Fat swimming

(13 Posts)
XIIILC Wed 18-May-16 23:00:18

My son is 3 and has never been swimming. I would love to take him, but I have zero confidence in my body. My partner can't swim. I would also like to go swimming for fitness.

Basically I want to know what other people wear swimming when they're over-weight, have excess skin, etc. I'm over-weight, not out of proportion, but I have excess skin on my stomach, and when I wear something that is even a little tight, it all kind of just gets pushed down and makes me look like I have a fat bearded clam.

Long story short I have severe plantar fasciitis which makes most exercise difficult. After my son was born I suffered post natal depression for about 2 years, in which I developed agoraphobia. I'm mostly over it all now, but I don't want to take my son swimming, only to receive horrible comments or looks, which would ruin a fun experience for my son and cause a set back for me :/

Flumplet Wed 18-May-16 23:09:26

I have a swimsuit with a dress incorporated in to it so it doesn't show off all my lumps. I'll see if I can find a link to similar. Bear with!

BackforGood Wed 18-May-16 23:10:18

You have to know that nobody is paying any attention to what anyone else looks like.
Wear whatever you feel comfy in - there are loads of nice swimming costumes out there - all in one or two piece. Have a look at curvy girl costumes for example.
You know that swimming would be good for your own health, and you know that it is a great thing to do with your dc.
Just do it. smile

Flumplet Wed 18-May-16 23:10:31

http://www.swimwearplace.com/sanqi-swimdress-sq13051.html

HarlettOScara Wed 18-May-16 23:15:09

Some pretty swimsuits and sai dresses here:
www.yoursclothing.co.uk/swimwear

XIIILC Wed 18-May-16 23:20:41

Ahh thanks guys, I like the idea of the dress style ones. Will definitely have a think about those.

Part of me knows nobody cares what I look like, who I am, what I'm doing, but part of me thinks far too much about these things. I've always been like that. I used to be thin and toned and I was even paranoid then so.. yeah.

LastFirstEverything Wed 18-May-16 23:34:11

I'm overweight OP, very much an out of proportion apple shape too. I look pregnant with the way I carry my weight.

TBH, there are no perfect swimming costumes that will hide your body and transform it into a thin one. Even if you wore a modesty (religious reasons etc) type of swimsuit, your body is still apparent.

You need to realise that no one cares what you look like in the swimming baths. It's just not of interest to anyone else.

I have a couple of nice costumes from fashion world, which do big sizes. They fit fine, and are comfy. They are simple one piece suits, no body camouflage or 'slimming' panels involved.

Please remember you won't be the only one in the pool who is overweight. And no one will (almost certainly) care or comment on this anyway!

I do understand how daunting it is. I've found it very helpful to read a blog called 'Dances with Fat' and 'Iron Fat', which are by a size acceptance/ fat positive woman, who I find very encouraging and inspiring. I recognise that this isn't everyone's cup of tea, because it didn't used to be mine. But I've started doing more (things like swimming and yoga) now that I hate my body (because it's fat) a lot less.

Good luck flowers

Akire Wed 18-May-16 23:40:55

Go for it carry son or arm bands/float in front of you to hid any wobble bits till you get in the water! Most people would just think good for you and nothing more. Nobody thinks they look great in swim wear. Well no one over 25!

nocoffeenouppee Wed 18-May-16 23:43:14

Noone's looking. We're all too busy worrying about our own flabby bits. I did find buying swimwear from bravissimo improved things immensely though. There's an integrated concealed bra-completely changes my shape. Some of the have a bit of control as well.

XIIILC Wed 18-May-16 23:43:29

LastFirstEverything I will check out that blog, thank you. I'm hoping that when I do go there will be other people that are also large. Or lumpy. Or whatever. It'll help me feel more comfortable.

My son does have a very funny way of drawing the attention of literally anybody . He's so outgoing it's ridiculous. I don't think there's anyone that hasn't been charmed by him envy . I'm just quiet and clumsy and shy

XIIILC Wed 18-May-16 23:45:03

Funny thing is, I wouldn't bat an eyelid if my boob popped out or something. In fact, it's happened before, just not in the water. Yet when it comes to my tummy I'm a trembling mess

EBearhug Thu 19-May-16 00:03:44

I was in a shop the other day that had swimming cossies with stomach support, but I can't for the life of me remember which shop. I haven't tried them myself.

There are quite a few swimming costumes around with ruched stomachs, for example:
www.marksandspencer.com/secret-slimming-twisted-front-ruched-plunge-swimsuit/p/p22375398

Or you could go for a looser tankini top thing - www.yoursclothing.co.uk/pink-floral-print-a-line-halterneck-tankini-top-p

My current main swimming costume is just plain and black, like this - nothing expensive at all - www.decathlon.co.uk/leony-womens-swimsuit-one-piece-black-id_8306588.html It's swum several thousand metres lately. (Well, I've swum several thousand metres wearing it.) I'm size 22, and no one's run screaming from the pool yet.

You already know that no one's going to be looking, though, so maybe that's something to work on.

I was in a full pool on Monday evening, and the only thing I can remember anyone wearing is a bloke in a pair of yellowy-green cycling shorts type of trunks, with stitching that followed the top of the thighs. Don't go for a female equivalent of that... Stick to black or navy or similar.

HarlettOScara Thu 19-May-16 18:07:23

I'd bet that I'm bigger than you. Good boob support helps and is woefully inadequate in most swimwear, IME. I bought an underwired bikini top with removable straps in my usual bra size and I wear that under swim suits and tankini tops. Definitely helps with improving my 'shape' (not sure round and lumpy can be classified as shape though grin )

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