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Just need to rant..all the playground/toddler grp conversations seem to revolve around:

- washing,washing machines breaking etc
- does my daughter love ballet, or would she rather do modern? or tap? Oh its so hard to decide, i dont know what to choose,hmm, oh its such a rush after school getting to all these places, blardy blah..
- are you preparing recipes for the school cook book? (er, no)
- OOh are you going to the PTA meeting after school, theyre talking about the new fences that are being put up (yeah like i care!)
-my husband thinks our new 4X4 isnt big enough for the kids, we only have one child but oh we really do need more space..so we have to buy the hugest fukking land rover we can find in london
-we tried to get ds to sleep at 7.15 last night but he was cranky and didnt drop off til 7.30 so i didnt have time to get all my ironing done..blardy blaardy bores...

Does my head in!! dont they have any interests? any ideas of what is happening in the rest of the world? no jobs to go to, or issues to focus on????

Have you not tried to engage them in more interesting topics.
You obviously have charm - use it

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Well, you tend to talk to people at the school gates about the reason you are there I spose, which is children.

I would not walk into my local toddler group and tell them that I like anal sex on Sunday mornings, with kippers afterwards IYKWIM.

Do you UCM? - how interesting

Of course some people do!

Maybe it's just that the playground isn't the right place to discuss world politics with people who they only know on a caual nodding aquaintance basis?

What do you talk about then? or don't you?

Well, it's friendly small talk. Trying to find common ground with you. When and if you get to know them better they would probably talk about other things. If you find it dull, why not introduce topics of interest to you.

no wonder your fanjo smells of fish UCM

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You've told us now though UCM

"no jobs to go to"

I met a lovely mum at local mums and tots. I knew the face but had never really had time to talk to her much before then.

Her second sentence to me was 'I am quite worried as I have this op coming up, I am having vaginal reconstructive surgery'. I said something like it will be nice to get a new shiney one.
I knew at that point that we would get along fine...

Ah see the mistake you've made is sending your dc to a school popular with middle class families. We live in a far less desirable area and discussed nights out on the drink & the worst hangover we've ever had today in the playground - I'll spare you the details...

AGBU, Just out of interest...
Ideally what would you like to discuss with other mums at the school gates?

NSF

Anyway, it's not dull mums, it's dull people. At least they are talking to you, look at all the "I hate toddler group, everyone ignores me" threads.

Yes. In that five minutes snatched first thing in the morning, what weighty topics do you want to debate?

This is SO TRUE about the middle class school thing! you are so right!

Also i am younger than a lot of them and would rather be discussing my girlie holiday in ibiza, and the tunes i listen to, and the clubs we will go to , and the careers im interested in...
not day to day drudgery

some of these mums i would call friends (sort of)although i do keep my distance at times when the dullness of the conversations make me wanna fall asleep.

there are a couple of dads there i really get on with, they are a good laugh, but they are like outcasts at the school!!

i want to discuss hangovers too!!!!

Sounds completely normal to me. I apologise if you find it dull.

It's small talk. It is by nature meaningless.

TBH, AGBU, I would happily chat to you about careers, but girly hols in Ibiza? Clubbing? No longer on my radar, I'm afraid, and I imagine the same applies to these women.

Do you start conversations?

Ah.

Girlie holidays in Ibiza

Clubbing.

That kind of weighty topic...

Personally I like to engage in such topics as Creationism versus Catholicism, or the historical significance of stone based architecture.

But then no-one seems to want to talk to me

WEll, I'd find a discussion about 'tunes' so mindboggling dull I'd have to go and hang myself to escape Horses for courses, one person's dull is another person's friendly.