What are your views on home-schooling?

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Littleraysofsunshine Tue 09-Oct-12 16:30:38

Just out if interest

TheWordFactory Wed 07-May-14 22:28:55

Though my own DC attend school, I believe that HE is a right worth protecting in UK law.

We all have the responsibility to educate our own DC. If we choose to use schools as a resource, then that's fine, if we don't, then that is fine also.

I have met and represented many home schoolers. When it is done well it is utterly admirable. When it is done badly it is shocking. Much like school.

I can understand why people do it in cases of severe bullying or complex special needs, but otherwise I don't really get it. I think it is sometimes done by parents who had a bad school experience themselves and unfortunately project that onto their own dc.
I'm a teacher. I know schools aren't perfect, but I think it is generally good for kids to be in a school setting.
Also I cannot understand how so many people think they are capable of teaching all the subjects themselves. I certainly couldn't, and I'm actually a teacher!

BreakingDad77 Wed 07-May-14 17:34:51

If you have the money and resources to make up the knowledge gaps I cant see why, though there is the socialisation aspect.

I only say this as I know someone who is doing it at the moment (badly/lazily) and they dont seem to take their kid anywhere to expand their mind, just drinking lots of coffee in coffee shops and watching netflix and the kids (children of the corn) weird.

LynetteScavo Wed 07-May-14 17:09:47

HE done well is brilliant....I've watched two people grow up HE, one from age 8, one from 11. One of these people had the opportunity to find what they loved doing and was able to do it almost as much as they wanted, and became the best in the country at it, and now makes a career out of it as well as having an excellent understanding of English and maths. The other person spent six years reading. Obviously they are very well read, but they have no qualifications are unemployed and have no plans to ever work.

explorelearningealing Wed 07-May-14 16:42:47

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cory Wed 06-Nov-13 09:27:20

I think it can work very well when both parent and child want it. But can be disastrous if it is enforced by one side only, or enforced by circumstances beyond the control of either.

Dd has had to do a lot of her education at home for medical reasons. She didn't want to be HE'ed, I did not want to be HE'ing. She missed her school, her teachers and her friends, I missed the job I love doing. She made it quite clear that she considered me a poor substitute for what she was missing, and while I hope I was more tactful- I did still miss my other life. Not a happy situation. She is now back in fulltime education and I am back doing what I was meant to do. Both much happier.

middleclassdystopia Tue 05-Nov-13 20:28:09

I too think it's a bit arrogant to assume you can do better than school.

I can understand people who HE because of problems such as bullying or school refusal. I'm a sahm and would do it for mine if it was the only way.

However for all the pupils school may have let down, it's helped others. School was my saviour. I had abusive parents but I was bright. I still remember the teachers that believed in and encouraged me, even though I had tough patches playing up etc.

csmart09 Mon 04-Nov-13 17:00:33

Hi my son turned 4 in August and started school in September. He is in the foundation year and is not getting on very well. His behaviour is bad and I have had many meetings with his teacher in the last 9 weeks complaining about him. He seems to be messing around at school as it is all new to him and I believe he is still a little young and this may cause him to not take it seriously. I have though about taking him out of school to homeschool him and wondered what other Mums though? Any advice?

exoticfruits Wed 24-Jul-13 13:27:33

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morethanpotatoprints Sun 04-Nov-12 21:29:11


We have found no difference in the social skills you mention, as dd does exactly as she did before, and has both H.ed and schooled friends.
I also worried about my/her ability to be able to work together, but no problems there yet shock it was my biggest fear as she can be stubborn smile
Finally, I don't work but know of many who do. Although I don't for one minute think it would be easy.
I think anybody who felt they needed to H.ed would find a way and have the necessary skills to do this as they would be doing it for their dc. I don't think its for everybody though.

morethanpotatoprints Sun 04-Nov-12 21:21:29


Thank you.

They are very close, I think the large gap has its advantages. The poor lad has been so busy until recently and often says he misses his siblings, especially dd as they change alot during this time. He intends to take her swimming and do time trials and ball skills with her. It will give me chance to catch up with some housework as I find this is a down side to H.ed. Or could be an advantage depending on your attitude to housework smile

amillionyears Sun 04-Nov-12 20:49:25

Thank you.
Your ds could be lovely for her in that regard.

girliefriend Sun 04-Nov-12 20:49:15

I have met a few mums recently who have decided to home ed. I can see that it has its advantages but for me the pros do not outweigh the cons. School is about a lot more than learning and the ability to mix with other children from a wide variety of backgrounds and make friends is in my mind a fundamental and essential skill.

Also my dd (age 6yo) will quite happily listen to her teacher and learn whilst at school whereas if I try and teach her anything she looks at me like I am insane and stops listening immediately grin

Lastly I guess you have to be in the privilaged position of not having to work and therefore having a supportive and well payed partner in order to be able to home ed. I'm a single parent so it would never be financially viable for me to do so.

morethanpotatoprints Sun 04-Nov-12 20:33:00



morethanpotatoprints Sun 04-Nov-12 20:31:58


Hello, you are so nice and supporting. smile Apart from the H.ed pages its not often to hear non judgemental comments [flowers]
Our dd is 8 would be y4, we have only just sterted H.ed in sept.
We have a park completely opposite our house and she does run ocassionally, but mostly we do science there as its great for Biology and living things. Unless it is completely throwing down I try to take her most days as she does do so many indoor activities and I hate the pasty look, smile. Our eldest ds 21 has just graduated with a sports coaching/ developing/ management degree and until now has been to busy to offer much support. However, he has just changed his job and will be able to encourage her now, which may be easier for him as she worships him. grin

amillionyears Sun 04-Nov-12 20:18:52

How old is you DD. I have gone back this thread half way,but I am not sure you have mentioned it.
I would persevere with sport. It doesnt have to be brutal[cant think of a better word for now].
And outdoors, if she is indoors a lot.
And doesnt have to be team sports, if she does other team stuff.
Just saying. Obviously it is all up to you.

morethanpotatoprints Sun 04-Nov-12 20:02:11

a million.

I don't mean completely led by her with subject, although I do agree mostly with what she decides. For example, she will try and evade maths, as she struggles. So instead of making it formal and risk her getting upset and learning nothing, I find ways she can learn and improve without her realising sometimes grin.
She does live in a culture where sport is encouraged as her 2 much older brothers play at county level. I think its more a time factor now, maybe she will want to do something when older.

exoticfruits Sun 04-Nov-12 19:32:36

You can't know that you want to do something if you don't know it exists!

amillionyears Sun 04-Nov-12 19:30:59

I would class dancing as part of sport fwiw.
I would hesitate by being wholely led by DD.
Sometimes,even as adults we dont know what we like until we try it.
Try her on all sorts I say, including different sports.
I am not a professional btw.

exoticfruits Sun 04-Nov-12 19:30:54

It is probably why I wouldn't get on with it-as the adult I think that I know what they need and so I would be the leader. They could have choice but only within certain limits. e.g. maths would be daily-swimming would never be optional.

morethanpotatoprints Sun 04-Nov-12 19:17:16


We tend not to do any sport with dd and she doesn't really show an interest. I don't really follow the national curriculum but find most of what dd learns and wants to do is compatable.
She does enjoy dancing and orchestra/ choir/ string ensemble so she does get the team work side of it. Obviously the dancing keeps her fit, as she attends classes 3 times per week. I'm not sure about the future as we are being led by dd at present, so will see what materialises.

amillionyears Sun 04-Nov-12 11:46:38

I would say to the people who HE, and only based on my limited experience, is not to forget sport and the outdoors.
One family who HE, literally forgot sport was on the national cirriculum for many years!
The families I have seen whom HE, either fell into the category of, to be blunt, not very well educated themselves,never liked school themselves, and really didnt have much of a clue about education full stop.
To the other extreme, of being very bright indeed, and top uni educated. Were very acedemic, very into books etc, but not ones for the outdoor life at all.

bruffin Sun 04-Nov-12 10:15:08

*morethan for 'weirdness' read a person who has the guts not to follow the herd.
I wouldnt agree, most children I know have their own personalities and dont follow the herd. My dd in particularly has friends of every type, from your blonde, makeup loving boxer (she even has pink boots for boxing) to her goth friends.
But saying that a perverse desire to be different is just as bad a following the crowd.

Other than SN I have yet to see a good reason to HE, without giving school a chance, that isnt really a parent satisfying their own ego.

ppeatfruit Sun 04-Nov-12 09:44:54

morethan for 'weirdness' read a person who has the guts not to follow the herd. It takes courage I can tell you but all our DCs are thankful that we've been on their side.

That is not to suggest that you're a member of the 'herd' of course gingergrin

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