OMG !!! Guess what I've just found!!!???

(618 Posts)
Leigh1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 18:14:47

I've name changed due to my partner knowing my username hee hee!!

I've just found a very dainty petit diamond ring on the bedside table (his side). We only have one. This also holds my make up and bits 'n bobs.

We've only been together and living together for four months but we both know we ate meant for each other.

What do I do? Do I ask him about it? Wait for him to bring it up? It's basically sitting on top behind my little clock. Do you think it's meant for me? I've no idea when he could have purchased it either. So confused but also so excited. I'm to nervous to bring it up, but maybe he is nervous too and hoping I'd see it and bring it up myself. Aaaahhhh!!! Do you think it's an engagement ring!? We're both so in love with each other!!

Need your wisdom and experience :-)9

Portofino Sat 13-Jul-13 18:23:30

Is it a box?

Portofino Sat 13-Jul-13 18:23:41

In a box?

Calamitykate Sat 13-Jul-13 18:26:27

Sounds like he's found it somewhere and assumed its yours.

Otherwise it's the least romantic proposal ever....

EmpireBiscuit Sat 13-Jul-13 18:26:43

Was it sort of hidden behind your clock, or meant to be found?

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Leigh1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 18:28:32

Nope not in a box. Just lying there by itself lol. He couldn't have found it anywhere as I don't really have friends etc who could've left it there. I'm thinking he's nervous and hoping if mention it. I don't know !! Lol

Leigh1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 18:29:43

It was lying just behind the click in full view but I've pretended I've not noticed it.

What BeerTricks said. Just ask him and take it from there.

SkinnyDecaffGiraffe Sat 13-Jul-13 18:30:00

Ask him. If it was hidden it was hidden badly!!

Pancakeflipper Sat 13-Jul-13 18:31:22

Ask him if knows what this is?

But not until you have chilled the champers.

Leigh1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 18:31:32

I'm nervous to ask him, invade its nothing. I want him to bring it up first. This is so annoying though. It's been there for two days already!

Leigh1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 18:32:57

Sorry incas not invade. I've got predictable text on lol :-D

CalamityJones Sat 13-Jul-13 18:33:42

Has he been acting like a man with a secret? It's kind of vague for a proposal..

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Do you like it? Does it fit?

Jojobump1986 Sat 13-Jul-13 18:37:31

Don't say anything, just start wearing it! grin

Leigh1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 18:37:52

I haven't tried it on yet as I'm scared it gets stuck lol. He's a very different guy, he is so sensitive I've had to console him for a whole week as he doesn't stop crying. He says its tears of joy. Every time I tell him how in love I am with him he starts crying!!! I'm not used to such an emotional man to be fair but he's so loving and gentle and the sweetest guy you'd ever meet!

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Leigh1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 18:41:19

Give him a box of hankies before you ask him.

Ha haaaa!!! I've said to him I hate what he'd be like on our wedding day!!! He reminds me of the guy in the move "Bedazzled" where he cries over sunsets

Leigh1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 18:42:45

To answer one of the questions, yes I love it, it's beautiful :-).

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Sat 13-Jul-13 18:43:28

Ooh how exciting! {shamelessly marks place)

Portofino Sat 13-Jul-13 18:45:30

I'd be suspicious it was left there by someone else. But I am cynical cow.

Portofino Sat 13-Jul-13 18:45:54

Box, ok. No box -odd.

Leigh1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 18:46:42

Thanks Neo, I'm planning on giving him a romantic supper tonight and will hint like crazy!

500internalerror Sat 13-Jul-13 18:48:02

I've got a feeling that this wont end well hmm

perplexedpirate Sat 13-Jul-13 18:49:02

Why do think there is more to this?

Leigh1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 18:49:48

I haven't got friends who visit so there's no way it could've been left there. Oooh I'm so confused!

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Leigh1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 18:50:56

Sorry I don't understand 500. What did I do wrong?

BOF Sat 13-Jul-13 18:51:14

He sounds a right softie, lol.

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ItStartedInRome Sat 13-Jul-13 18:52:36

Sorry OP but I'm with 500internalerror. Surely you wouldn't take a new engagement ring (or for that matter any gift of jewellery) out of the box it came in. You certainly wouldn't leave it lying on a bedside table without a box. I really hope I'm wrong and you get the question you're hoping for.

Plus3 Sat 13-Jul-13 18:52:38

Put the man out of his misery! If it has been there for 2 days in plain view, then he might be worried to why you haven't said anything!

not going to say anything negative at this point

Flojobunny Sat 13-Jul-13 18:52:43

I would be suspicious. No box isn't right. I would think OW had left it.

500internalerror Sat 13-Jul-13 18:53:01

A ring without a box, left partially unseen on a bedside table for 2 days? Like it was left there by accident by someone. Sorry, but my gut feeling isn't good. Even if its meant for the op, why keep it loose instead of in a box or even a bit of tissue paper?

Leigh1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 18:53:31

Yeah he's a real softie! He's a chef but also cooks for the homeless as a volunteer!

Leigh1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 18:54:45

I'm at Hume 24/7 as I work from home so there would be no way another woman could come in without me noticing lol.

RobotBananas Sat 13-Jul-13 18:54:53

Just ask him! smile

Leigh1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 18:55:10

Home not Hume- damn phone

If you've just found it, how do you know it's been there for two days? Sorry if I sound overly suspicious.

Carolra Sat 13-Jul-13 18:55:33

Does it look like an engagement ring?! Is it a solitaire?

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Pancakeflipper Sat 13-Jul-13 18:56:37

If its been there for a couple of days hide it and see if he ransacks the house.

cannot be arsed with hint dropping, if leaving the ring is a hint and then you start hinting, then it's lots of hints.. Just bloody ask him. Oooh rant over!

DuchessFanny Sat 13-Jul-13 18:56:40

This could go on for days ... Ask him !!

Ask him!! Come on, I have to pop out soon and would like to know when I get back, ok!?!

JumpingJackSprat Sat 13-Jul-13 18:56:57

Just ask him and put yourself out of your misery!!

Geordieminx Sat 13-Jul-13 18:57:35

Just ask him already!!!

Leigh1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 18:57:55

I saw it lying there yesterday but didnt think anything of it as its so dainty it looks like a small wire. Only today when I picked it up did I see the diamonds.

Yeah, just ask.

DiaryOfAWimpyMum Sat 13-Jul-13 18:58:19

Hmmm maybe tell him you have found it. [unhelpful]

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Leigh1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 18:58:26

He's at work now so can't ask him just yet!

Wishfulmakeupping Sat 13-Jul-13 18:58:45

I hope I'm wrong but I've got a bad feeling about this too- no box is the key.
I do hope it is an engagement ring for you OP

Or put it on, and run at him shrieking "yes, of course I will" and gauge the look on his face.

garlicsmutty Sat 13-Jul-13 18:59:09

Ummm, you've not been together very long and living together four months. You are already talking about your wedding day. He cries for no reason. You've found unexplained jewellery.
hmm hmm hmm hmm

But it's a lovely sunny evening, and I don't want to piss on anyone's barbecue. So ... OOOH, OP, how exciting!!! smile Wear it! See if he notices! Fingers crossed for you! grin


HystericalParoxysm Sat 13-Jul-13 18:59:34

I'm not sure this will end well. When's he home, OP?

Ah. Thanks. I was confused. I still think you should just ask him. I wish you luck.

Portofino Sat 13-Jul-13 18:59:58

Do you NEVER leave the house? Shopping? PO? School run?

ImNotBloody14 Sat 13-Jul-13 19:00:35

It could be a family ring- would explain no box and perhaps the daintyness of it if it is old

Portofino Sat 13-Jul-13 19:02:10

IS it old OP? If it was that dainty it looked like wire, I would be thinking "cheapskate"

Secretswitch Sat 13-Jul-13 19:02:19

Ohh Leigh, I do hope this turns out to be what you wished for. You sound young and in love smile Forgive those of us who have seen some things and know how relationships don't always end like fairy stories. Good luck sweetheart xx

garlicsmutty Sat 13-Jul-13 19:02:23

Oh, if it's dainty with five little diamonds in a cross shape, and he found it in Newman Street, W1 - it's mine! I lost it in 1987!

Leigh1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 19:02:45

Don't have kids and we do the shopping together.

Pancakeflipper Sat 13-Jul-13 19:03:09

You have to ask him.

Because if he then moves it and you don't see it again then you will always wonder about it.

Leigh1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 19:04:31

Nope not that young. I left my 10 year relationship for this man as we connected on such a big level. BTW I broke up with ex before pursuing this relationship. I'm 33

Portofino Sat 13-Jul-13 19:04:38

What time is he due home?

Carolra Sat 13-Jul-13 19:04:54

Hahaha garlicsmutty, I was just thinking the same thing. I lost a dainty gold ring with three tiny diamonds in it last week!! I'd love to know what this one looks like!!!

readyforno2 Sat 13-Jul-13 19:05:16

Ask him..
Best of luck

garlicsmutty Sat 13-Jul-13 19:05:55

Ooh, Carolra! Got to say yours is more likely to turn up on a Mumsnet thread in 2013 than mine smile

VivaLeBeaver Sat 13-Jul-13 19:06:16

Mmmmm, sorry I'd be with they cynical brigade on this one.

Hope I'm wrong.

Wouldn't you want to chose your own ring if you got engaged?

Leigh1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 19:07:25

He's coming home at 9pm when he finishes his shift.

Carolra Sat 13-Jul-13 19:08:22

I'd be dead chuffed if it is mine, I'm gutted I lost it (this is it in yellow gold in case anyone else happens to find a ring -

CajaDeLaMemoria Sat 13-Jul-13 19:08:24

You have to ask him! Maybe he's too shy to mention it so he left it for you to find?

Good luck! Let us know.

Secretswitch Sat 13-Jul-13 19:08:36

Please do let us know the outcome. A happy ending would be lovely.

Leigh1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 19:08:45

This a small white gold ring with a row of small diamonds on it.

Carolra Sat 13-Jul-13 19:10:38

Well definitely not mine (sob) but it does sound like an engagement ring. I think you have to ask him about it...!

WhistlingNun Sat 13-Jul-13 19:12:41

Too much sugar in this thread... especially after i've just devoured one of those MilkyBar deserts.

I just can't imagine anyone - even the shiest of people - proposing to their partner by leaving a ring loose on a bedside table for 2 days.

If he's a chef, maybe he's found it at work and popped it into his pocket for safe keeping? And now he's just forgotten about it since emptying his pockets?

Just ask him because i'm dying to know

Babouche Sat 13-Jul-13 19:14:43

Did he move in with you?Could he have found it in the flat and thought it was yours and just picked it up and put it with your things?
And my other thought was OW left it there..
Sorry,I'm a bit cynical too..
But I actually really hope it's an engagement ring for you!

Portofino Sat 13-Jul-13 19:14:52

The lack of box worries me, and the fact it is on the side. Found at work is a possibility....presumably you take jewellery off in the kitchen?

Mama1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 19:16:34

Really hope this turns out well!seems very odd. Think you have to ask op x

Portofino Sat 13-Jul-13 19:18:35

Where did you meet him, OP? Despite me being cynical I love a bit of romance.

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WhatWouldBeyonceDo Sat 13-Jul-13 19:21:31

I hope it is what you want it to be OP smile

Please come back and update us
<starts counting down to 9pm>

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Yes I have that ad. grin

Op you have to consider he found it at work. This seems likely to me. More than just abandoning it on the side.

BumgrapesofWrath Sat 13-Jul-13 19:22:18

Shamelessly marking my place!! Fingers crossed for you

Strangest way to propose if that is what it is.

Good luck though.

OrangeLily Sat 13-Jul-13 19:25:42

Oh god I want this to end well smile

I don't think it will confused

Maybe I've been reading too much MN threads but if I found a piece of Jewellery on my bedside table without a box I would be very very angry angry because who the hell would it therefore belong to hmm

It sounds more like a wedding ring smile

Hope it's what you think OP

AnneEyhtMeyer Sat 13-Jul-13 19:29:42

Hmmm... you've been together and living together 4 months, you never leave the house without him and he knows your MN username? I'm not sure marriage is a great idea.

My money is on him finding it at work.

DawnOfTheDee Sat 13-Jul-13 19:30:16

He's so nervous he can't bring himself to propose and 'hopes you mention it'. It's been left on the table for 2 days. He cries all the time. The ring is so thin you mistook it for a bit of wire. You never leave the house unless you're with him.

I'm assuming the film rights to this have already been snapped up...? wink

Ok...i'll stop being a horrible old cynic in case this is a proposal. Good luck OP....ask him and put us all out of our misery!

SisterMatic Sat 13-Jul-13 19:34:20

If he found it at work he shouldn't really have taken it maybe it is for you? Hope so!

HotCrossPun Sat 13-Jul-13 19:42:57

The fact it's not in a box is a bit odd.

I'm a bit hmm at all the veiled comments on here about your relationship/how much time you spend together etc.

I hope you are popping the champagne later OP. smile

WinningBread Sat 13-Jul-13 19:44:25

Does it have scratches on like a used ring would?

Definitely ask him. You owe it to us grin

WandaDoff Sat 13-Jul-13 19:50:44

Well, TV's always shite on Saturday nights anyway.

whattodoo Sat 13-Jul-13 19:53:34

It's an odd place for an OW to leave a diamond ring. Maybe I'm being naive, but I'm in the 'too shy to ask' camp.

BOF Sat 13-Jul-13 19:57:26

I very much doubt he has another woman. Then again, I very much doubt it's a proposal.

There'll be some simple explanation.

Marking my place for the outcome.

Wear it and see what he says op.

KnittedC Sat 13-Jul-13 19:58:15

No box? Partially hidden? Near the bed??? Hmmm. Fingers crossed for you OP

Portofino Sat 13-Jul-13 20:01:40

It wasn't hidden though. Just on the side.

CaptainJamesTKirk Sat 13-Jul-13 20:03:13

It doesn't sound like a typical engagement ring and it lacks a box. It's not been hidden carefully. I wouldn't get your hopes up OP, I think it's unlikely to be a proposal for you.

I hope it's a proposal OP smile

NatashaBee Sat 13-Jul-13 20:03:57

Weird that its not in the box... Ask him before it drives you crazy!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Sat 13-Jul-13 20:04:02

So ask him already!!!

Ask him dammit! <impatient>

And bollocks to the naysayers. I was engaged to DH within 3 months and he told me he had been holding off for 'ages' because he thought I'd think it was too soon. We planned our wedding on our second date. Been together 15 years now.

LowLevelWhinging Sat 13-Jul-13 20:09:46

Don't get your hopes up OP, surprise engagements don't usually start with an unboxed ring left on the bedside table.

Hope I'm wrong.

I hope it's good news...

Jaynebxl Sat 13-Jul-13 20:13:06

Maybe not in a box cos it's a family heirloom?

FattyMcChubster Sat 13-Jul-13 20:13:11

I'm more concerned about why he cries so much hmm

CaptainJamesTKirk Sat 13-Jul-13 20:14:56

'he cries all the time'... Well that's rather odd. What does he cry about? How did his previous relationship end?

FattyMcChubster Sat 13-Jul-13 20:15:01

Jayne if it was, surely you'd not just leave it lying around would you?

Hope it's good news smile
Possibly found at work tho and forgot to put it in the safe.

TheFutureMrsB Sat 13-Jul-13 20:32:40

He could have found it anywhere, doesn't have to have been found at home, he prob had it in his pocket and plonked it on the side when he realised.

Why does he cry so much?

Fingers crossed for your proposal but I wouldn't get too excited just yet x

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Sat 13-Jul-13 20:33:24

He's back at 9.00 the OP says....we'll just have to be patient.

{Drums fingers}

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ButchCassidy Sat 13-Jul-13 20:36:39

Fingers crossed OPsmile

FattyMcChubster Sat 13-Jul-13 20:37:04

Beer there's a difference between a man who shows his emotions and a man who spends a week crying and cries every time op says she loves him.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Sat 13-Jul-13 20:38:12

I know Beer. My DH cries easily too...he's just that way inclined. I do think things are changing DD is coming up 9 and according to her, the boys in her class cry more than the girls. She thinks it's fine...she says "Boys seem to get more upset but their friends make them feel ok again." Bless!

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redacted Sat 13-Jul-13 20:45:55

There's showing your emotions and there's crying all the time...

therumoursaretrue Sat 13-Jul-13 20:45:56

Hoping for a nice outcome for you OP!

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Mama1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 20:46:34

Hoping for good news....

StrawberryMojito Sat 13-Jul-13 20:48:03

Obviously you know him and we don't but I'd be amazed if this was a proposal. I think he's found the ring somewhere, assumed its yours and put it down with your stuff. He's probably not given it another thought and will shit himself when he realises that you think he's proposed.

bico Sat 13-Jul-13 20:48:52

All sounds a bit quick if it is a proposal but then I wouldn't move in with someone that I'd just started dating (which it seems the OP did if they have been dating and living together for four months). What's the rush?

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VitoCorleone Sat 13-Jul-13 20:58:44

Oooh i hope we find out!

lurcherlover Sat 13-Jul-13 20:59:39

If he'd bought it new or from an antique jewellers, either way it'd come in a box. And if he's the hopelessly romantic type, he'd have hidden it and planned a big dramatic proposal. Sorry op but I don't think it's a proposal.

If he found it at work though, why bring it home? Wouldn't you leave it there in case someone claimed it?

What a bunch of miseries. Alright it might not be a proposal but if it is, way to piss on someone's chips.

makingdoo Sat 13-Jul-13 21:07:28

Oh he should be home now! I need this to end well so today has not been a total shit.

Patiently waiting OP grin

absentmindeddooooodles Sat 13-Jul-13 21:22:54

Place marking. Lol neeeeed to see how this one turns out.

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Sat 13-Jul-13 21:26:55

I think innocent explanation. I hope it is a proposal for you though, OP.

Portofino Sat 13-Jul-13 21:27:19

It must be 9pm in uk now! Oh - op had planned romantic supper. It could be HOURS before we hear anything.

JRmumma Sat 13-Jul-13 21:29:13

Shamelessly marking place

MacaYoniandCheese Sat 13-Jul-13 21:30:53

Uh-Oh hmm.

quoteunquote Sat 13-Jul-13 21:33:15

If you want to marry him, why not ask him yourself?

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LittleMissGerardButlerfan Sat 13-Jul-13 21:34:49

<desperately refreshes thread hoping for an answer>

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HenriettaPye Sat 13-Jul-13 21:44:22

Well OP?? Are you engaged???

BumpAndGrind Sat 13-Jul-13 21:45:22

Doesn't sound like a proposal to me sad

Plus3 Sat 13-Jul-13 21:46:14

Actually I think strawberrymojito has it right.

toomanyfionas Sat 13-Jul-13 21:48:55

I think he found it and popped it on the side table, then forgot about it.

ExcuseTypos Sat 13-Jul-13 21:53:17

Oh I can't stand the suspense.

tingsandtings Sat 13-Jul-13 21:58:07


EeyoreIsh Sat 13-Jul-13 21:58:07

Oh I don't know what to think of this thread. I want to think the best, but why no box?

Pontouf Sat 13-Jul-13 21:59:20

OMG I have been looking at this thread every time it pops up in active convoys for and hour and a half! I need to go to bed (will need to bf DD in about 4 hours) but MUST know what's going on first!

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grin @ BeerTricks.

lotsofcheese Sat 13-Jul-13 22:12:43

The suspense is killing me!!

Leigh1980 Sat 13-Jul-13 22:17:43

Just a quick update! He's not home yet :-(. Still cooking up a storm at work. Will update ASAP. Anyways romantic dinner and table done :-)))). BTW took the plunge and tried it on, it fits perfectly :-)))

HotCrossPun Sat 13-Jul-13 22:20:02

What are you cooking OP?

The suspense is killing me, I can't imagine how you're feeling grin

SisterMatic Sat 13-Jul-13 22:20:13

I hope you get the outcome you want OP, good luck

Secretswitch Sat 13-Jul-13 22:20:17

Thank heavens it is only 5 pm in the US..I can be sat here for hours
I am hoping for a happy old and cynical though...
But one of my best friends at uni met a man, married him five weeks later, and have been together 20 years..

InsanelyBrainDeprived Sat 13-Jul-13 22:22:57

Mmmmmm.. Op id be suspicious too. Sorry but a new ring would usually be in a box.

But maybe he meant you to find it and keep you waiting.

WhistlingNun Sat 13-Jul-13 22:22:59

Aw, Leigh. I really really really hope it all ends in the way you want it to.

But - and I'm sorry for being a right misery guts - as i always say to DD, try not to get your hopes up too much if you won't be able to handle the disappointment of things going differently.

Nonetheless, have a lovely dinner smile

gaggiagirl Sat 13-Jul-13 22:23:31

Shameless place marking.

Oh dear.

Jux Sat 13-Jul-13 22:27:38

Place marking too!

Good luck.

MaMattoo Sat 13-Jul-13 22:32:59

Come on!! Spill!

Chippychop Sat 13-Jul-13 22:35:53

This is better than the rubbish tv tonight - shamelessly marking place grin

readyforno2 Sat 13-Jul-13 22:36:04

Best of luck op..

Gumps Sat 13-Jul-13 22:41:40

I literally feel sick with nerves for you but at the same time lo ecthe complete faith you have.

Gumps Sat 13-Jul-13 22:42:10

love the
Even my phone is nervous.

Glitterkitten24 Sat 13-Jul-13 22:42:27

Gah I'm up early tomorrow, I need to go to bed but am in suspense for an update! Come on OP!

chubbymomie2012 Sat 13-Jul-13 22:42:35

Shameless place marking :-)

trixymalixy Sat 13-Jul-13 22:42:53

Fingers crossed it's what you're hoping for

Victoria3012 Sat 13-Jul-13 22:45:20

I need to know the outcomesmile

CatsAndTheirPizza Sat 13-Jul-13 22:47:17

marking place smile

Rainbowinthesky Sat 13-Jul-13 22:49:19

Waiting too.

spongebobscardypants Sat 13-Jul-13 22:49:36

Hope all ends wrll

outingmyselfprobably Sat 13-Jul-13 22:50:26


Marks place

Cerisier Sat 13-Jul-13 22:51:48

Hope all ends well too!

Marking place

ShaggingZumbaStylee Sat 13-Jul-13 22:55:16

eaten yet?

onedev Sat 13-Jul-13 22:56:16

Good luck - hope it turns out how you want it to!

K8Middleton Sat 13-Jul-13 23:00:07

Has he been engaged before?

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BuwchBywiog Sat 13-Jul-13 23:05:56

marking place too! blush

HenriettaPye Sat 13-Jul-13 23:06:25


nuttyrachael Sat 13-Jul-13 23:06:25

Crikey, I registered just to post here! I came to mumsnet after a google search for a swollen leg caused by an insect bite linked to a thread here and after visiting I found this thread! The suspense is killing me! Fingers crossed it's good news to blow the cynics away!

Picturepuncture Sat 13-Jul-13 23:09:32

How's it going OP?

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picnicbasketcase Sat 13-Jul-13 23:10:12

The fact that it's not in a box and is just put down in a table would be bothering me. It doesn't sound very engagementy to me. I really hope you come back and update OP

chubbymomie2012 Sat 13-Jul-13 23:11:28

oh god gotta go to bed will check backin am. good luck op.

HenWithAttitude Sat 13-Jul-13 23:15:16

I clicked on this convinced the answer to the question was going to be a grey pube grin

nuttyrachael Sat 13-Jul-13 23:15:28

NB not meaning to hijack thread, just waiting with baited breath here, along with everyone else! But Beertricks my lower leg and ankle are quite a bit swollen and my foot is slightly numb. Got bitten yesterday evening and my shin is now pink and red and quite nasty looking. Taking antihistamines and antiseptic cream on my leg.

So come on Leigh! don't keep us waiting!!!!

BumbleChum Sat 13-Jul-13 23:17:02

Home yet?

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Secretswitch Sat 13-Jul-13 23:19:14

Leigh when you come back..hopefully as an engaged woman..could we puleeeeze have a piccy of the ring?

TwentyTinyToes Sat 13-Jul-13 23:28:09

Any news?

Still no news? hmm

redandblacks Sat 13-Jul-13 23:32:05

I'm baffled at your optimism given that you are no some sweet-sixteen honey by your own admission. If it were an engagement ring that belonged to one of his ancestors, what are the chances that it would fit perfectly? Do you have a cleaner? I do not understand why you would be sat at home every day 24/7 if you do not have childcare responsibilities and he works long hours. Are you Rapunzel up in her tower? Is this a wind-up thread?

PerchedOnMyPeddleStool Sat 13-Jul-13 23:34:06

What a load of old shit.

I hope it's good news.

I doubt very much it's another woman, but then I'm not a cynic.

I think either
a. he's too shy and he wants you to notice and know what it means and bring it up
b. he's found it somewhere and put it there to maybe give you as a present because nobody claimed it at work and forgot to mention it.

I hope good news comes of it though, OP! smile

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Fluffycloudland77 Sat 13-Jul-13 23:38:04

I need to know too.

KittieCat Sat 13-Jul-13 23:38:11

Place. Marked

GoingGoingGoth Sat 13-Jul-13 23:38:36

Marking place

redandblacks Sat 13-Jul-13 23:42:58

Have you ever seen bright lights in the sky coming towards your house OP while you are sitting in the bath? Those green ladies do get around.

redandblacks Sat 13-Jul-13 23:44:51

Everything about the OP, tone, language, feigned gormlessness, nah ....just nah

snala Sat 13-Jul-13 23:45:34

Marking place wink

tethersend Sat 13-Jul-13 23:45:49

I'm hot and tired and DD is awake.

I have no qualms about proclaiming this thread utter bollocks.

Delete me.


cherrycherry41 Sat 13-Jul-13 23:46:18

ooh how interesting! fingers crossed for you op!

Sparklysilversequins Sat 13-Jul-13 23:47:15

Why is everyone so excited about this extremely unlikely "engagement"? confused

MN always makes me laugh at how fluffy and hysterical everyone gets over a date with a new bloke or possible engagement and then piling with LTB! at the drop of a hat at the first sign of trouble.

Tbh OP a man who bursts into floods of tears whenever you use the L word will be coming up with a sickeningly overdone proposal when the time comes not just dumping it on the bedside table next to the empty coffee cups.

redandblacks Sat 13-Jul-13 23:49:10

treat 'em mean (2 posts), keep 'em keen (over 200 messages). I'd also say it's bollocks but since your forever boyfriend (of 4 months) is a chef I'd say it's bolleaux

Whitegrenache Sat 13-Jul-13 23:50:59

Marks place

Sparklysilversequins Sat 13-Jul-13 23:51:41

Am I the only one actively hoping that it is his bit on the side that's left it there?

redandblacks Sat 13-Jul-13 23:52:20

In the land of Oz, one of Dorothy's companions would burst into tears all the time ..

ALittleBitOfMagic Sat 13-Jul-13 23:54:34

Marking place.

RhondaJean Sat 13-Jul-13 23:55:22

Where's the op??????

Go on then. I'll bite. What's the craic op?

garlicsmutty Sat 13-Jul-13 23:57:48

Are you Rapunzel up in her tower?

Aha! OP is a princess trapped in a golden cage, bewitched by a terrible monster disguised as a chef. The ring, which was left to her by the Good Aunty, has been hidden away all these years by the Bad Aunties. It fits no-one but her. After pricking her finger on a nasty blister pack the other day, she accidentally let a drop of her royal blood fall on the bedside table where it morphed into the ring.

When she tries the ring on, one of two things will happen: A peculiar little man will appear out of nowhere, demanding that she complete various impossible tasks to regain her birthright, or the monster disguised as a chef will magically transform into a handsome prince, ready to whisk her away to his jewelled palace. The only thing that can go wrong with this story is if she whines about the ring being too little. That will cause the monster to reveal his true colours and she'll have to perform the impossible tasks anyway.

PelvicFloorClenchReminder Sun 14-Jul-13 00:01:52

There seem to be a lot of MNers (well, two..) disappearing after finding random things on tables recently.

At what point do we call in the professionals? I'm thinking either Mulder & Scully or Sapphire & Steel.

RhondaJean Sun 14-Jul-13 00:07:25

Who is the other one pelvic?

PelvicFloorClenchReminder Sun 14-Jul-13 00:09:10

Glad I'm not the only one waiting on two mysteries.

Futterby Sun 14-Jul-13 00:17:47

Shameless placemarking.

ZingWidge Sun 14-Jul-13 00:20:45


RhondaJean Sun 14-Jul-13 00:30:01

Wow Ta pelvic!

Secretswitch Sun 14-Jul-13 01:13:39

<sulks> I reckon it's past one by now..fairy tales really don't come true!

Pontouf Sun 14-Jul-13 01:35:12

Really? I am now up feeding DD and there 's still no answer. Beginning to feel like I've been had.....

Oh come on!! Desperate to know what happened.

SavoyCabbage Sun 14-Jul-13 04:48:32

Weirdest proposal ever. Leaving a ring on your bedside table.

Does he leave a loaf and some ham if he wants a sandwich?

readyforno2 Sun 14-Jul-13 06:03:57

Still no update?!

noelstudios Sun 14-Jul-13 06:52:46

I agree with those who think this is nonsense. Will I never learn not to read this detritus?

MirandaWest Sun 14-Jul-13 07:02:37

Made it to the end and nothing....

Ah well

GoofyIsACow Sun 14-Jul-13 07:07:57

just in case this isnt utter bollocks

chubbymomie2012 Sun 14-Jul-13 07:13:05

annoyed at myself for getting sucked in!!!

DoctorAnge Sun 14-Jul-13 07:13:30

This is crap

RobotBananas Sun 14-Jul-13 07:15:39

Oh FGS, still nothing?

TheFallenNinja Sun 14-Jul-13 07:32:58

Nothing? I read all this for nothing??smile

DeathMetalMum Sun 14-Jul-13 07:43:04

I thought ahh 10 pages must mean its been updated by now. Humph!

katydid02 Sun 14-Jul-13 07:47:42

No update..perhaps the OP has gone for a rest under a bridge somewhere?

Skintorama Sun 14-Jul-13 07:48:47

Hahaha at all this

MrsWolowitz Sun 14-Jul-13 08:05:41

I'm still hoping it was a proposal.

Sadly I think it was lies. All lies.


mummywantsaliedown Sun 14-Jul-13 08:13:09

Oh, come on! I thought there'd be some news!

Somermummy1 Sun 14-Jul-13 08:14:53

Why did I start reading this thread?!!

I can't believe she hasn't come back to update confused

QOD Sun 14-Jul-13 08:27:01

She can't update as she's in a police cell ... for slapping him silly when it turns out he found it on the pub floor

Sorry op only joking, hope it is for you but that is WAY weird. My dh is the most unromantic man in the world EVER and even we chose my slightly dodgy but we were 20 ring.

(Terrible innit)

MonParapluie Sun 14-Jul-13 08:28:09

Oh no, still no update?!

WhatWouldBeyonceDo Sun 14-Jul-13 08:33:36

Hurrrummpppphhhh it was a wind up obviously sad

CheerfulYank Sun 14-Jul-13 09:01:17

But I want to know. Hmmph.

DawnOfTheDee Sun 14-Jul-13 09:16:20

If the man cries when OP says she loves him, imagine what he's like if she did ask him and it was a proposal. My guess is he's on a drip in a&e due to boohooey induced dehydration.

Nothing? Am hoping at meant a good outcome. If it doesn't (and OP is real) then that would be sad.

Tortoise Sun 14-Jul-13 09:22:42

I'm so glad ops posts are highlighted, easy to look for updates!

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ThedementedPenguin Sun 14-Jul-13 09:33:14

Aw come on. Hurry up op

youarewinning Sun 14-Jul-13 09:35:43

Shamelessly (or not so!) marking place.

SisterMatic Sun 14-Jul-13 09:47:15

Why do I get the feeling she isn't coming back? .

picnicbasketcase Sun 14-Jul-13 09:49:59

Yep, I would now agree with those who called 'bobbins' on this thread. It would have been nice to get a conclusion though, even a made up one.

Yas1 Sun 14-Jul-13 09:50:41


DameDeepRedBetty Sun 14-Jul-13 09:53:57


Gingerandcocoa Sun 14-Jul-13 10:03:36

Can't believe I read it all the way and no update!

WhistlingNun Sun 14-Jul-13 10:16:14

I reckon the ring is now lodged somewhere the sun isn't shining, which has made Mr Chef cry even more...

onedev Sun 14-Jul-13 10:18:54

Haha Whistling! I do wonder what would make someone cry for a week though (other than bereavement / terminal illness / devastating life news etc)

Babouche Sun 14-Jul-13 10:26:04

He knows she's on MN.
I think she'll come back when he goes to work.

Helpyourself Sun 14-Jul-13 10:28:18

Poor OP
I hope the ring was for you.
Come back and let us know. flowers for you, whatever the outcome.

Wishfulmakeupping Sun 14-Jul-13 10:31:39

Come on OP we need to know

tethersend Sun 14-Jul-13 11:12:40

My money's on some horrific tragedy having befallen the BF...

Calamitykate Sun 14-Jul-13 11:13:55

On the off chance this is real - OP does he REALLY cry every time you tell him you love him? Blimey. It's one thing being sensitive but he sounds a complete daffodil. Couldn't be doing with that at all.

tethersend Sun 14-Jul-13 11:13:56

Sorry, not horrific. Dramatic.

PipkinsPal Sun 14-Jul-13 11:15:15

Calamitykate - a complete daffodil grin grin. Me neither.

CatsAndTheirPizza Sun 14-Jul-13 12:25:16

How can something as thin as a piece of cheese wire be thick enough to hold small diamonds? [pedant] I think we've been had.

Or maybe he was crying because he'd lost his dressing up ring

redandblacks Sun 14-Jul-13 12:43:41

He knows her mumsnet name because they are one and the same person. She never leaves the house without him (ever) because it depends whether he is conjuring up that one of his multiple personalities on a particular day. As for the wire ring, just ask Edward Lear ...piggywig stood with the ring at the end of his nose, except that she only saw the ring and failed to notice the pig (unless he is a Harvester chef in which case there would not be a lot of difference anyway.
I'm sorry I smelled a rat. This one was designed to run and run.

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 12:47:22

Hi everyone. Sorry he's always around lol. Yey!! It's the sweetest thing, I didn't ask him last night as be worked overtime and came home late. But this morning he woke me up with coffee and a single red rise and it had the ring on it. It's wasn't a proposal after all but an eternity ring and he gave me a speech saying how much I meant to him and what the meaning of love is. It was meant to be hidden lol.

He says "when I said I wanted to be with him, I opened the key to his heart and formed an eternal bond and this is what the ring represents." So not quite a proposal but still a token of his love and yes, he did cry lol!! I love him so much xxx. Thx guys for following this thread.

WhistlingNun Sun 14-Jul-13 12:50:54

Oh my!

Aren't you a bit pissed off about that lovely dinner going to waste though?

SisterMatic Sun 14-Jul-13 12:52:20

He is a bit emotional isn't he!?

Its a lovely gesture, glad you are happy OP thanks

Signet2012 Sun 14-Jul-13 12:54:59

Oh lord.

I'm pleased for you op.

Weeping statements of love

My dp just bought me a cheese cake and moved in. Which was fine by me. I love cheesecake. I'm not sure how I'd react to a man like yours tbh. I quite like grunting and if I get a cuppa in bed then I feel loved grin

off to ask dp to say something romantic

Mind I would probably laugh at him if he cried and professed his love. As he would me.

You do sound very happy though so I'm pleased for you.

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 12:55:01

Lol Whising, no we had it when came home at 1am lol!

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 12:56:36

Everyone I am real and this is real dont doubt my posts please. I don't have timd to bullshit people I really don't lol.

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 12:57:26

How do you post pics ??

CheerfulYank Sun 14-Jul-13 12:59:05

Me too Signet...a boob grab when the kids are looking the other way is romance in this house. grin

CatsAndTheirPizza Sun 14-Jul-13 13:23:06

For pictures, I imagine you go to 'My Mumsnet' at the top right hand corner, and then into profile to upload.

Leafleaflea Sun 14-Jul-13 13:23:32

Hidden. On your bedside cabinet behind your clock.

That's like when a toddler plays hide and seek and the best hiding place they can think of is behind the curtain with their toes poking out.

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 13:29:22

For anyone that doesn't believe in fairy tales they truly do exist, you just need to believe!

Our story is a fairy tale but one with a modern connotation. He (i will call him my Angel) was an old friend 10 years ago, we weren't close friends but I used to attend some of his parties with my boyfriend.

My ex and I moved here to the UK and we have been here for 8 years. My Angel travelled around working as a chef. He contacted us and asked if he could stay at ours for a bit during his travels. We didnt respond initially, but one day something made me respond to him and I invited him to stay. I rescued my prince not on a horse but in my car lol. He arrived and we spoke about very deep things for hours and days. We formed a deep deep bond. I knew I'd met my soulmate. I could no longer remain with my partner of 10 years, please note I did not cheat at all, it was purely bonding on an emotional level. I broke ties with my partner and he moved out, we're still best if friends :-). My Angel remained and has never left.

Our love grows day by day and we live in our bubble. We continue to live happily ever after! I rescued my prince and he rescued me right back. Our love is for eternity.

He cries as he is a very gentle and loving soul, not because he's a wuss. We've met each others parents on Skype and my father came over to meet him to. Fairy tales exist you just need to continue to believe and never give up.

Love and best wishes to all xxx

Sorry it wasn't what you were expecting. I always thought eternity rings were what you received after the birth of your first child. I've never heard of anyone getting one prior to an engagement.

Sparklysilversequins Sun 14-Jul-13 13:35:59

hmm Eh?

CheerfulYank Sun 14-Jul-13 13:38:38

I...well. Hmmm.


Good grief! Well, I hope you both live happily ever after OP.

MrsBertMacklin Sun 14-Jul-13 13:39:35

He's a chef and he cries a lot? He must be fun to work with.

MrsWolowitz Sun 14-Jul-13 13:45:27

Oh man.

That last post sounds a little deluded. You're in love and that's great, it's not a fairytale but love is very lovely.

I love my DH. He's warm, sensitive, funny and good in bed and is my best friend who gets my little quirks and quotes and can read my face from across the room as I can with him.

That said, he leaves skid marks in the toilet pan, farts, scratches his balls in my full view and is clumsy to a point of explosive frustration rather than endearing.

It's not healthy to have such a rise-tinted view of someone or a relationship. Just be real because when you find out he isn't perfect (noone is) don't be gutted.

I read something on fb recently that said something like "every couple goes through trouble but the ones who are the happiest are the ones who are ready to meet each other with a high-five and a beer" or something. I think it's quite true.

I have no idea how to respond to that.

I'm glad you're happy op.

JumpingJackSprat Sun 14-Jul-13 13:46:02

He does sound just like sensitive guy out of bedazzled. not so much a fairytale love story as an emotional affair where you ended up with the OM. good luck, not sure i could be doing with all that weeping.

Maryz Sun 14-Jul-13 13:47:46

It's the onions, MrsBert [cynical]

Don't mind me op, I'm old and have forgotten what romance is.

CatsAndTheirPizza Sun 14-Jul-13 13:48:33

I wish you and your ... er ... Prince/Angel every happiness together

garlicsmutty Sun 14-Jul-13 13:50:17

WOW! That is a romantic story! I've just got to ask: He says "when I said I wanted to be with him, I opened the key to his heart and formed an eternal bond and this is what the ring represents." - this is so totally un-British, my first thought was he must be from elsewhere. Your backstory seems to support that. So, come on, OP, where's he from? So I can get on the next flight.

tethersend Sun 14-Jul-13 13:56:52

DP only moved in because his house burnt down.

He did cry when he stubbed his toe once.

Do I win a prize?

Picturepuncture Sun 14-Jul-13 14:07:14

Seriously? Really?

People live like this? Believing all this?

Like in real life?

K8Middleton Sun 14-Jul-13 14:08:48

Not sure tethers. I'm only with dh because he moved in after his flatmate was the subject of a News of the World sting. Then half of Fleet Street turned up, necessitating the fleeing of country by flatmate and dh (then just a friend) moving out until the paps had gone.

I've never, ever seen dh cry. He did once have something in his eye and it watered a bit. Does that count?

<all true but not as exciting as it sounds>

Actual vom.

MrsWolowitz Sun 14-Jul-13 14:12:09

Ah OP I can't help but think we've all urinated on your potato wedges.

Sorry OP.

Hope you're nt upset but I do stand by what I said. Do try to keep your feet on the ground and a check on reality and manage your expectations.


I think it's great that you and he both express their love like that. As long as you are both happy...

Wow... (just raced through this thread)

I'm glad you're happy OP but to be completely honest you both sound a bit away with the fairies and about 13

He gave you a speech about the meaning of love? hmm I think I would have struggled to keep a straight face...

AnneEyhtMeyer Sun 14-Jul-13 14:13:31

It'll be over by Christmas.

Urm.... Wow.

Strokethefurrywall Sun 14-Jul-13 14:15:27


Too much for my hungover self...

ZingWidge Sun 14-Jul-13 14:20:02

reality? check

DiaryOfAWimpyMum Sun 14-Jul-13 14:27:52

Oh okay... I waited 16 years and didn't get an eternity ring...

So what does it mean then?

He loves you but you are still married?

ProphetOfDoom Sun 14-Jul-13 14:33:44

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

gaggiagirl Sun 14-Jul-13 14:36:29

Boaked again.

Maryz Sun 14-Jul-13 14:38:33

Is anyone else confused as to how romantic it is to give someone an engagement ring and say "it isn't an engagement ring"?

CheerfulYank Sun 14-Jul-13 14:40:49

I saw DH cry once for a real actual reason!

perplexedpirate Sun 14-Jul-13 14:41:27



DiaryOfAWimpyMum Sun 14-Jul-13 14:44:21

Oh I think I have it, you love each other so much, you dumped partners, moved in together and have just skipped the engagement and marriage and gone onto the Eternity thing?

What's next funeral plan?

K8Middleton Sun 14-Jul-13 14:49:51

I reckon it must be like living in a Richard Curtis film chez Leigh with all the earnest speeches about love. And all that crying must be a bit wearing; all the snotting would put me right off. Why aren't they just shagging loads like normal people?

I like my men continent of both bladder and emotion.

HystericalParoxysm Sun 14-Jul-13 14:51:51

Erm, I wish you and your Angel a very long and happy life together.

I had an ex like that once. He cried "because I was so beautiful"... I was a bit hmm but he wasn't British so put it down to cultural differences.

As the relationship progressed he became more over-bearing and controlling and his "sensitivity" became manipulative and emotionally blackmailing.

Just be careful.

PeanutPatty Sun 14-Jul-13 15:02:48

That would have me running for the hills.

Portofino Sun 14-Jul-13 15:20:21

It worries me that op never goes out on her own. He sounds a bit creepy! I can't believe he came to stay and you calmly threw your dp of 10 years out. Have you no shame?

MissStrawberry Sun 14-Jul-13 15:21:45

OP, who and what else do you have in your life?

Did your boyfriend say why the ring wasn't in a box?

potatofactory Sun 14-Jul-13 15:27:14

Run awaaaaaaaaaaaaay!

Ewwwwwww -

And also << speechless >>

garlicsmutty Sun 14-Jul-13 15:28:19

It wasn't in a box because his fiancée sent it back to him in a Jiffy bag from Serbia wink

garlicsmutty Sun 14-Jul-13 15:29:23

Is there a reason why you stay in the house unless DP is with you, OP?

Just wondering if there might be a disability or something.

Where did he get the ring from?

Inclusionist Sun 14-Jul-13 15:34:54

I think this guy will become emotionally controlling and jealous.

Surely nobody that emotional can be stable?

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 15:35:43

I can understand everybody's point of views. For what it's worth I will elaborate. My ex and I grew apart, it was a mutual agreement to split, hence why we are still the best of friends.

It may seem a lot to have an emotional man but believe me we've both been through relationships of hell. We are in love, I can go and do whatever I want but I choose to spend my time with him. I have hobbies such as fitness training etc as does he. During our free time there is nothing that makes me happier than spending that time with him.

People may vomit of the thought of true love and it may seem uncomprehendable that in these times fairy takes exist but that's because choose to live in my world and neither if us confirm to humanity. For instance we climbed a tree the other day and had a picnic up there lol.

Why choose to live in a world like it is today when you can make your own world.

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 15:39:18

And for what it's worth I'm dancing around like a madman in my lounge listening to old school tunes! Why? Cause I can!!

PS please forgive my grammatical errors, iPhone has a mind of its own! :-)). I live to make the world a happy place. We both have the same values, that's why he volunteers to help homeless people and cook for them and I help animals!

Sparklysilversequins Sun 14-Jul-13 15:39:18

I don't think people are vomiting at True Love itself tbh. I think it's the way you're writing about it that's increasing the up chuck factor.

MissStrawberry Sun 14-Jul-13 15:41:08

Neither of you conform to humanity?

WTF do you mean by that?

I am happy you are so happy with your beau but making out everyone else isn't as amazing as you isn't going to make you any friends on here and you might regret that should things go tits up and you want support.

HenWithAttitude Sun 14-Jul-13 15:42:11

grin Sparkly, that's right...break it gently

garlicsmutty Sun 14-Jul-13 15:43:23

You sound very ditsy sweet, and it is nice to be In Lurve (as I vaguely remember!) Hope all goes well for you both, for a long time.

CatsAndTheirPizza Sun 14-Jul-13 15:44:19

Is he called Jason, OP?

garlicsmutty Sun 14-Jul-13 15:45:08

Neither of you conform to humanity? WTF do you mean by that?

They are blackbirds. Hence the picnic up a tree.

Sparklysilversequins Sun 14-Jul-13 15:45:15

Fwiw I am eating laughing cow blue cheese spread triangles straight out of the foil! Why? Because I can!

Give me a break.

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 15:46:07

Don't perceive things that aren't there MissStrawberry.

It's true what I said though, in the fact that I'm 33 years old and still climb trees! Is that conforming to reality? No, not really cause I don't know anyone my age that still makes stick villages and climbs trees! That's what I mean by conformity. Sure I can't be the only one out there who does childish things but I don't care, I live how I want to live :-)). Best wishes MissStrawberry and hope you understand my reasoning by that phrase and know that I will never hurt a soul.

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 15:47:06

That's great Sparkly :-))). Hope you're enjoying it. Yummy x

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 15:48:07

Lol at being blackbirds !!

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 15:49:03

Thanks Garlicsmutty :-)). Maybe I am ditsy but I love it :-)

K8Middleton Sun 14-Jul-13 15:49:25


Sparklysilversequins Sun 14-Jul-13 15:49:32

Where's DP right now? whipping up hummus for the homeless?

Inclusionist Sun 14-Jul-13 15:49:50

Unfortunately, I think you come across naive at best and a bit sad at worst. Whan people say 'I'm a bit crazy, me' I always think there's a bit of a 'I'm aware that I don't fit in and am uncomfortable with it' subtext.

HarrietSchulenberg Sun 14-Jul-13 15:51:00

Blimey. You remind of Bjork when she was singing about threading worms on a stri-i-ing and keeping spiders in her pocket. Bonkers but in a harmless and nice way.

ZingWidge Sun 14-Jul-13 15:54:20

it's "incomprehensible" OP, not whatever you wrote.

enjoy being madly in love...but don't expect people to enjoy it with you!

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 15:55:19

He's at work actually. Creating beautiful plates of food. I know I'm eccentric but why be "normal? ". You know I have homeless people coming up to me and shaking my hand and they say thank you :-). That's the meaning of life. Doing everything to make someone else's life a bit easier/happier!

I don't hate, I hold no resentment and I choose to love people and will do whatever I can to live my my code of life which is the above.

polkadotsrock Sun 14-Jul-13 15:55:22

This just cannot be real

WhistlingNun Sun 14-Jul-13 15:58:02

Leigh, you sound very 'high' on love. Did you ever really come down from that tree...?

It all just seems a bit ham.

I think you're still in the Honeymoon period.

Whereas most couples spend this time bonking here, there, and everywhere - you and The Chef choose to help animals and make tree houses and collect sticks. Which is all lovely and fine.

But by this time next year, you'll be chucking him out of bed for farting.

So make the most of it. grin

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 15:58:02

Thanks for promoting that our Zingwidge, please refer to my earlier comment apologising for my grammatical errors as I'm on my phone. People can enjoy whatever they want in their life. It's their choice to choose what they find enjoyable.

gaggiagirl Sun 14-Jul-13 15:58:10

Each to their own.

I am sitting on a toddlers chair because I can and dd is bouncing all over the sofa

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 16:00:01

Polkadotsrock - oh yes it is very much real xx. As I said I have no intention to bullshit, that would be completely pointless on its own!

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 16:01:08

There's the spirit Gaggiagirl. Why don't we all do something today that's a little bit out of the norm! Bring our inner child back, that's what I say!!

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 16:02:04

Whistlingnun lol! I'm high on life !!!

ProphetOfDoom Sun 14-Jul-13 16:02:11

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ZingWidge Sun 14-Jul-13 16:03:37

I want to be supportive, I do, but all I can think of is begging you to please tell us when you have had kids and have started going to toddler groups - I want to witness bonkers behaviour. wink

or start a blog. it would be great entertainment. grin

sorry, you sound like a loving person, but this just too "sugarcoated honey love bun with icing on top" even for me.

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 16:05:22

It is SchmaltzingMatilda. Believe me I have had truly bad shit happen to me. But that's why I am here now, as I've chosen to forgive, let go and move on and live life how I want as its my life, I can choose how to live it.

MissStrawberry Sun 14-Jul-13 16:05:37

I don't "perceive" anything, OP.

I am very sure of my opinions. I also am very sure you don't know everyone in the world and are quite possibly not the only person to make stick villages and eat food in a tree.

Saying why be normal? Is implying that you are something other than normal, perhaps something special, when actually there is no normal really, just majority.

Good luck.

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 16:06:44

It may be sweet but life is sweet and sour, half empty or half full, it's how you perceive things that determines which phrase you live by!

gaggiagirl Sun 14-Jul-13 16:06:53

Leigh you sound adorable.

Mrsfluff Sun 14-Jul-13 16:08:05

You sound very happy OPsmile

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 16:08:07

Thanks Strawberry, refer to my comment where I do say" I can't be the only childish one". I choose not to live like the majority however. So what??

Inclusionist Sun 14-Jul-13 16:08:59

You appreciate that it is a beautiful and sophisticated thing to experience a complex range of emotions though, right?

This bubble of yours is like a Japanese cartoon and if you live in it forever you will miss out on the exquisiteness of the human condition.

Adorable isn't the word I was looking for.

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 16:12:23

Inclusionist, I believe you're referring to Anime, I have only ever seen but one Anime film. But my eyes see, they see the hurt and despair that people face, the poverty and lack of hope, abuse and violence, hatred, revengeful people, pain people endure on a daily basis. But if I can help one of thousands I know that I've lived life to the best of my ability. As without love what is left in the world??

Inclusionist Sun 14-Jul-13 16:13:42

I was thinking more of Hello Kitty to be honest.

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 16:15:18

I'm not adorable although I do have big puppy dog eyes :-)). I'm literally a person who cannot comprehend hate, nastiness or other horrible things. When confronted by any of the above, I merely walk away and think more of how I can make a difference.

LadyBeagleEyes Sun 14-Jul-13 16:17:43

Is your name Pollyanna?

Inclusionist Sun 14-Jul-13 16:18:07

My career is devoted to helping vulnerable people too but not in a 'Strawberry Shortcake Helps the Sad People' kind of way because, frankly, that would be patronising.

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 16:18:22

Nope LadyBeagleEyes but I do love that film :-)

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 16:20:20

Inclusionist that's so good to have people like you. When people come up to me and thank me, believe me they do not feel patronised or they wouldn't look at me with a glimmer of hope!

WhistlingNun Sun 14-Jul-13 16:22:09

grin @ Hello Kitty.

Hypothetically, Leigh, if that eternity ring of yours was in fact just a ring left behind by another woman and your Chef had confessed to an affair last night... you'd have just walked away and thought more of how you could make a difference? Really?

So sorry to rain on your parade but i find it impossible to believe anyone can be that nice.

glastocat Sun 14-Jul-13 16:23:19

Very Fotherington-Thomas! grin

Sparklysilversequins Sun 14-Jul-13 16:23:40

I wouldn't want to be on the Business End of your approaching come down that's for sure OP!

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 16:25:17

Yes Whistlingnun. I have had that happen to me before by a boyfriend, I've also been in an abusive 2 year relationship and have been to rehab! I've battled through life and fought for where I am today.

To answer your question, yes. I would forgive cause if he had an affair, I would accept it for what it was and we can move on either apart or sort things out. I cannot hate nor resent people.

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 16:27:43

BTW nobody is raining on my parade cause I know where I am in life and what I have, nobody can take that away!

MissStrawberry Sun 14-Jul-13 16:28:04

MissStrawberry if you don't mind.

You come across as thinking your way is the best way and that isn't very pleasant.

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 16:29:44

Sorry Miss Strawberry I've tried to use full names but may have made a mistake.

Nope that's not what I think at all, just commenting on threads that have been responses to my initial one.

Inclusionist Sun 14-Jul-13 16:37:21

I wonder if you need to work on your sense of self a bit more?

It sounds to me like you are really buffeted about by others' responses to you. Negative relationship = massive low/ rehab. Positive relationship = massive high/ Hello Kitty world.

Living life to do things for others for their appreciative response.

It's not the road to mental health OP. You need to find a place where being ok comes from within.

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 16:41:44

Thanks Inclusionist for your post. I agree, I may have self confidence issues etc but I try do good. I have tried other ways but just cannot bring myself to be anything other than nice and loving. I physically cannot feel hatred or contempt.

Believe me, my way of life is not easy. Yes, I get used and misunderstood but so does my partner yet neither of us can be anything else than what we are!

BOF Sun 14-Jul-13 16:44:06

Leigh1980, I think you may need this kind of rehab, not the other kind gringringrin...

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 16:52:43

ROLF haaaaahaaaahaaaa BOF. That is hilarious :-)). Luckily though I'm known as a functional loon hee her. Thanks for the laugh though. :-DDD

Inclusionist Sun 14-Jul-13 16:53:39

BOF that was my first MN tea on the keyboard moment!!

PrincessKitKat Sun 14-Jul-13 16:55:15

When I was about 15/16 couples used to get 'eternitised'. It was explained to me as 'engaged to be engaged', and was accompanied by a cheap lovingly chosen ring from Argos or Beaverbrooks.

This was an excellent way for a young man to get his GF into bed show his intention to someday commit. Without having to commit.

Happy to see the tradition of 'eternitising' is still going strong blush

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 16:57:01

PrincessKitKat, we've gone past that stage lol. Who cares maybe I should get old Mills 'n Boon involved. Lol

chenin Sun 14-Jul-13 16:59:12

Hahaha PrincessKitKat.... yes .. a 'friendship' ring with exactly that intention!

Can I ask you Leigh... do you have girlfriends? Ones you have known a long time who tell it like it is. I'm just curious. We all need girlfriends who give us a much needed dose of reality at times. I just wonder how it works in RL for you, that's all.

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 17:01:36

Hi Helliebean. Yes, I have good friends both men and women.

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 17:03:10

Anyway it's is choice if he wants to propose. It's my choice to stay. Nobody can force another to do something that one does not want to do. But one would hope that life values will be a base in

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 17:03:35

Sorry posted to quickly. ...ones life !

chenin Sun 14-Jul-13 17:06:07

Do your girlfriends think you and your bloke are a match made in heaven? I'm sure you are, but I'm just interested. It's just the comment from you saying that you can't be anything other than nice and loving, and you are incapable physically of hate etc... I wonder how others perceive you. It's just that comment sounds a tad superior, like you are some celestial being, that's all. Don't mean to offend.

Jux Sun 14-Jul-13 17:15:09

Erm, fwiw, my cousin is 68 and climbs trees. He does it at every family gathering, mainly to amuse the little ones. He never fails to 'slip' and nearly fall, hanging on a branch upside down. Their faces are all shock.

No doubt, if he thought it would amuse them, he would have a picnic up there too.

I have had picnics up trees. Those days are well and truly gone.

Anyway, I'm not ditzy in the slightest.

Portofino Sun 14-Jul-13 17:19:31

I am confused about the home 24/7 and not knowing when he would have time to buy a ring, that you do the shopping together etc then you go on to say that you have friends and hobbies etc. Which is it exactly? Do you leave the house independently of him?

Portofino Sun 14-Jul-13 17:24:10

I worry because it sounds very unhealthy. And I agree that an "eternity" ring is not something you give some one in your set up. It's more traditional when you have been married some time, or when you have a child. What he gave you was a "petite" ring, so cheap sounding to me, and no commitment whatsoever. Are you sure he was working overtime? Don't chefs normally get fed at work? The whole set up sounds odd to me vs romantic. Does he pay his full share of the bills etc?

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 17:31:17

Well I work from home so am there 9.30-5.30. I train by myself in the morning at gym from 7.30-8.30ish. We then have coffee and breakfast before I start work. At about 11ish he will go and source food for lunch and supper - he loves doing this as he's a chef.

About an hour later he comes home and prepares lunch and supper. We eat lunch together. He generally works from 6pm - 1isham. During the evening I will do some shopping or watch a few films and will eat the supper he made prior to leaving. I wake up at about -ish and put the kettle on, he returns eats his dinner and we have a cup if tea together and reflect in the day. We both go to bed (maybe get done us time hee hee!).

When he's off we generally go on hikes (we live in the country) or go in our boat / out for a meal. We so play Playstation games together. Or do a bit of gardening. We volunteer when required, that's pretty much out routine.

Sparklysilversequins Sun 14-Jul-13 17:37:04

"Source food"? Nip to Tesco's Express then?

This thread is clearly a complete piss take, kudos OP, managing to get so many posters involved.

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 17:41:11

Sparklysilversequins, we live in a small market town so he buys from the market or local village but hers and fishmongers. What would I gain by writing a fabricated post?

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 17:41:41

Butchers not but hers lol. Damn iPhone!

DiaryOfAWimpyMum Sun 14-Jul-13 17:46:20

Life sounds good, as long as your happy and you certainly seem to be! smile

Futterby Sun 14-Jul-13 17:46:49

Agree with sparkly, load of bollocks.

PrincessKitKat Sun 14-Jul-13 17:48:34

Does he work at Frankie & Bennys blush

Portofino Sun 14-Jul-13 17:49:52

So you both go out then? I thought you went shopping together? Feel free to carry on making it up you go along.

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 17:49:56

I don't have to prove my life. If people think its bollocks so be it. But it's my life!

PeachActiviaMinge Sun 14-Jul-13 17:50:51

mumsnet vs OP

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 17:51:13

We do shop together when we aren't working etc as well as other stuff.

Leigh1980 Sun 14-Jul-13 17:52:17

Nope not Franki and Bennys could be nice though :-)

MrsWolowitz Sun 14-Jul-13 17:52:22

I'm not sure if you sound sweet or sanctimonious.

I think a bit of both.

It's great that you're so happy but don't assume that you are the only happy people and that climbing trees is the only way to be quirky and individual.

It's a little patronising. I'm sure you don't mean to be but that is how you are coming across.

Portofino Sun 14-Jul-13 17:52:26