DD is 3.4 and for the last couple of years has been at home with me after a disastrous 6 months at nursery (I went back to work pg with DS so she was only there for 6m but it was awful). This September she became eligible for her 15 free nursery hours a week and there's a lovely nursery school just around the corner attached to the primary school for which we're in the catchment area. So she started there a few weeks ago, and the first couple of weeks were fine. The last few days, however, she's been saying she didn't want to go, though was fine when we got there and I handed her over to one of the staff.
This morning though, a completely different story - screaming and crying hysterically when we got through the door, clinging on to me as hard as she could. I couldn't talk her down from it, or calm her in any way. In the end I handed her to one of the staff and after peeling her off me I walked away. I've never been so close to crying myself, it felt like an awful betrayal. I could see through the doors as well (she couldn't see me) and for at least five minutes she was still crying hysterically. I had to leave at that point because DS was yelling for me from the buggy (and it was 'parents-out' time).
The thing is, she doesn't have to go - it's not proper school, and I'm working as a childminder at the moment so she could be at home with me. But I don't know whether to basically force her to go, or whether to be guided by her obvious distress and leave it for a while.
I asked the school if she could go for fewer days, because I thought it was a lot to go from nothing to five days a week but they weren't keen. Though I'm sure if I just said 'she's only coming for three days a week' they'd have to accept it.
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Am I being precious or am I pushing her to do something she's not ready for?
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ZuleikaD · 03/10/2012 10:01
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