I have been in a relationship with my partner for about 7/8 years now and have 4 kids. Before I fell pregnant with my first child I noticed he had a temper but it was always with the neighbours, never with me. After I fell pregnant with my first child he changed and was very abusive both physically and emotionally. About 3 years into the relationship things had gotten really bad I was pregnant with 3rd child and had decided to leave the relationship and take my children with me I went through all the right ways to go about these issues and got all the help I needed and didn't see or speak to him for about 7 months after that we decided to start talking for the sake of the kids and after a couple of weeks we he had convinced me had changed and he was saying how sorry he was n that he was really ashamed of himself so we dicided to give it another go. He was good for about 3 months then he went back to being his normal self really abusive not physical but emotionally verbally and financially but it had got really bad (worse than before) now I have 4 children and things have reached breaking point I have tried to leave on a number of occasions with the kids but he would threaten me about having kid took off me he has put me down in myself and about being a mom makes me think I can't do things on my own n that if I not with him I won't succeed in anything in life. I have even tried to leave on my own by leaving the kids in his care ( I know that I shouldn't but he threatens to come after me and hurt me if I take children again) so for the kids sake I was going to leave them but he wouldn't let me go he was making false promises and saying it wasn't his fault he doesn't mean it and then he put it all on me saying it was my fault. I'm very stuck as to what I should do I want to leave but I am too scared to go the right way about it incase of being rejected because I did it last time n then went bk. I just don't know what to do I now I need to get myself and the kids away but I not sure how plz has anyone got any advice for me and what I should do.
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//www.womensaid.org.uk I can't get the page to load at the moment, but there's also refuge //www.refuge.org.uk/what-we-do/our-services/helpline/. Their number is 0808 2000 247. Pleas call them and read out your first post. They will be able to help you 
What you need to do is leave. Ignore his threats but you do need help to do this as he needs a restraining order. Please call refuge or women's aid. I'll see if I can find you the number
I've asked for this to be moved to a better section for you, I hope that's OK. It's pretty quiet in 'other subjects' and it would help if this was seen by more people 
Hi there mariam101 - we're sorry you are going through this.
Would you like us to move this to Relationships, where you might get more of a response? Or you are welcome to leave it here.
Here is our domestic violence web-guide, which contains some links that may be useful to you.
All the best 
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