What age do u all think is an ok age to let child have tv in their room?!?

(89 Posts)
mindermummy Sat 15-Sep-12 08:41:06

My son is 8 and been begging for years to have a tv in his room as all his friends have for years.
I was adamant not to let him as long as I could, but now I'm starting to sway, maybe I should let him now.
Just wondered what sort of ages others let their kids have them. Thanks

I'm saying never.

Bedrooms are for sleeping. Why do you need a tv there?!

laptopcomputer Sat 15-Sep-12 08:43:11

15 minimum, if at all.

oddslippers Sat 15-Sep-12 08:43:25

I agree, never, once you've got a TV in the room sleep will go downhill.

Both DSs have a TV in their room. They are 13 and 10. They have inbuilt DVD players. Ds2 has had one since at least 8 years old.

There are rules though and time limits. But we don't all share the same taste in TV so it makes sense.

notcitrus Sat 15-Sep-12 08:50:14

When they've saved enough pocket money or job earnings to buy one. Though with all the old ones on Freecycle I may need to rethink.

CMOTDibbler Sat 15-Sep-12 08:53:50

14 or so, but I am old gimmer, and it took dh till last year to persuade me to have a tv in our bedroom

SoggySummer Sat 15-Sep-12 08:56:55

Mine are 11 and 13 and have TVs with built in DVD players in their rooms but neither TV is linked up to an aerial so that cannot watch actual TV only DVDs. This is more because we live in rented accommodation though with one aerial point in the whole house, than an active decision - but its a good excuse to them to not let them have actual TV in their rooms.

They are also at boarding school so I dont have the worry of school night late night TV watching.

Ds1 likes to watch Russell Howard and other 13 year old nonsense. Nobody else wants to watch it. grin

Lambethlil Sat 15-Sep-12 09:00:00

Never. No need. Bedrooms are for sleeping.
There are exceptions. I had friends who had a tv in their toddlers bedroom. I judged. However dad worked shifts and they had an auntie sleeping in the sitting room, so the dcs bedroom was effectively the children's living room. Both parents strictly monitored what was watched and the time it was on.

SoggySummer Sat 15-Sep-12 09:00:23

Ooops posted too soon. I was going to say they have had these since they were about 9yo.
Watching DVDs in their room does not worry me at all as I know what DVDs we have and they have their doors open most of the time but I am not that kee on them having actual TV. I for one can remember watching the Amityville (sp??) Horror age 10 in my room (against the rules and on very low volume) and being terrified for weeks!

I dont think its good for young kids to get into the habit of watching TV everynight though. I think reading is alot more relaxing. Each to their own though - if it works for you and you and your kids are happy - then carry on.

GobblersKnob Sat 15-Sep-12 09:01:21

Once they have their own home.

TunaPastaBake Sat 15-Sep-12 09:01:52

21 - if they're still at home . hopefully not

grin

I am not getting the sleeping thing. It doesn't affect their sleep at all. they don't go to their bedrooms as soon as they get in from school then watch TV all night.confused

TimothyTumblespring Sat 15-Sep-12 09:05:20

I think it's very much down to the individual. For my DS the answer is probably not until he's in his mid teens if at all. We only live in a two bed place. We don't have a TV in our bedroom either.
As far as I'm concerned TV is an activity you do as a family (saying that, I do occasionally watch things on the iPad that I know DP doesn't like!!)
I wasn't allowed a TV in my room as a kid until I had saved up enough money from my Saturday job to pay for one. It was the first thing I got with my wages, so I must have been quite desperate for one. grin

NoComparison Sat 15-Sep-12 09:08:35

Never, but no bedrooms in this house will ever have a TV for many reasons.

For one, watching TV is not relaxing, might bore you to sleep, but it's not relaxing. Another is that my DC (and I) currently read for a least an hour every evening before lights out. If TV was an option, that wouldn't happen.

For me, if TV must be watched, it should mostly be watched together.

For adults I have a strong (unsubstantiated) feeling that TV in bed is the death of many a relationship

Jinsei Sat 15-Sep-12 09:11:05

When she has her own home and can afford to buy a TV for her bedroom. There are no TVs in bedrooms in our house, and there never will be.

LadyStark Sat 15-Sep-12 09:12:25

Never, completely agree with all of the reasons stated about why having a TV in anyone's bedroom is a bad thing.

I am not watching Russell Howard or The Simpsons or Match of the Day as a family activity thanks. grin

In the evenings the DC do their homework, read, play PS3 and then sometimes go to their rooms to watch a TV programme. Sometimes not, they have football training most nights.

DS1 looks very relaxed when he is watching TV TBH.

A tv not hooked up to channels but just to a DVD player then age 8-11 to give you some peace grin

sassytheFIRST Sat 15-Sep-12 09:17:10

When they are old enough for you not to bother if they see very adult stuff if they wake up turn the TV on in the middle of the night. Mid teens earliest impo.

We are lucky enough to be planning an extension with a second living room that will be the primarily for the kids' use. That will have 'their' TV in so we don't have to all watch the same stuff.

ComradeJing Sat 15-Sep-12 09:19:28

Never. Unless they are adult children after university and are happy to buy one themselves.

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Sat 15-Sep-12 09:22:32

until they are 15/16 IMO
We have a tv in our room and it gets watched on occasions such as being poorly in bed during the day but not at night on the way to sleeping

usualsuspect3 Sat 15-Sep-12 09:23:00

Mine all had a TVs in their rooms from about 8

How can you expect a family to all share the same taste in TV though?

stargirl1701 Sat 15-Sep-12 09:25:46

When dc has a job and can buy own TV.

Jinsei Sat 15-Sep-12 09:27:27

How can you expect a family to all share the same taste in TV though?

We don't all have the same taste, but it's about give and take - if someone has something that they particularly want to watch, then the others accommodate that. Having said that, none of us watch that much TV anyway, and I like it that way.

ihatethecold Sat 15-Sep-12 09:31:52

im quite surprised by all the anti TV here, surely in moderation its not a bad thing.
my ds 11 has his own telly and watches food network religiously on it. it goes off by 9pm.
he never puts it back on.
why would i stop him doing that?
it doesn't stop him doing lots of sport or completing homework

membershipcard Sat 15-Sep-12 09:34:14

How can you expect a family to all share the same taste in TV though?

You can't BUT family life is all about compromise and negotiation.

I am not getting the sleeping thing. It doesn't affect their sleep at all.

Research shows that what you watch just prior to sleep does affect the quality of sleep. Plus as they get older they are very tempted to watch TV late at night depriving them of the essential sleep growing teenagers need (as much as a toddler)

LST Sat 15-Sep-12 09:34:15

Whenever you want to op. it has sweet fuck all do with anybody else.

usualsuspect3 Sat 15-Sep-12 09:34:24

MN is always anti TV grin

bigTillyMint Sat 15-Sep-12 09:34:25

When they leave home?smile

We have a big TV in the loft bedroom and one in our room where they can watch their favourite programmes if we don't want to see them, and DD watches iplayer etc on the laptop, but no TV's in her room ATM! They are 13 and 11

You need to watch Food network as a family ihate. wink

akaemmafrost Sat 15-Sep-12 09:35:27

Mine had tv's in their rooms from age four <<shrugs>>. No issues sleeping, ever. At age 9 and 6 respectively they've never watched a programme that wasn't on a kids channel (except some rail travel programmes and nature programmes for ds) and dd's is only used for DVDs anyway. Ds plays the playstation on his and watched the Indiana Jones movies in the last couple of weeks. I would say he probably watches 2 hours a week, if that, some weeks none. They don't turn them on without asking. Works well for us.

MrsJohnDeere Sat 15-Sep-12 09:36:08

When they've left home

membershipcard Sat 15-Sep-12 09:37:01

My DC are 16 and 13, they don't have TVs in their rooms. We do however keep one in our room that gets moved to their room if they are having someone for a sleep over and want to watch DVDs or if they are ill and are spending more time in bed than usual.

Morebiscuitsplease Sat 15-Sep-12 09:38:34

WOuldn't go there. We have a second TV so they can watch what they want. Hardly ever used. Mine will not be having one ever! Impact in sleep, reading, etc

membershipcard Sat 15-Sep-12 09:39:25

All of this is very well when they are young and you have control but when they are 15 and watching inappropriate/too much TV/DVDs it is very difficult to remove the TV.

Numberlock Sat 15-Sep-12 09:41:06

Another with no TVs in rooms and my kids are 17, 17 and 14.

To those with 8, 9 etc year olds with TVs in bedrooms and no problems, I
can't see that situation staying the same in the teenage years. Best to avoid the problem now, one less thing to have to deal with in the future.

Numberlock Sat 15-Sep-12 09:41:57

member Cross posts!

There is always control. TVs have to be plugged in, and can therefore be unplugged and removed.

I have only done it a couple of times though.

NCForNow Sat 15-Sep-12 09:42:56

My DD is 8 and has one of those old fashioned tvs with a video attached. She watches a video on a Friday night and sometimes on the weekend. That's it....never in the week unless it's a school holiday. Also, I can get videos for pennies in charity shops.

She has DVDs but they are for her mini dvd thing and that's in the sitting room.

Victoria3012 Sat 15-Sep-12 09:45:09

For god sake, I can't believe the 'never have tv in the bedroom' , OP when you feel it's ok is the right time. My son is 11 he has tv, Xbox and laptop in his bedroom.. Someone call social services, this is obviously child neglect smile.

akaemmafrost Sat 15-Sep-12 09:46:28

Agree sparklingbrook.

winterland Sat 15-Sep-12 09:47:34

Never. I know my dd would watch it all the time. We limit tv quite strictly as she turns into a monosyllabic monster when she's watching it.

I didnt have one till I was 16 and dd wont either.

Nagoo Sat 15-Sep-12 09:51:08

when they are a grown up.

DZH Sat 15-Sep-12 09:52:08

Another vote for never, get a good range of books instead !!!!

How about a good range of books and a TV? grin It's possible to have both. wink

If those of you who have loads of stuff such as TVs and games consoles in your kids rooms can also say that your children read lots, then it would be OK. If your kids don't read, then IMHO it is not OK. Reading has been proved to have a huge impact on children's attainment, don't think that TVs or games consoles do!

usualsuspect3 Sat 15-Sep-12 09:58:09

You can't read and watch TV. because watching TV gives you square eyes wink

akaemmafrost Sat 15-Sep-12 09:59:43

My 9 year old was a free reader at 7. My 6 year old had no goals on her report for motor skills and writing as she is so far ahead smile. It's just balance. There is also a white/blackboard in her room, stacks of paper and a chest of art supplies. She chooses drawing and writing every time.

treadonthecracks Sat 15-Sep-12 10:01:02

No tv's here.

TV is for watching together as a family in our house.

DCs read before bed.

NellyBluth Sat 15-Sep-12 10:01:15

I understand the wanting of a second TV, yes everyone wants to watch different things. But is there not somewhere else you could put it, rather than their bedroom? As a teenager 'my' TV was in the spare room. I'm thinking (when this situation eventually arises) of having a second TV in the spare room, if we have one, or the dining room, or maybe the dining room. Somewhere where the kids can watch it alone, but its not actually in their bedroom.

EnjoyGOLDResponsibly Sat 15-Sep-12 10:01:25

As with games consoles its one of those things I intend to delay as long as possible.

We have 3 Tvs in different rooms in the house, loads of space for everyone to get what they want without Tvs in bedrooms.

MirandaWest Sat 15-Sep-12 10:01:30

No one has a television in their bedroom here but tbh we don't watch much as the reception is dodgy here. Television mostly used for playing Wii smile

Just because there is a TV in the room doesn't mean they watch it every night religiously before bed. confused Nor does it mean they are watching it at every opportunity to the exclusion of everything else.

DS2 has just started a series of books he can't put down.

DS1 is often doing homework up until bedtime. sad

usualsuspect3 Sat 15-Sep-12 10:06:43

Op if you want to let your DS have a TV in his room then go right ahead.

He won't turn into a zombie and lose the ability to read and do other things,honest.

Wheresmylifegone Sat 15-Sep-12 10:06:50

I know it's weird for some, but mine never had TV's. As young adults now they still don't (presumably by choice as it's no longer my say so!) What they used to do was read for hours (cue me going in to say "put the book away now please!") Personally the TV in my room left with the Exp who couldn't exist without the flipping thing on from dawn to midnight.... Ah, peace, perfect peace!

usualsuspect3 Sat 15-Sep-12 10:07:44

Not everyone has a spare room or a dining room either.

usualsuspect3 Sat 15-Sep-12 10:08:51

My DS uses his bedroom TV for gaming, he rarely watches TV

Jinsei Sat 15-Sep-12 10:09:55

I can understand the argument that people frequently want to watch different things at the same time, and therefore more than one TV is required. Personally, I'd prefer to negotiate and compromise in such situations and to limit overall viewing time, but each to their own.

I don't really understand the people who say that their kids have TVs in their room but only watch them for a couple of hours a week - fair enough if that suits them, but sounds like an utter waste of space and money to me. Why bother?

ihatethecold Sat 15-Sep-12 10:10:11

sparklingbrook
i do get sucked into watching food network when he has it on. it also makes me hungry.
i feel my son personally knows Ina Garten now! grin

WilfSell Sat 15-Sep-12 10:12:55

My first instinct was always a big fat judgy huffy smug NEVER! too. However, I now have three boys very spread out in age and DS1 is 5 years older than his next brother. The younger two share an interest in things as they're closer in age and development (3 years apart). So although we don't have a TV in his room, he does have a PC in there on which he watches stuff on iplayer that is just too old or too scary for the younger ones. It also means he has a bit of independence from them too. It works really well. If I could get my act together, I'd sort out a TV box/aerial in our back room too - we have an Xbox in there and a TV you can watchDVDs on but no connection.

My main worry now would be him watching into the night so even if we did, I would enforce a switch off time.

So because they have TVs in their room they should watch them 24/7 then to get the use out of them Jinsei?

It's an option that's all. They are there if they want to go up, relax and watch a DVD, or a programme they like but nobody else does. In the mornings DS1 has a music channel on while he is getting ready for school. He likes it. smile

usualsuspect3 Sat 15-Sep-12 10:13:28

I never limited TV either <shrugs>

usualsuspect3 Sat 15-Sep-12 10:14:14

oh yes Sparkling, no way would I listen to Kerrang first thing in the morning.

So what if our DC wanted to read books late into the night? Would that be ok?

MardyBra Sat 15-Sep-12 10:17:38

Never. They might end up writing in txtspk.

Mine got them at 14.
Which coincided with them both losing interest in watching tv. confused.
It was the start of GCSEs at school and they got a desk and computer in their rooms, having previously shared mine family one.
I have only ever known them to watch the tv when they have friends over and even then it tends to be a DVD.

Victoria3012 Sat 15-Sep-12 10:22:00

gurlwiththefrothycurl Yes my son reads a lot of books ( We have a whole wall of floor to ceiling bookcases in the dining room.. Do i get a mumsnet gold star for that?) A tv in the bedroom does not mean a child will be educationally damaged. I give my child the choice, he may decide to watch Mythbusters in his bedroom, he may decide to read a book. He gained level 5 SAT's across the board so strangely enough he is managing to read and do his homework ( Ill take another mumsnet gold star for the stealth boast) smile.

flyoverthegoldenhill Sat 15-Sep-12 10:34:56

76
and only if they don't wet the bed

Jinsei Sat 15-Sep-12 10:38:45

So because they have TVs in their room they should watch them 24/7 then to get the use out of them Jinsei?

No, there's no "should" about it, but if they're only watching a couple of hours a week, I can't see why they need a tv in their own room. But as I said earlier, each to their own...

cece Sat 15-Sep-12 10:42:05

18 and preferably when they have left home.

Sparrowp Sat 15-Sep-12 10:43:54

Never is probably best, but I'd be willing to settle for flyover's suggestion.

youonlysingwhenyourewinning Sat 15-Sep-12 10:46:27

This subject always makes me chuckle on mn.

My eldest was about 9 when she got a tv in her room. She hates to be alone, so only watched it if she had a friend over.

Dc2 shared a room with dc1 from being 5yo, so has had a tv in her room since then. She will watch the odd dvd in there if dh is watching a "housey' programme downstairs.

Dc1 moved out of the room and dc3 moved in at the age of 3, so has had a tv in her room since then.

It's used about twice a month. I have absolutely no problem with it.

<bad mum>

Dumbledoresgirl Sat 15-Sep-12 10:47:04

When they have left home.

Theas18 Sat 15-Sep-12 10:49:30

We haven't ever had tvs in bedrooms. At 15 they have had own laptops and watch some I player etc but that's all.

However we don't really watch a lot if tv anyway. Too busy as a whole.

They do however have radios and listen for hours. This has had slightly snorksome moments as particularly the younger 2 ( now 13 16) have listened to huge amounts of radio 7 4extra. Hence " no you cannot stay up to hear who the murderer is (in a poirot ) because you are 9 and should be asleep! " or DS being just a tad irritating in English in year 7 because knows huge chunks of Sherlock Holmes off by heart.

I recommend the radio!

NorbertDentressangle Sat 15-Sep-12 10:49:31

Mid teens (ish) maybe.

My two (12 and 8) have started asking for one because friends have recently had one but we've said no.

TBH DD watches enough crap on TV as it is -she would watch reruns of Come Dine With Me, Cupcake Wars or Emergency Bikers until the cows come home so I have visions of her never sleeping again and watching TV all night instead.

We have a TV in our bedroom that is very rarely watched so sometimes they get to go and watch something in there if there is a dispute over the main TV (normally due to DP wanting to watch the football!)

Theas18 Sat 15-Sep-12 10:54:04

Love the "what if thy wanted to read books way into the night would that be ok" ?

It wouldn't , but because it's silent you'd probably not know. Surely everyone has caught them with torches at 11pm?

My sneaky dd2 was recently caught with and earphone wire fed down the back of her high sleeper to the radio on the shelf below !

That's what I mean Theas. Silent reading of books/listening to Ipods/radios everyone is blissfully unaware that their child has had no sleep. grin

Not like the evil that is TV.

shrimponastick Sat 15-Sep-12 11:00:10

DS had a tv/video combo at six. He didn't watch tv excessively, and always switched off when told to

He is now 14 and rarely watches tv. He does spend rather too much time on his laptop when at home though..

He does read, and when there is no electronic diversion gets through books at a rate of knots.

I have no issue with DC having tv in their rooms . In fact am Jealous as me and DH are the only bedroom without..

DilysPrice Sat 15-Sep-12 11:00:51

University age- it's a health hazard. We have 4 TVs in the house, but none in our bedrooms.

TheCunningStunt Sat 15-Sep-12 11:01:58

My 5&3 year old both have a tv and DVD player on their bedrooms. So they can only watch DVDs. I have no issue with it at all. It's like everything else in life, you use it in moderation. You are in control of it. Mine ask to watch a DVD, I say yes or no. It's not a big deal, they do not stay up all night watching it, it does not effect sleep. In fact DS tries to stay up reading every night, perhaps I should bam his bookcase from his room?

Op do what is best for you...it's no one else's business.

What's your decision then OP? grin

Japple Sat 15-Sep-12 12:37:29

While in the 4th Grade,we told our 2 children...You must Earn the right to have
A TV in your rooms.We required A's and B's on their School Report Cards,Clean
Bedrooms,and all Chores completed and "Checked Off" on the Bulletin Board.
They complied. They Earned the Right to have their own TVs.Now,at ages 39
and 40...One is a Banker,and the other is a Corporate Computer Specialist.They
raised Their children the Same way we raised Them.Jill.

mindermummy Sun 16-Sep-12 10:10:30

Thanks for all the comments !!
Was quite shocked to see so many anti tv comments! Expected a few of course! But maybe not that many!!! [wink
I'm still undecided.
My son loves reading and both my children have stories read to them every night before bed.this tv for the room would NEvER be on at bed time and there would be very strict rules.
Lol I still can't decide . Xxx

oldqueenie Sun 16-Sep-12 10:12:34

only read op. the right age is around 50 (ime).

DS1 got one for his 13th birthday. Not having a large house with dining rooms, play rooms or spare rooms for them to use, the DSs bedroom is their living room and private space. I quite like having some child free time with DH in the evenings, so them watching Man Vs Food or whatever in their room is quite nice. We've never had any issues with watching it past lights off because they know I'd hear it and if I can't trust them, they'd lose it. It's also nice that if they're hogging the main TV playing games (no consoles in bedrooms!) DD can go and watch a DVD in their room.

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