Oooh can we have a thread about things you said and thought about your Precious First Born which make you blush looking back on it(314 Posts)
Following on from the other thread which was veering that way.
My mum said she had seen a baby on the telly who was the same age as DS (three months) who seemed more alert than DS. I cried into a muslin.
Not read all the threads but I went through just about all of these with my two. In fact I still sometimes sit on the toilet seat to warm it up for a few minutes, after ascertaining from my 4yo that he needs to go for a poo..... (he so hates to sit on a cold seat that it puts him off...used to result in an accident, but why am I still doing it???)
You are all mental. I did none of this. Of course I'd leave DS1 upstairs asleep and come downstairs when we'd just brought him home
Mind you, I did cut the top off his finger when I was cutting his nails when he was about 8 weeks old. I sobbed "I've never seen his blood before and I wouldn't have done yet if I'd not been such a bad mother" fgs. (Ignoring the fact I had seen his blood when he had his heel prick test.
I was a bit obsessed with weighing but I liked talking to people at the clinic.
Ringing for the midwife a couple of hours after dd was born. I was in a blind panic because she had hiccups...
God, I must have been a really "uncaring" mother. The only thing I can think of that's on this list that I did was to record how long he fed on each boob and at waht time, and when/waht bowel movements he had had. But then - he'd had jaundice and then wasn't gaining weight, so I was actually advsied to do this by the Breast feeding specialisats at the hospital.
I never had any problems going to the loo - or even having a leisurely, lavender oil infused (for healing purposes of course! ) bath - and leaving ds in his crib (fed and changed, so if he did cry, I knew it wasn't anything serious) - from less than a week old - ie as soon as I go home (which was at 5 days, 'cos of the jaundice).
The only thing I can think of is that we did keep the cats - who were used to sharing our bed, out of our room while ds slept in the crib beside us, and out of ds' room, when he transferred to the cot.
Does being paranoid that if I gave him any formula mil, my own milk would immediately dry up count? . Certainly worked as an incentive to persevere at the breast feeding when the little tyke, sorry, darling, pretended to suck and wasn't actaully taking anything - hence the slow weight gain . Did succeed in feeding him for 13 months - and if I were able to have another one, would this time look at the baby rather than the scales. If he/she is happy, healthy and alert, who cares what weight he/she is?
Before DS was born had to move all our medicines from the floor level cupboard they lurked in - got quite obssesive about needing to do it. Of course newborn babies are well known for their crawling/cupboard opening skills. Ok a job that needed to be done but not for another 6-8 mths!!!!
These are soooo funny . Laughing my head off at work .
I remember really looking forward to taking my newborn twins to the baby clinic for the first time to be weighed and I spent ages dressing them up in their gorgeous little clothes. When I arrived I was quite surprised/shocked at the lack of effort everyone had seemed to make with their babies, they all seemed to be in babygros.
I soon realised why, when I spent about 30 minutes undoing weeny cardigan buttons and trying to get teeny tights on wriggly newborn legs, with a long queue of grinning mums behind me.
Oh, agree baby massage and any other classes that get you out of the house and meeting other people are A Good Thing. Apart from anything else, tiny babies (and older onese too) just like to be touched gently. Was just 'aving a laff at my earnest new mum self.
I developed an almost OCDish compulsion about sterilising with DS. I expressed for 4 months, as I couldn't bf & my routines resembled pollyannas. I used to have to wash every item of the expressing machine twice in boiling soapy water, because I was overcome with terror that there was bacteria I hadn't removed.
My hands were raw from washing.
Was definitely a first-timer thing as I didn't was obsessively with DD at all.
I now I bet you let him juggle knives don't you Pollanna! (Quote: Parenthood)
I was quite mad when I had ds.
I kept the flat at a steady 18 degrees evem though that was too cold (and every room had one of those mothercare thermometers)
at 6 months and 1 day moved ds into a room of his own (FSID guidelines)
nearly hit another mother when she called ds "placid" (mind you she did tell me how bored her ds was when he was 2 weeks old )
when I expressed milk, I sterilised the pump, then because I had opened the steriliser, I re-sterilised the bottle while I was expressing and sometimes, I re-sterilised the lid while I was putting the milk in the bottle. If I ever dropped a bit of the bottle/breast pump on the side, I re-sterilised everything (I was a bit obsessed with sterilising).
I massaged ds with olive oil every night with the techniques learnt at the baby massage class(in his lovely bath stand which we lovingly wheeled into the living room every night).
I was too ashamed of ds's apgar score to tell anyone (he was born with the cord round his neck, so wasn't very responsive) )
Oh I was pretty unhinged looking back.
My dh would video our pfb at any avaliable opportunity and show anybody who came to the house. Even I was embarassed that he didn't cut out the 20 mins of video showing the parent end of the baby monitor with the light going backwards and forwards as dd made cooing noises in her cot upstairs
For months I assumed that every time pfb cried it was because she needed her nappy changing...
I took mine to baby massage etc mainly so that somebody would make me a decent cup of tea cos I never got to drink a full one at home!
Was slightly surprised when I took ds (then aged 2) to Jo Jingles and saw a mum & dad there with a week old baby (who was asleep!)
I said I would never have an epidural.. women managed perfectly well without them for millenia and natrual was the way to fo!
Ha fecking ha! I screamed "GET ME AN ANAESTHETIST NOW!!!!!" repeatedly until one arrived and demanded immediate epidurals in early labout in subsequent child birth scenarios.
Not sure if this is exactly relevent but it sprang to mind.
That level pain is not normal, reasonable... or.... ethical!!!
I also remember thinking that every other mother in the maternity ward must be envying me because my baby was so much more beautiful than theirs .
I got in such a state about keeping stuff sterile. I had worked in a cell culture lab where something ceases to be "sterile" if it is even exposed to ordinary air. So if Ds1's dummy dropped out of his mouth (which happened about every 5min) I would immediately whisk it away and produce another, and when I ran out I would rush around trying to sterilise more while carrying him the whole time because he basically wouldn't be put down without a dummy for the first few weeks. It was a good few months before I realised that such caution wasn't entirely necessary .
Oh gOd, Mrs S, your children mirror mine. DS1 was v unpleasant for the first year. He cried non stop and always had an angry scowl on his (naturally handsome) face
DS2, however is a picture of tranquility. He sleeps, he smiles and is an all round good boy! (he's only 5.5 months thouigh, so there;s still time)
y bil and sil picked us up once when dd1 was 3 months old, was convinced pfb had to go in the front of the car, was extremely upset that they wouldnt let him cos sil gets claustrophobic .... of course they were right, he was in the back, with us!
I've been laughing so hard reading these! Of course now that I know "better" I'm warning everyone to let me know if I get crazy when the time comes...
I do recall my step sister royally pissed my father off when she had her PFB. She wouldn't let him hold the baby because he "didn't know how." This after he raised his six siblings and had two kids of his own. My father STILL holds it against her but to be fair, her PFB AND her PSB are in their teens and she STILL is an anal retentive pain in the butt about them. God forbid they should take the bus alone. The boy is SEVENTEEN!
Mine is now 8 weeks old and so far...
went to baby rhyme time at the library at 2 weeks.
joined up to library and took out books at 4 weeks - read these to him (ie show him the pictures) at least every other day.
went to singing classes at 4 1/2 weeks (had been planning to wait until 6weeks but happened to be passing and he was awake - have gone back every week so far!)
took him swimming at 7 weeks (am taking him again today as he seemed to really enjoy it, the big bath at home is just not the same!)
Just about got over my waking in the night convinced I have sufficated baby when he is in the cot - I have fallen asleep once when winding and drifted off whilst feeding once as well so guess these panics are slightly justified!
Re: shaken baby syndrome - at 6 weeks we went jogging as a family (dh pushing pram, no way i'd have the strength) - have decided now this prob wasn't the best thing to do and will wait a couple of months!
Plus am signed up for baby massage / yoga and very much looking forward to it.
Am sure there are other things I have done that people think are crazy.
Right, ds has fallen asleep just as his schedule says he should so i'm off to sleep too!
If I was visiting anyone with pets , as soon as I got home I had to take all his clothes off and completely wash them all even his coat and wash him to get all those animal germs off him.
I would not let my brother hold him as he wore rings and they might scratch the baby and would not wear any myself.
I bleached my kitchen every night
I would not put him down, and would not let anyone help
MMm.. some of these things I still do now he is 7
In the late stages of pregnancy with dd1, I went out and bought white card and a black marker pen and prepared lots of handmade flashcards for her
I enrolled her with the local library when she was 2 weeks old. (DD2 is 21 months old and still hasn't joined, she just shares dd1's books.)
When dd1 was about 3 months old, I took photos of her every 10 minutes all day to illustrate a 'day in the life of dd1'.
I'm PMSL at this thread, yet I know I'm going to be the most over-protective, hysterical mother for the first few months.
Maybe I should copy it into a Word Doc and refer back to it for a sanity check after I've had this baby.
Sorry MrsS xposted my flippant post before seeing yours.
Although if they're a nightmare it's sometimes even more imporatnt to go out
I took PFB to music group, swimmimg lesson, baby massage, gymfants....I think that was it..
All you first time mums ignore this thread and do it, and then laugh at yourself in 5yrs time.
It a sign of enthusiasm (Ok over enthusuasm) but that's a good thing.
Besides you've got to do something with the time, and you always go for a coffee after
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