Broken hearted over my DS

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DistressedMumHELP Wed 29-Aug-12 22:09:20

Okay, i want help and reassurance really. I have name changed for this in case anyone recognises me. I was stopped and asked for an account of events yesterday after witnessing an altercation and the police officer noticed the bruise on my little boys cheek. Which i explained was where he had fallen in between the step and bench in my garden, they then noticed he has bruises on his legs around his knees, so eventually they arrested me on suspicion of ABH. I was of course a mess, but i was told at the time that it was procedure etc, so i was compliant with them, Last night i got released on police bail and was of course expecting my little boy back, but today after seeing social services they have said i cant have him returned to me. I am heart broken, i have never hurt my child on purpose, and i look after him as best as possible. Originally they were saying he didnt talk, but today in front of the social worker he was talking, and i am trying to explain that he gets shy about talking, when they say he is friendly etc. They went through all my history and i have been as open as possible with them, and i dont know what to do. They want to keep him in care and are applying for a court order on friday to do so. I plan on seeing a solicitor tomorrow, the only reason i didnt today was because i didnt leave the social services until half 5 so no where was open.

I NEED A HUG. I PROMISE I WOULD NEVER HURT HIM AND FEEL THAT JUST A FEW BRUISES HAVE TAKEN MY SON FROM ME. sad sad sad

I want him home. Does anyone have any experiences? How long will it take? They said they couldnt say,

MadgeHarvey Wed 29-Aug-12 22:15:32

Sorry - there just HAS to be more to this. You don't get arrested and have your child taken away by a random copper checking an unrelated incident because the child has a few random child-typical injuries. You just don't. So tell us the rest of it and help us make sense of it.

TellyBug Wed 29-Aug-12 22:17:17

What's your history, OP? You say they talked about it?

thebeesnees79 Wed 29-Aug-12 22:17:23

what grounds are they keeping him on? just bruises? do they have evidence of anything? It seems very extreme for social services to act like this without any evidence at all. My nephew was take into care after 6 years of me and my family telling social service he was being neglected etc, its very very hard to take a child away from its mother.

MrsKeithRichards Wed 29-Aug-12 22:17:28

There has to be more to this.

What was the altercation you witnessed?

OHforDUCKScake Wed 29-Aug-12 22:17:38

WSS. My sons have bruises on their knees or elbows all the time, children do. Children dont get taken away for that.

WorraLiberty Wed 29-Aug-12 22:18:36

My goodness if they normally arrested the parents of bruised children willy nilly, I would've spent the last 20yrs in prison confused

Is there anything else you've left out OP?

Any other history?

NameChangeGalore Wed 29-Aug-12 22:20:02

i have never hurt my child on purpose

But he HAS been hurt by you accidentally on more than one occasion?

You're missing out a whole chunk in your story OP.

scurryfunge Wed 29-Aug-12 22:20:16

OP, I don't think it is prudent to discuss any on going investigation on the Internet. Seek legal advice.

thebeesnees79 Wed 29-Aug-12 22:20:18

I agree with ohforduckscake. my little one had a black eye from a trampoline accident and nothing was investigated.

JumpingThroughMoreHoops Wed 29-Aug-12 22:20:24

I realise you are quite muddled at the moment and you are awfully upset, but after an altercation etc, which to me sounds like a fight, either public or DV, the police were called and spotted bruising on your child.

Was the child examined by a doctor? go to hospital?

They went through all my history and i have been as open as possible with them

To go through your history, you must have a history.

SS don;'t take away a child for nothing. You may not have cause bruising - did someone else in the house?

so eventually they arrested me on suspicion of ABH really? just being a witness to this altercation?

usualsuspect Wed 29-Aug-12 22:20:56

How odd. There must be a back story.

WildWorld2004 Wed 29-Aug-12 22:22:12

Of fuck id better hide my 8 year old in the cupboard then. Shes always got bruises & she never knows where they come from.hmm

There has to be more to this story.

FunnysInLaJardin Wed 29-Aug-12 22:23:23

OP sorry you are sad, but as others have said there must be more to this than you have said. My DS's have bruises all the time, but no random police officer has ever had them taken into care.

Hope you are OK and can come back with more info.

Svrider Wed 29-Aug-12 22:23:33

I'm sorry you are going thru this
Do you have access to a solicitor eg thru a union??
Start making notes of who has said what, where and when
Ask if ds can be handed over to any other member of family, short term
Do not, not, not sign anything about signing ds to any foster carer
Good luck

greenplastictrees Wed 29-Aug-12 22:23:39

OP - firstly I'm sorry this has happened and I hope you re ok. Start from the beginning. What were was the incident you witnessed? How did they come to be looki at your son in association with this? What's the history?

Hope you are ok.

lovebunny Wed 29-Aug-12 22:24:02

i'm sorry that you and your child are in this position, no matter what led to it.

janey68 Wed 29-Aug-12 22:24:37

If this is genuine and there is an ongoing investigation then I agree- seek proper advice. No one can give you answers on here. We don't know the history and none of us can give you reassurances of anything .

larks35 Wed 29-Aug-12 22:24:54

What was this altercation you witnessed? Am sorry you are sad but I also struggle to believe a policeman will notice bruises on a child and arrest you and have the child taken into care without there being more of a backstory to it.

DistressedMumHELP Wed 29-Aug-12 22:25:34

He has a bruise on his arm from me grabbing him to stop him going into the road, and a few around his knees, the one on his cheek and apparently a few other little ones.
I was with a friend and someone was racist towards them, they mouthed off <i know stupid> he then followed us down the road to the bus stop saying that he would slice us and kill me and my kid <they assume my little boy was the person i was with's kid> He isnt.
I was in an abusive relationship and suffered severe post natal depression which i was open with to the police and said i was taking medication for it.
They took him away whilst i was arrested, apparently he is under developed <because he wouldnt talk in front of the paediatrician, but he did in front of the social worker today, which i put down to being confused and scared, mummy gone, and then police and social workers and someone poking you would scare the hell out of me>
He also has a little bruise on his back from climbing out the high chair or trying to anyway.
I know the bruises look bad and he is honestly not normally has many, it is normally only his knees, but it feels like because of my PND he is being treated differently. The police said it was just checks. His cheek does look quite bad I have to admit.
I have never been in trouble with the police before and even when diagnosed with PND, I never ever would have hurt him.

LucieMay Wed 29-Aug-12 22:25:47

My six year old ds has been covered in bruises since he could walk, he is spiderman in boy form and is always climbing stuff and hurting himself. He even ended up with a cut on his face and a faint black eye the other week, I got some garbled story involving stones! His injuries have been seen by everyone's nursery, school, hospital, gp, health visitor and all sorts and no one has ever hinted at anything untoward involving me! Abh seems a very serious charge for a few typical boy bruises! There must be more to it!

midori1999 Wed 29-Aug-12 22:26:05

Yes, I agree with lovebunny. I hope your son is OK. sad

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Wed 29-Aug-12 22:26:37

Op if you can tell the whole story as people will be able to help you a lot better with all the facts.

DistressedMumHELP Wed 29-Aug-12 22:26:51

They noticed him after the incident was sorted with no further action, and his bruise on his cheek is quite obvious.

DistressedMumHELP Wed 29-Aug-12 22:28:42

My Little Boy is never hurt on purpose but if he is falling and i can grab him to save him hitting his head or running towards a road i grab him without thinking to stop him getting hurt.

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