DH and I have been TERRIBLE parents today ...

[ghosty]

Forgive me Mumsnet for I have sinned! I need to get this off my chest and need someone to tell me to do some hail marys or something!

DH and I went to his work christmas 'do' last night. Had a great time ... drank silly amounts of wine topped up with vodka and a tequila thrown in somewhere there too [green sick looking emoticon]
Got home at 3am (great babysitter who I think, in our pissed state, we grossly overpaid). Fell into drunken comas at about 3.07am and then were woken at 6.30am by DD.
We have been useless all day ... DH got up and gave them breakfast while I had a shower (this is our normal routine) but by 7.15 we were both back in bed groaning while the kids watched TV.
We stayed in this state till 10.30am, taking it in turns to run to the bathroom, then finally got the children dressed. Put them in the car and went down to the local shopping centre where we shuffled around for an hour and I began salivating for a Burger King .... eeeeeeeeeeuuwwww! Made my children eat burgers and chips.
Drove carefully back home, put DD to bed at 1pm. Put the computer on for DS and then both of us WENT BACK TO BED AND WENT TO SLEEP while DD slept and DS spent at least 2 hours on the computer ... the shame, the shame
When I dragged myself up at 3.30 DS was playing quietly in his room ... 'puter off ... I asked him what happened and he said he had had enough of it ... THAT HAS NEVER EVER HAPPENED ... I feel so bad ... I made him spend all that time on it that he actually got bored with it!
Since then DH and I have shuffled around ... eating chocolate and drinking tea asking them to be quiet ... I couldn't face cooking them dinner so they got last night's left overs heated up ...
Won't be bathing them either as they haven't done anything today and so are still clean from last night.

We are terrible parents ...

I am never ever ever drinking again ....

And certainly can't do tandem hangover with DH again ....

Will I ever forgive myself??

[Auntybrandybutter]

Look on the bright side you may have cured your son of an unhealthy computer habit!!!

[bobbybobbobbingalong]

I think on reflection that your children had a better day than you did.

Baby sitter was the big winner - how much did she get?

[TheholyGHOSTY]

ahem ... [whispers to bobbybob] $90

[TheholyGHOSTY]

AuntyBrandyButter ...

You must know that normally I am a perfect parent. DS plays on the computer for half an hour at a time once a day or maybe once every two days ...
[halo emoticon]

[bobbybobbobbingalong]

Bloomin eck! I'd have come and done it for that.

[carla]

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[Auntybrandybutter]

petty the siter couldnt saty over and watch them for the day!!!

[bourneville]

ghosty, god don't beat yourself up!!
I am a single mum with a boyf so it is a necessity that I go out late now & then with him & his mates as that is part of our relationship. (I have very good friends who stay over for me so i can get back when i like free of charge. Or, a couple of times dd's grandparents have looked after her overnight so i don't have to get up the next day which is fantastic!). So I have had quite a few days like that in the last year - minus the going out at all the next day (v impressed with that)!!
dd seems to be v happy to have us lazing around watching films, and to eat her meals at her little table instead of strapped in at the big table, or to clamber all over us in bed, reading books etc. As someone said, the kids prob have a better time than you do and an better time than they usually do!

Guilt does come into it though, I feel bad whenever I'm not interacting wtih dd....oops....like now!
But you know, we're entitled to a life too and lazy days. As a full time mum, I would not cope if I couldn't treat myself to the odd lazy day. I even take a long hot bath sometimes while dd watches a video, popping in to talk to me and play with the bubbles now and then...I don't see anything wrong with that... the rest of the population get (usually) 2 days off a week to do what they like with, us parents get NONE!.

...oh dear...am I a little defensive? ....rant over!

[crimbocrazydazy]

Nope wouldn't feel guilty its Xmas after all. My works do is this coming Friday and we are going out from lunchtime. DP is meeting me at 4.00 and we are planning to stay out until 8.00ish and then head home in a drunken stupour. Fortunately the kids are being looked after overnight so we can have a small sleep in. Trouble is though its Xmas Eve the day after and we have got a very busy day ahead getting the kids presents ready. We have to build a bike and a toddler's motorbike so we have to be feeling quite but I know we will get drunk cos we know we haven't got the kids to come home to.

[santagotstuckOOPSthechimney]

lol at your day. Nope, not bad parents at all, just human.
Kids will probably laugh about it in years to come if they remember.
Now get an early night tonight and parent within an inch of their lives tomorrow

[TheholyGHOSTY]

We did have an early night (in bed by 9.30pm) and slept like logs till the kids got up this morning. We then spent an hour in bed watching telly and reading stories and being very attentive to our poor children.
DH has spent the morning playing with DD and DS and I have been out xmas shopping ... just had a nice family lunch ... so we are much better parents today ... although we are still shattered.

I can't believe how long it takes these days to get over a big night out. Remember those days when you could go out Thursday night, Friday night AND Saturday night, drink vasts amounts of alcohol and still be bright eyed for work on Monday? I think it is going to take us a good week to recover from just one night of excess!

[TheFish]

lollolol at you

[ParrupupumScum]

Brilliant. Glad your night out was so fab.

[TheFish]

yes i htink tis great to be crpa

[BourneInAMangerVille]

Agree kama.
Also echo about recovery time. a while ago when I was still suffering a week after a night out my boyf got concerned that there was something wrong with me. "I'm a mum, that's just the way it is!" says i!