I shouldn't have snooped and now feel awful.

(7 Posts)
Stom91 Mon 26-Aug-13 23:14:16

Hi all. So...
Mum asked me to go on her Facebook to get an address that someone had messages her as she couldn't remember...

At the time I had just fallen pregnant and she was supposed to keep it a secret.. While on her Facebook i saw that she had told my auntie that im pregnant... Which I was pretty annoyed about because it wasn't her news to tell.. It was mine.. So when I did called my auntie and tell her she made out she didn't know.

.. Anyway... Since then I haven't trusted her in regards to keeping the sex a secret so I went onto her Facebook... To which I found she has been talking dirty to this guy like explicit... What makes it worse is 1. She's married to my dad and 2. This guy she's been talking to is her COUSIN!!

 I find it really sickening and weird! He is married and has kids too.... I've also saw a message to someone else saying that she been texting this guy and she sees him at work.. And then this guy said how are the naughty pics coming along..

 If this was my dad she would not hesitate to throw him out.. And yes I know I shouldn't have snooped! But I don't know of what to do. Should I let her just carry on and my dad be unaware ( dad doesn't have Facebook or anything as he's not interested in it)

tywysogesgymraeg Mon 26-Aug-13 23:19:13

It kind of serves you right for snooping. Never snoop unless you're prepared to find out something you'd rather not know.
I wouldn't say anything to anyone. Let sleeping dogs lie.

MrsMeg Mon 26-Aug-13 23:22:10

Your mum is being unfaithful to your dad, that must really hurt. You shouldn't have snooped but it's done now and you can't 'unknow' what you've seen but must now bear the consequences unfortunately.

Perhaps a chat with your mum to tell her what you know.

TheSecondComing Mon 26-Aug-13 23:26:47

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Stom91 Mon 26-Aug-13 23:33:39

She's ana amazing mum... As far as I know it all just messages.... But does that count as cheating.. I feel sorry for dad he loves her so much.. He buys her a car and does his best and she never said thanks... He brought her a second hand car in automatic as she has a bad knee so he though get her an auto and she won't have to use her bad knee and she never even said thanks.. Just complained it didn't work properly and she didn't want it if it didn't work so he fixed it and it's fine now... So now she wants it. But still no thanks

TheSecondComing Mon 26-Aug-13 23:36:15

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

what a hard situation, obviously you want to remain loyal to your mother but at the same time your father.

could you admit that you snooped to your mum and see what she says from there? she will know you have seen the messages?.

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