Since having my daughter 8 years ago, I am constantly worrying about the kind of parent I am and whether I am doing the best for her...in fact, I seem to spend most of my time feeling guilty for something or other. My greatest fear is her turning to me as an adult and telling me I have done a bad job. My husband doesn't worry and feel guilty like this - he just gets on with it! Does anyone else spend their lives feeling guilty? And does it ever go away?
I subscribe to the 'good enough' parenting idea plus someone in America, Shermer? who ways that within a given range of normal parenting i.e. not abusive, your children will turn out fine. Try to feel less guilty, take a lead from your DH and enjoy it more.
Especially for DD1 who I had with my ex. So DD2 has her mum and dad together but DD1 gets shipped off two nights a week to an utter prick. I worry she feels left out or that she doesnt know I love her or that she doesnt see how hard Im trying to give her a good life.