Does anyone else smash things when cross

(42 Posts)
almostanotherday Mon 04-Feb-13 16:40:10

As it says really, does anyone else throw or smash things when cross?

elfycat Mon 04-Feb-13 16:47:15

Occasionally yes.

Never in front of the kids and never at someone (always into a corner if it during an argument with DH)

I do try not to use the good china wink

Yakshemash Mon 04-Feb-13 16:48:54

No, never!

Bit of a shout, bit of a rant, but I come down as quick as I go up. Anger's no fun.

lynniep Mon 04-Feb-13 16:50:30

No. I did throw a cup at an ex once. But I was 18. I can't remember doing it since.

BertieBotts Mon 04-Feb-13 16:52:40

I used to throw stuff (inanimate, like a phone or a pen or whatever and never at people) but DP was really shocked by it and it made me realise it wasn't normal or healthy, so I don't do it any more.

It's very intimidating to witness someone smashing/breaking or throwing or kicking things when angry, too.

Foggles Mon 04-Feb-13 16:53:02

Nothing that would smash. I might fling a tea towel or a newspaper.

FlatsInDagenham Mon 04-Feb-13 16:54:16

I do throw things sometimes, but not breakable things and not at people. Is this odd?

MechanicalTheatre Mon 04-Feb-13 16:54:17

I used to. Never at people. I stopped when I realised it only wound me up more.

InNeedOfBrandy Mon 04-Feb-13 16:54:51

Yes but I haven't been that angry for a very long time now, would be something like my phone after a argument.

CanIHaveAPetGiraffePlease Mon 04-Feb-13 16:55:21

No. Is this about you, your partner? Are you ok?

Yes, though I always regret it. Its never at anyone, and usually breakable so I end up having to clean up. I know it isn't normal or "healthy" but sometimes (and I'm talking maybe twice a year) I have to let out the Rage

WowOoo Mon 04-Feb-13 16:59:11

No. It's dangerous, messy and wasteful.
Is it you who does the throwing/smashing?

A recycling bottle bank can be a good place to smash glass when one feels the need.

pixi2 Mon 04-Feb-13 17:06:40

Gosh yes. Especially when tired. Never in front of the children. If I feel I'm loosing it I walk away for a few mins. The last thing I broke was my beautiful pale blue baking bowl.

MrsHoarder Mon 04-Feb-13 17:06:48

Not since I was a student. I realised its intimidating for everyone around (this does not mean I don't feel the "urge" to smash things).

I like the idea of going to the bottle bank, usually I just get out of the house and moving (pref running).

pixi2 Mon 04-Feb-13 17:09:10

Must add its barely once a year the rage comes out. The rest of the time I'm really very nice and calm. Just every now and then the lid seems to lift on the stuff I bottle up.

QuickLookBusy Mon 04-Feb-13 17:11:18

No never. It's not a nice thing to do or see.

CinnabarRed Mon 04-Feb-13 17:13:09

Never done it, never witnessed it. And hope I never do.

FrustratedSycamoresRocks Mon 04-Feb-13 17:16:23

Yeah. But not in a while.

Locketjuice Mon 04-Feb-13 17:21:05

Every cup bowl plate saucepan.. Cut to the chase everythingconfused
felt stupid the next day having to spend a fortune buying it again

LynetteScavo Mon 04-Feb-13 17:21:15

I threw a plate once.

Everybody was being hideous at the dinner table, I picked up my empty plate and threw it into the kitchen. I then walked out of the house, and bought a bottle of wine

When I got back, DH had cleared up the plate and said "That's not your usual style. "

The wine went very well with the spaghetti bolognese.

It was never mentioned again.

blush

almostanotherday Mon 04-Feb-13 17:21:49

I once threw a cup of tea at my x and then cried my eyes out after realising I had got tea all up the wall of my newly painted kitchen.

I was asking as my DS14 does and then gets really upset he has ADD so I'm not sure if the out bursts are linked to the ADD or not and he was not born when I was with my x so never witnessed the cup of tea incident.

bigTillyMint Mon 04-Feb-13 17:24:20

No. But I shout A LOT!

My DM once threw a glass at me. Luckily it hit the bathroom door as I slammed it shut. I was a teenager and was probably being vile.

I slammed the porch door when I was a teenager and the glass smashed out of it,

bigTillyMint Mon 04-Feb-13 17:24:58

I mean I shout a lot when I am really angry, not all the timesmile

pixi2 Mon 04-Feb-13 17:34:18

Please feel free to borrow my breakage rules;

It has to be your own item
There can be no witnesses
You do not hurt anyone

Damage limitation.

EnjoyResponsibly Mon 04-Feb-13 18:07:38

Pix is it not the case that by the time you've got yourself into a place in accordance with your rules, the urge to throw has passed grin

EnjoyResponsibly Mon 04-Feb-13 18:09:22

In a hissy fit 3 years ago I slammed my I-phone down on the granite kitchen worktop.

That was an expensive tantrum.

BertieBotts Mon 04-Feb-13 18:10:54

I don't know for sure but I think it's fairly common in teenage boys, most of my male peers hit something in anger at least once during their teenage years.

You might be best off asking in Teens or the Special Needs section if you're wanting to gauge what's normal?

iklboo Mon 04-Feb-13 18:17:16

No but I have a fantasy room that is long and narrow & filled with boxes of cheap crockery. I picture flinging the crockery down the length of the room, which is self cleaning.

FrameyMcFrame Mon 04-Feb-13 18:29:55

I threw my phone at the computer and broke the screen of the computer. PMS
Felt pretty stupid immediately afterwards when I realised I'd broken the laptophmm

digerd Mon 04-Feb-13 18:47:30

No, never. None of my family either. Except our Grandad, who was old, and only when we played cards and he lost. He threw the cards down and across the table. We used to chuckle to ourselves. He also threw verbal abuse at the telly, but never solid objects .

Jellykat Mon 04-Feb-13 19:13:17

almost Your DS is not alone. My only just 15 year old DS2 smashes things. He's been doing it for well over a year, but 3 phones and one laptop later, hes learning to channel it into thumping the carpeted floor (plus i bought him a punchbag!)

While he does have Dyspraxia and borderline ADD, i honestly think its hormonal surges as much as anything. He says he feels really really angry and frustrated sometimes, but not for any particular reason, and he can't stop it.

I must just add no other members of the family throw anything, but hes a big lad and much more physical then his elder brother ever was.

Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme Mon 04-Feb-13 19:27:44

Does breaking stubborn inanimate objects count? Like when something doesn't work or won't fit or refuses to play by the rules and in a fit of piqué you thump/kick/hurl it and it breaks. And you're suddenly aware how stupid and childish your temper is and now you've broken something and you feel really stupid and fucked off wit yourself.

dishwasher cupboard door router dc's plate car door keyboard wicker basket oh god the list goes on help me blush

almostanotherday Mon 04-Feb-13 20:24:36

Jellycat-they have ? him for dyspraxia and we got the ADD diagnosed last year. Your DS has described it exactly how mine does, angry but can't explain why.

almostanotherday Mon 04-Feb-13 20:25:32

Ilovemydog-your made me laugh sorry

Jellykat Mon 04-Feb-13 20:40:22

That's a helluva coincidence almost, i must say a punchbag helped here, plus as we live rurally.. a drumkit!
I'm wondering if there's an outlet you can think of for your DS, something immediately there to take it out on? Punching it out on a beanbag or something..
I know DS is getting better as time goes by, although whacking the floor of his room while im sitting in the room below, makes me jump a mile!

pixi2 Mon 04-Feb-13 20:46:29

Oooooo, no. If it did I would still have my lovely blue baking bowl.
I picked it up off the floor and kept throwing it till it was in pieces.

I tend to have butterfingers these days through tiredness rather than rage. I have broken all my lovely royal doulton dinner set and refuse to buy any others so will need to buy another set soon.

Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme Mon 04-Feb-13 21:04:51

You're welcome almost. smile

iklboo Mon 11-Feb-13 18:42:15

Tonight I am in my fantasy room hurling cups, plates, saucers - damnit even serving platters down the length of it.

I certainly have the urge and am a world-class door-slammer. Always makes me feel better but I always feel bad when I see the paint flakes blush
Running certainly helps and is a far better outlet!!
I have pregna-rage hormones now making things worse (plus no running) and so I have agreement that I will hurl only plastic glasses in the kitchen floor when alone. Seems to work for me but once isn't enough.

Is it childish? I dunno but better out than in, right?!?

MannishBoy Tue 26-Feb-13 15:21:51

My ex used to smash stuff. But then she also used to hit me and belittle me, so maybe not the best comparison.

Titchyboomboom Wed 13-Mar-13 01:24:24

I threw a remote control once, when I was about 18, but it was not healthy. DH made me realise how destructive and aggressive it was

MercedesKing Thu 14-Mar-13 07:35:23

Oh, have to admit that it happens to me all the time, almost all the ceramic out on table or somewhere that is easy to be touched would be an item for me to smash by accident so that I have to be careful when walking through a crowed passage. wink

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