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My friends DD is 9 and has very similar issues. She suffers from anxiety. My friend self referredher to a local child therapist ( she asked her GP ) and her daughters has come on leaps and bounds! Its nice to see her relax again. Hope your DD feels better soon.

She suffered separation anxiety when she was in nursery, she started when she was 2 for 2 half days, but the anxiety didn't kick in untill she was about 3 and a half, put that down to the fact my DS was born and she felt left out.
We've always had tears when going back to school after a break, but she has always had sensitive hearing.
What we are going through at the moment has started with this new teacher, she says he is loud, the class is loud and it gives her terrible ear ache.
But apart from this she has always been fine at school.
Deaf leopard it's not hippyish at all, I already give her " child essence" think I may get her a worry stone and a dream catcher, and see if it helps anything is worth a try
Thank you for your advice guys xxx

there is some excellent work done on managing anxiety in children - I used to work with psychologists doing this stuff - try googling it.

I have experience with both issues with my DCs.

DS has ASD and is very hearing sensitive - so strategies included - ipod with earphones for him to put in when noise got too much, foam earplugs to block out noise - I realise that you can't do this during lessons, so maybe a word with the teacher - if it gets too much for DS he has a card that he can put on his desk and leave the room - maybe she could have similar to put in ear plugs / go outside the classroom for a minute.

DD is very anxious and doesn't sleep at all well, we have a routine to wind her down for bed - she has a lavendar bath, we use Rescue Remedy in the day to calm her down when very anxious and the night version to help her get off to sleep, she has a relaxation / hypno app that we use to get her off to sleep, crystals and a dream-catcher in her room - I don't care if it is a bit hippyish, if it helps her feel better then it is good enough for me.

You've probably tried most of those, but thought it worth putting them down for you just in case.

Really feel for you - and her - childhood should be such a carefree time and it is really hard to see your child being so unhappy.

If you look back, when did this behaviour start? Has she always been like this? Is she happy at school?

Ah - 9yrs. What does she say?

How old is she?

She is 9 yrs old x

At the moment I feel like a rabbit stuck in the head lights, I just don't know where to turn.
I've been taking my DD back and too to the doctors for months, thinking she has had some kind of virus, symptoms are head aches, tummy aches, earaches, muscle aches and pains etc.
Feeling that this was going on far too long I sent my DH back with her to the doctors and they saw the nurse, she thoroughly checked her over, eyes,ears,throat,chest and peek flow all good, she had blood tests and all came back 100% fine, but the nurse suggested that it may be anxiety.
DD has always been a worrier, she is a sweet natured girl gets on well at school, the teachers praise her and she has a good friends.
She can be sensitive to noise, for example if we go to a party with a disco we just have to leave, we took her to a panto last year and she couldn't stand it.
Her usual teacher has gone on some coarse and for the last couple of months she has had a substitute teacher, he is very passionate about teaching, very animated and can be quite loud, I also think he gets the children hyped up and it's very noisy in class.
She doesn't settle at night, she complains her chest hurts and she can't breathe properly, her head hurts etc.
She has had that much time off school recently it's unreal, I am at the end of my tether and just don't know what to do to help her.
I'm sorry this is so long, but please.... Any words of advice would be very much appreciated.
Parents who have children suffering anxiety or sensitive hearing how do you help them?
Claire x