 1-2 hours!! I am going to try again, hopefully with the same success. Hope you have had a better night.
The dream feed did not help :-( She's now been whinging for an hour and the method is not working. I've heard that they can relapse after 5 days, but am finding it hard to stay strong!
Oh ok. She's having trouble skipping the middle feed tonight. May try that another night.
She woke at 1 and has been whinging since. We've been on every 5 mins and I think she dropped off for 10 at 1.30 but just woke again. This is not easy, but we are persevering as she sounds like she's making sleepy noises.
Update to follow tomorrow. Thanks all for ideas.
A dream feed is where you feed them without waking, you rub your nipple against their mouth and they latch on in their sleep (sounds bonkers but it does work!) and hopefully this fills them up enough to avoid waking later on. This might get rid of the middle feed?
I do do a dream feed if she wakes up when we go up to bed around 10, but ahe doesn't always wake up then. Sometimes it's a bit later, and I'm not going to wake her to feed when she is finally sleeping.
I will try and drop the middle feed if the 3 tonight though. Her suckling was so weak last night it was hardly worth it and I think it was a comfort snuggle really.
She went down partially awake with the smallest of peeps tonight, so I'm keeping all crossed that we may have cracked it (for the moment anyway!)
When you go in at 10 (why do you go in at 10?) try a dream feed - it might put off one of the later wakings?
I would also suggest co-sleeping if your plan doesn't work. My DS continued to wake up regularly whatever we did and after I started to fall asleep when feeding him I realised it was safer if I did it planned in a safe environment.
Lonely, I know what you mean when you fall asleep (sitting up usually) while feeding and then forget she's still there! So many times I've woken in that position because I've been dreaming!
We had another breakthrough night last night I think. Woke at 11.30, so fed. Then went back with no problems. Fed again at 2 ish (although not very much or strongly, so I might try and drop that feed tonight). Then she had a whinging wake up and I did the 'go in, kiss her, say goodnight and leave' technique, and she went back to sleep within 5 mins :-) then a feed at 5, one whinge session just after, but she went back down a treat after the technique til 6, when she heard Daddy's alarm go off. Yay!
Just posting today because I said I would, to say thanks for all your support and to share a shaft of light at the end of the tunnel for those in the tunnel still. Hang on in there! X fingers crossed it keeps getting better for us all! X
If she's teething, would you not give her some calpol before she goes to bed? Our dd def felt the teeth way more at night and it helped her get a good stretch of sleep (and us too!)
Same same same ! 5.5 month old here and since the 07 December it all went wrong ! Up many times at night. I must say half the time I fall asleep and forget and wake up and she is still there. I too tell at my DP for snoring ! And the annoying thing is she can sleep for up to 3 hours but I can't sleep I'm laying there waiting for her to wake up
It was not bad at all....a shaft of light in the darkness! She woke at 10, 12.30 and 3, almost as predicted. She went down without a fuss after feeding too. She also woke at 5 wanting to be awake for the day, so DH brought her in to snuggle with him for an hour before he gets up for work. The going to bed awake was the hardest bit for her last night but we are going to persevere for the week to see if last nights more settled behaviour was a fluke or not! I hope that this is the turning point!
Hope everyone else is getting some zzzzzzzz!
True, Lois, it is nice to know its not just me! I read some stuff today about putting her down awake. Apparently, she's associating being nursed/cuddled with her only way to get to sleep, so is needing that if she wakes in the night. I can understand that as usually, 9 times out of 10, she's asleep when I put her down for the night first of all. She must wonder where she is and feel she needs me more than she really does.
So tonight, I tried putting her down half awake, while giving her 1 boob rather than both. It didn't go down too well! She fussed and moaned and escalated to crying. Me and DH went in every 5 mins to touch her, kiss her (while really checking she's ok), say goodnight and leave again. It took her about 15 mins to go off. We've agreed that I will feed her if she wakes up when we go up at 10ish ( as she sometimes does), and at 1ish and 4ish, but then we will do the 5 minute returning and checking all other times. Our gorgeous girl is 6 months old today, so has come of age now!
I'm hoping she doesn't do heart wrenching cries and just settles well between feeds, but lets see....
I know that's probably not true claudie, and agree it depends on the baby; can just seem like what every else is doing seems to work out better sometimes!
Don't wish sleep deprivation on anyone; at least I know I'm not alone on MN
Co-sleep. I don't think you have many other options tbh.
Ps sorry if that sounded a bit abrupt. Sleep deprivation at its finest!
I don't think it's as simple as that with regards to feeding, loislane. I formula feed and my ds is waking every hour still at 7 months. I have friends who bf their similar aged babies who are getting more sleep! I think it depends far more on the baby than what they're being fed.
Hey joosie I know what you mean - resignation of 'she's going to wake up anyway' has helped me but sometimes I do wonder if I'm making it more difficult for myself.
When I see friends from NCT/others, all of them who formula feed are getting good nights and those who BF generally aren't. A few also started to wean early and I'm thinking why am I not doing that!! I know lots of anecdotes does not equal data but sure seems the case with people I know.
You're passed the weaning/teething stage so don't know what I'll pin my hopes to when that's us.
Good job they're cute as you say Have a nice day
I hope you are all having better sleep than us! My DD is SO worth the sleep deprivation but wonder if I'm making it harder for myself for some way, or whether just to resign myself to the fact that this is how it is? Happy weekend all.
I've had a lie in thanks to DH this morning but I needed it....:
*11.45 feed til 12.10 ; (i went to sleep at 10.45= 1 hours sleep for me)
*1.40 woke and held until finally went down without waking at 2.00 (=1.5 hours sleep for me from 12.15-1.40)
*2.40 wake and feed (30 mins sleep for me) til fell asleep on me at 2.55
*Woke fidgeting and moaning at 4.00. (1 hours sleep for me). Given to Dad . Continued to moan until booby and doze again 4.40, given back to Dad.(1 hours sleep)
*Woke up and cried for 10 mins at 5.50 wanting to sit up and play. Daddy took downstairs. (1.5 hours sleep)
*Fed booby at 7.30 and Daddy took shopping at 7.50. Came back at 9.00.
Apologies if this is muddled as it is compiled as we go during the night. Thank goodness for weekends when DH can have her for a bit so I can catch up. Otherwise, I would be such a zombie, and dangerous, I think!
Her teeth are well through now. I hope she hurries and settles soon!
Teething is the work of the devil
Another restless night here, only fed twice so I know its not hunger and just wants cuddles for soothing as she's in pain. In some ways makes me feel better as hopefully once the first one comes through she might settle a bit and perhaps its not just a major sleep regression (hopes!).
Hope you got some rest last night ladies, although by the time of your post joosie I'm thinking not
Joosie don't you worry, I'm not totally mad...
I was up early yesterday morning with 3 yr old DS, getting him ready for playgroup, so the housework was just a part of my normal routine.
A lie-in was possible when I only had one child >wistful sigh about lie-in's<
I really think your DD will improve a lot once those teeth are through, I think the first 2 are the hardest.
Seriously, I think DDs non-sleeping patterns are making me nocturnal! Too whit too whoo! (....and delerious!)
Great news Needles! Onwards and upwards! (Although I think you are mad about the housework....in sleep deprived times, a lie in would be my first priority!) x
Hi, Joosie, thanks for asking.
She got on ok in the cot.... well, the first night she spent only 20 mins there, the rest of the time she was attached to my boob in my bed
Last night she spent about 5 hours of the night in the cot. Defo an improvement!
She's actually just woke up now (9:20am) so she's had a nice lie-in, give me some time to get stuck into housework.
Needles, how did your LO do in the cot?
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