Wondering if anyone has some advice I could use; feeling pretty crappy just now.
Yesterday I lost my temper with my little girl. She's 4 and a half. It's rare for this to happen - on the whole I'd say I'm reasonably calm - but it seems to be getting more frequent lately, and yesterday was in a league of it's own. I'm so appalled by what I did that I just can't think about anything else or concentrate on my work.
It started with her screaming and shouting (she was tired), and then throwing all the toys and games that I'd just spent an entire day sorting out onto the floor. Within minutes, a lot of what I'd painstakingly tidied was all over the place. I could feel the anger rising and told myself to stay calm, but even though I warned her quietly a few times, eventually something just snapped. I dragged her kicking and screaming upstairs and put her in her room; I knew holding her arms was probably hurting her but I didn't care. She came back downstairs and carried on throwing things and I smacked her on the bottom - something I've never done before - and then just started to scream and yell at her. My voice sounded awful, like some kind of crazy shriek, but I couldn't stop. She was literally shaking with fear and I tried to drag her back upstairs. I was acting like an absolute lunatic.
When my husband came in he did his usual 'good cop' thing. To his credit, he didn't cuddle her/spoil her/criticise me infront of her as he has sometimes done, but he was so calm and reassuring that it just compounded my feeling that he's this lovely, chilled-out dad and I'm an evil, twisted bitch with no control over my behaviour. I'm absolutely terrified of my own anger and I can't bear the idea that this might happen again. I was in floods afterwards and all I could keep saying was 'I'm not normal, I'm not normal, something's wrong with me.' I feel like the worst mother in the world and can't shake the memory of actually wanting to hurt her. She's just the most gorgeous little girl and I adore her but in that moment I felt possessed and completely unable to cope.
Any advice would be massively appreciated - I half feel like walking into a police station and announcing that I am Fundamentally Wrong In The Head and should be put away.
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I keep losing my temper
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southernfairy · 01/10/2012 14:11
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