I bought my future mother in laws house 3 years ago, I never really wanted to buy it we were offered a good price for it and my boyfriend persuaded me to buy it as a means of getting on the property ladder. Although we've decorated throughout it does not feel like my home I really don't like being there I just don't feel settled and I have tried to make it home but it just doesn't feel it. I think it effects me a lot but I now feel like I am trapped there. We are getting married in February and then will probably start a family and I do want to do that but I hate the thought of it being in that house don't get me wrong i know I am very lucky compared to a lot of people.
To make it worse my future mother in law just lets herself in, she was given a key by my boyfriend when she was suffering with some mental health issues couple of years ago. We were on holiday recently and when I came back she had washed my clothes and ruined some of them and my boyfriend just said to me you shouldn't leave your washing in the basket!!! Well your mother shouldn't be letting herself in I replied. He does not want to upset his mum by asking her not to do this because he says we will move soon so it will be different. But moving soon won't happen due to financial commitments. Can anyone offer me any advice to help me deal with this? I just wish I trusted my instinct!!
As Hysterical says, change the locks, (after discussing with your DP to make sure he's on board, plus he should agree to be the one to tell her). If he or MIL query it, explain that it's your house and you're not comfortable with anyone freely coming and going other than you & DP as you're the only ones that live there. If there's any resistance, insist on having keys for MILs house, let yourself in when she's out and eat all her biscuits.