Fantastic 40+ Mums

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Hpbp Wed 10-Oct-12 19:57:03

Mum of 2, DS1 nearly 4yo and DD2 almost 11 weeks. I hope to find here advices from experienced mums so that I can avoid mistakes... I made some with DS1 and my life sometimes is hell, it is hard to unlearn wrong behaviour, so hard.
At the time being, DD2 is a very sweet baby, she is easy to decipher, cries are always related to some kind of discomfort and I managed to learn what they mean, or almost. Only one issue with her ATM is that she rejects bottle feeding even with expressed milk. I'd like to be able to escape a bit from the house to get a haircut or a facial. And I am sure DH would like to feed her sometimes too.
I struggle a bit more with DS1, who is usually a good boy, energetic, happy and loving. But after school, getting him to take his bath is a battle and falling and staying asleep all night are big issues. The problems did exist before but now with the recent arrival of his sister, the intensity has increased. Or maybe they are the same but to me they seem bigger and need to be addressed quickly so that I can look after both without raising my voice.
All advice are welcome. I need help here.

Also I'd like to invite all the graduates from the Fantastic 40+ Mums to be thread to join. You have been truly fantastic and so supportive during my pg. I hope to be able to keep on sharing with you this wonderful parenting adventure.

MrsWooster Wed 10-Oct-12 20:33:43

Thanks for starting this - I'm marking for the arrival of DD in March 2013 and will be perusing for gems on DS (June 2010 vintage)! It is indeed a wonderful adventure - why on EARTH did I wait so long?!

Hpbp Wed 10-Oct-12 20:52:51

You tell me ! I had my first kid at almost 38. A little voice in my head was telling me that I wasn't meant to be a mum... Stupid little voice !

knottyhair Wed 10-Oct-12 21:31:12

Thanks for starting this Hbpb! Have DD due in December, and already have DS (although I was 35 when I had him). Am now 44. Looking forward to chatting!

FjordMor Wed 10-Oct-12 22:39:55

Hi Hpbp, knottyhair, MrsWooster - marking my place. Baby Fjord is one week old today and her 41 year old mummy is knackered but besotted. Not finding much time to read/post anywhere at the moment but hoping that changes as my feeding problems calm down. Looking forward to comparing notes with you guys - so much experience to share!

catdoctor Wed 10-Oct-12 22:52:23

Evening! Be interested to talk to you all. Me 44, DS born July 2010, I am obsessed! Trying for another but obviously not holding my breath. All my 'mummy friends' are 15 years youngr than me - we have nothing in common except a baby - I need some friends who remember when Scott married Charlene and enjoyed getting mellow to Soul2soul. TTFN

lucylookout Thu 11-Oct-12 01:39:01

Me too! I'm 41. DS1 just turned 5 and started school. DS2 is 12 weeks old (and still learning how to sleep. Yawn!)

ZombTEE Thu 11-Oct-12 01:49:21

We already have a thread, but it's a bit quite.

Come liven it up!

It's in chat and called Forty Towers,

ZombTEE Thu 11-Oct-12 01:49:33

Quiet, rather.

Hello, marking place - have been in and out of the pre-baby thread, more out unfortunately after the early and unexpected arrival of Kid but have lurked industriously! Looking forward to more updates on everyone.

ZombTEE Thu 11-Oct-12 06:14:26

here is the thread of those of us who have been there, done that, if you're interetsted in joining us

Like I said, it's been fairly quiet over there, but we love new people and would love you to join us. Most of us have pre-schoolers at this point.

Hpbp Thu 11-Oct-12 08:52:06

Catdoctor, I chose cycle monitoring to get all the chances on my side and it worked straight away. In short, it is going every week to have a scan and check if the ovaries are in good health, where in the cycle you are, the sonographer would advise when to have a big cuddle with your partner to get all chances on your side (my cycle was short one month and very long the following month, all over the place, really). I had 4 scans over a month and a positive pg test 2 weeks later. That was 11 months ago. It is a bit expensive but was not keen on taking drugs, feared too much of getting multiple babies ! Good luck.

And yes, I see what you mean re age. DH is younger and sometimes I listen to music and he has never heard of the band. Come on, Eurythmics, Duran Duran or Boy George are not that old, are they ? hmm

bytheseaside Thu 11-Oct-12 13:03:12

I'm here!
thanks zomb will check out both threads. we talked about this new one on our fantastic 40s pg thread as a way of staying in touch with the old ladies we met on there and meeting new ones too, so we mainly have / will have newborns, perhaps there's a place for both? need all the advice I can get!!
x

ZombTEE Thu 11-Oct-12 14:04:11

Plenty of room for as many threads as we want! grin

We are mostly old hands at this point. Emphasis on the old. grin

Hpbp Thu 11-Oct-12 20:37:13

Zombtee, just looked at the link you sent earlier, OMG part 21 ! when did you start ? you guys are so experienced compared to us. We are new mums in our 40s. I hope this new thread will last as long as yours.

Using Riverside's list on the pg thread, the recent graduates are

10000Fireflies, DS, 21 June 2012, EMCS
Hpbp, 41, DS1 almost 4yo, DD2 Anastasia, 29 July 2012, VB
bytheseaside, DD1, 25th/26th September 2012 name TBC, EMCS
Fjordmor 41, DD1, 3rd October 2012, EMCS
Littleredmonkey 43, DS1 Dylan, 4th October 2012, EMCS

and we are expecting great news from Firstbubba, Midget, Exexe, VQ for this month of October... This is a very busy month, I can't recall if last February was that cold !!!!!!! smile

Knotty, MrsWooster, adding your details here for new joiners

Knottyhair 44 #DC2 due for ELCS around 17/12 Girl
MrsWooster, 45, DC2 due 31/3/13 (a palindrome!)

Lucylookout, Catdoctor, Goatbongos, nice to meet you.

Fjord, hope BF is getting better.

Seaside, which pram/pushchair did you go for in the end ? I am still in Paris and using a Bebe Confort pram which is brilliant but too big for my London flat. I have not seen the BJ Versa yet.

riversidelibrary Thu 11-Oct-12 22:08:58

Marking my place on the new thread. Looking forward to hearing all about the newborns and tips on surviving. Feels ages until DS1's due date of 29 Jan but I have feeling it will start speeding past after the wedding.

...Can I add Kid to the list, born 18 July by emcs?

Anyone feeding in the middle of the night, come on over and join us on the feeding thread and help keep us all awake and sane!

ZombTEE Fri 12-Oct-12 05:22:28

Forty Towers was started in 2008! Our first baby's are starting primary school this year.

We are all Facebook and real life friends at this point and meet up at least once a year for a night of cake! and wine!

Next meet up is in December.

I had my son at 40 and he's now 3, BTW.

Hpbp Fri 12-Oct-12 09:18:17

Zombtee, 43, DS 3yo
Catdoctor, 44, DS 2yo
10000Fireflies, DS, 21 June 2012, EMCS
Goatbongosanonymous, Kid, 18 July 2012, EMCS
Lucylookout, 41, DS1 5yo, DS2 12 weeks
Hpbp, 41, DS1 almost 4yo, DD2 Anastasia, 29 July 2012, VB
bytheseaside, DD1, 25th/26th September 2012 name TBC, EMCS
Fjordmor 41, DD1, 3rd October 2012, EMCS
Littleredmonkey 43, DS1 Dylan, 4th October 2012, EMCS

bytheseaside Fri 12-Oct-12 10:05:41

oh, its so nice to have a whole bunch of us! goat thanks for thread tip, i expect I'll be there ... zombtee that's so good to know about your thread friends. i really feel my 40s pg thread kept me going through parts of pregnancy, would be so nice to meet the oldies one day!
hpbp i ordered a baby jogger versa gt, possibly not the best plan in the light of her being so early (6 half weeks) as it won't arrive for a couple of weeks still ... hopefully its brilliance will make up for that. I'll let you know. in mean time planning to get a stretchy sling

10000Fireflies Fri 12-Oct-12 10:35:44

Morning all! Just marking my place. Balancing baby firefly on knee while typing and singing along to nursery rhymes. Lovely to have other 'old' new mums to chat to. Be back soon.

ff xx

Hpbp Fri 12-Oct-12 10:54:52

Seaside, have you bought a carry cot as well then ? if I remember well, the Versa is suitable from 6 months only, right ? I am tempted by the BJ city mini which really lies flat and can be used without carry cot from birth but it does not do Parent Facing sad

ZombTEE Fri 12-Oct-12 14:52:35

Loved my Quinny Buzz, all those looking for prams.

I did buy the carry cot but on reflection if I was to do it again I wouldn't. The regular seat lays nearly flat when parent facing. My son lived in his as we have no car!

Hpbp Fri 12-Oct-12 15:09:54

I shall look, thanks ZombTEE

Hello to all the other elderlies on here! grin

hpbp in my sleep deprived state I forgot to say that Kid is a DS and I am 43...

Fireflies typing one thing and singing another is seriously impressive multitasking!

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