mums and sons

[dexter]

Has anyone else noticed the prejudice there seems to be nowadays in favour of having a girl? I've read articles lately in which people state that 'every woman wants a daughter' and numerous articles over the months have appeared in magazines looking at 'mothers and daughters' and their relationships. Maybe I've missed them but I've not seen a similar article celebrating mothers and sons and their unique relationships. I'm extremely close to my mother so I am not denying the special relationships there are - but I have a son and I feel that there really is a magical bond between mother and son, he is heavenly, adorable, and glorious. I don't feel there's enough out there about this! It's almost as if some people feel I must be disappointed to have a boy...anyone else sensed this or is it finally time they sectioned me? let me know, girls!!

[Lonelymum]

I haven't noticed this, but I was never particularly fussed about having a girl, possibly because my relationship with my mother is not a good as my relationship with my father. I would certainly say we do not have a "mother and daughter thing" going.

I have three sons and one daughter and that is the best ratio for me. One daughter to experience the girly stuff, but all the rest boys. Great.

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[Lonelymum]

No? Really?

[Gobblediguy]

Well I'm not disappointed - I've got 3 boys and they are the light of my life - I wouldn't swap them for any girl!

I know what you mean about the articles but earlier this year there was one in Good Housekeeping or Woman and Home (can't remember) about mothers and sons - i was gutted cos I missed it but I saw a letter about it inthe following edition saying how refreshing it was.

Wish I coudl get hold of it actually - might google and see if I can...

[auntymandy]

no!
I always said I would have 10 boys to 1 girl.
I have 4 boys and 1 girl...stopped now though!
But I must say I felt relief when no5 was a boy!!!

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[colditz]

Yes I am pregnant with second child, and everyone is saying to me "Oh, I bet you're hoping for a girl! Two boys "

Actually, no, I'm not hoping for a girl at all. It would be nice for a change, but the comradery (sp?) of two boys is a beautiful thing!

The only people, I find, who think I would be disappointed with another boy are people who have only had girls. People who have had both so that both boys and girls have their charms.

It's not only clean and articulate children who are adorable anyway (and this seems to be the principle charm of girls) - sometimes the grubby and just plain noisy has a charm in itself.

[auntymandy]

do you write in your own code cod!!
Made it out but wasnt sure if you were genuine or having a go!

[highlander]

I think you'll find most of these 'parenting' magazines talk shite most of the time.

[flamesparrow]

I'm getting it the other way round - far too many comments of "You must be wanting a boy this time"

Why? Is one of each so important to people?? I'm not particularly fussed either way... the only thing that does cross my mind is that I know what I'm doing with girls, what with already having one.

[Mum2girls]

My mum was always closer to my brother than me - that's just how it was.

Thought this was going to be a post about the special mother/son relationship.

I was convinced I'd always end up with 2 boys meself.

As has been said, you get what you're given.

[Gobbledigook]

Maybe it's just somethign to say. It did piss me off though when in Tesco, pg with 2 ds's in the trolly - the number of people telling me I must want a girl. Someone was dangerously close to a smack in the mouth!

[auntymandy]

I would be happy with either, buti do think boys are easier. I hate it when people say you must be wanting.......
Its a baby/child you want isnt it not a certain 'type'!!!!

[Gobbledigook]

Boys are easier?? Jeez are you joking!!!! ALl my friends girls will sit and colour or write or watch a film! None of my boys will - they like to climb, run and generally cause havoc!

I think girls might cause stress when older - I'm glad I won't have an 8 yr old wanting to wear teenage clothes!

[colditz]

Yes, questions like "Do you know what you're having? What are you hoping for?"

A pony, actually, but I suppose I won't be too upset if it's a baby.

[flamesparrow]

I'm getting most sick of "do you know what the sex is?" - and when I say no... "why not?" - there are only two answers, neither are interesting - they either kept their legs crossed, or we didn't want to know, which always leads to a very accusing sounding "Why not???"

And Yes, I know I'm stroppy and hormonal.

[flamesparrow]

I'd like a girl that is happy to sit and colour, rather than run and climb DD has been a tomboy from birth!

[auntymandy]

boys are up front. girls sneak!!!IMO!!

[highlander]

PMSL Colditz When my mum was preggers with DS she said to my sister, 'what would you like mum to have?'. Sister replied, 'a litter of Siamese kittens'

[Bozza]

I do find these threads about girls and boys outside of my experience. I have a girl - she will not sit and watch TV, if you get up from laying on the floor she has a strop because she was enjoying climbing over you, she hits her brother, she tries to carry large items around the house that she obviously can't manage. Her brother did none of this apart from the not watching TV. But she is not a tomboy.

[Gobbledigook]

You're right bozza - they are all different and there are exceptions. I know some boys that sit and colour too and are quite reserved. Just not mine!

[flamesparrow]

I think tomboy is the wrong term for my DD too... she loves pink and sparkly things, she loves Fifi and the Flowertots, but she also likes climbing, building and mud

[suzywong]

I love my boys
love 'em, love 'em, love 'em
Should really change my chatname to Violet Kray

[Holymoly321]

When I found out I was pregnant, a lot of people assumed I wanted a girl. TBH, I thought I did want a girl - it felt that it was expected, and when I found out during a scan that it was a boy, I was a bit disapointed - although DH was of course over the moon! However, as the pregnancy went on, I became more and more excited about having a boy - and now that he's here (7weeks) I can honestly say that the minute he was born I was over the moon about having a boy. I can't imagine having a girl. Maybe this is something to do with the fact that I was a Tomboy when I was young, but I can't wait to have lots of physical and emotional fun with my son, playing football, climbing trees etc. I'm totally not a 'pink girlie' person and I did start resenting people almost pitying me for having a boy! Ridiculous! Yes, it may be nice to have a girl next time round so that we have one of each, but as long as the child is happy and healthy I really won't mind what it is.

[Bozza]

Flamesparrow sounds like my DD. She comes and attacks me when I am sat at my dressing table because she wants to sit on my knee and how dare I start without her!

I think DD is just more physically daring and able than DS who is physically quite cautious although not what I would call reserved.