would you let your 9 year old daughter go to the house of a known prostitute

(221 Posts)
GrindelwaldBeckons Wed 25-Feb-15 13:50:26

I have namechanged for this for obvious reasons and changed some of the details to make it less identifiable)
DD has a friend whose single mother is a prostitute.She has been invited to a party at this friends house.
I am very naive about all this sort of thing , but the mother dresses normally and lives in a rented cottage in a nearby small sleepy village from where she plies her trade, I assume (hope!) only when the child is staying with their dad or at school.She keeps herself to herself and doesn't cause any trouble in the village as far as I know
Her Dc is a sweet child with serious health issues who DD is fond of, and the mother has clearly been to a lot of trouble planning the party.
DH says that DD should not have anything to do with the woman or her child.
I feel a bit sorry for the child, but my main fear is drugs, and although DD doesn't know what prostitution is now, she will do one day and I fear normalising it in her eyes.

GrindelwaldBeckons Wed 25-Feb-15 13:51:38

Oh and DD has been once before, when we didn't know she was a hooker.

Marshy Wed 25-Feb-15 13:53:27

How do you know she's a prostitute? Does she have an advert in her front window or something??

bionic77 Wed 25-Feb-15 13:54:04

Well I doubt she istrying to recruit your DD, but just trying to ensure her DD has a nice birthday. Not all prostitutes take drugs, despite what the Daily Mail may have you believe.

If she is a nice woman then yes I'd let my child go. It is an important lesson in life not to judge a book by its cover.

Gileswithachainsaw Wed 25-Feb-15 13:55:31

I think.many escorts and prostitutes are doing what they can to support their families in difficult circumstances and this is the only way she could think.of to do it.

I doubt teh clients come to her house when.kids are there and drugs won't necessarily be involved.

In honesty I'd just feel sorry for this woman and if there are no indications that the work spills over into home for the child then there's no need to keep her away.

FarelyKnuts Wed 25-Feb-15 13:55:31

I would doubt very much that she is going to be giving out drugs at her child's birthday party nor "plying her trade" as you so charmingly put it.
So no I wouldn't have an issue with my DD attending.

Clobbered Wed 25-Feb-15 13:55:41

Yes, let her go. Your DH is being a dickhead.

PinkSquash Wed 25-Feb-15 13:57:10

She's a sex worker not a serial killer.

gamerchick Wed 25-Feb-15 13:57:58

You're thinking of the blatant stereotype. She's a prostitute so obviously a druggy. hmm

She's a mother trying to give her kid a good birthday..... The end.

gamerchick Wed 25-Feb-15 14:00:24

I want to know how you know out of pure nosiness. Because if it's just gossip then it's probably bollocks.

bearleftmonkeyright Wed 25-Feb-15 14:01:46

How do you know? It sounds like gossip.

GrindelwaldBeckons Wed 25-Feb-15 14:08:09

I know because people have told me and what her distinctive 'professional name' is.I have googled it and although her face is partly obscured it is definitely her, she names the street as well and there is only 3 houses on it.
I don't think what she is doing is illegal because she doesn't have a pimp or walk the streets although I doubt she is registered for tax.

RockinHippy Wed 25-Feb-15 14:09:42

YABU - or at least your DH is as he seems to be the one with the issue here - personally I would be asking why he us so opposed to his DC being friends with hers - & I'm not usually that suspicious

IF she is genuinely a working girl, how do you know this for sure - village gossip ?? - I lived in a village once, it can be like stepping back into the dark ages - they don't always take kindly to single independent females & I remember well our local post office clerk telling me the latest juicy gossip about the "prosititute" in what turned out to be my street - it actually turned out to be me grin simply because I used a mood light build that gave of a soft glow - the local gossips translated this to "red light" & I also dared to wear leathers (for my bike) & often had my male friends visit me at home. So of course I was a hooker - I've another friend who had the same problem living elsewhere -

sadly small village too often = small minds

But if you really know for FACT...

It's a party, they will be others there, prostitution doesn't mean drugs & the fact that her working premises is elsewhere, if she's a good mum & decent person in other ways, then wind your neck in, take the Dailly Mail judges specs off & accept her as the person she is - you might just learn something - perhaps she's not selling her body, but is a dominatrix, earning money by abusing men who like that sort of thing

ASAS Wed 25-Feb-15 14:11:39

Her website could be revenge porn.

Gileswithachainsaw Wed 25-Feb-15 14:11:55

Well they'd only know if they were clients surely. one of them would have had to have been to tell everyone else.

so its ok yo associate with people who feel it appropriate to make fun of a hoover or use one. but not the prostitute themselves?

Gileswithachainsaw Wed 25-Feb-15 14:12:26

hooker not hoover

Bakeoffcake Wed 25-Feb-15 14:12:44

Of course you should let your dd go to the party. Yu say she's been to the house before, why would things change becasue you now know what the mother does to earn a crust.

There's worse professions to have bankers

cosmicglittergirl Wed 25-Feb-15 14:16:22

You've met the lady and know where she lives don't you, if she was say, a pharmacist would you have an issue with her or her home? As in, does it seem as if there is anything to be concerned about at her house. If the answer is no then I would say it's just a party round a child's house and your daughter should go as it's a job we re talking about.

EachandEveryone Wed 25-Feb-15 14:16:30

Let her go. I used to babysit for one when I was 15. She didn't drink or smoke of have a drug habit. She owned her own house. I don't know why she did it really. Fitted in with the school holidays I guess.

bearleftmonkeyright Wed 25-Feb-15 14:17:56

I also think she should go. Whether she is a prostitute or not is noones business. It could even be an old website.

ThatBloodyWoman Wed 25-Feb-15 14:18:00

Yes.

ImperialBlether Wed 25-Feb-15 14:31:27

I'd let her go to the woman's house, but I wouldn't want her to go to friends' houses if the child's father went to prostitutes.

"A known prostitute"

Christ, how dehumanising.

Why is your DH so bothered?

TheCountessofFitzdotterel Wed 25-Feb-15 14:37:06

What Imperial said.

Fatstacks Wed 25-Feb-15 14:43:41

If you are really bothered let dd go and offer to stay and help.
Befriend the mum, get to know her and thus be able to decide get rid of your stereotypes if you are happy for dd to stay next time.

My aunt was a prostitute, never used drugs or even drank.

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