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Unwanted touching and hugs

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Nohug · 10/02/2013 16:16

I want to say I'm new here. And I need all the help I can get to stop unwanted hugging/contact at church. The best way to keep me from returning to church is to hug me and then say something like, "I'm a hugger!" Or ,"We hug here!" I'm sitting at home with a terrible cold because of attending a new church where the pastor's wife insisted on hugging me and my husband, even though he told her no, very clearly. To those of you who say the problem is mine and I should like hugs from strangers, I say, "keep your hugs to those you know". Even though you don't have outward signs of illness, you still carry germs others don't have a defense to.
I think you are a bully to force your will onto unsuspecting others just because they attended church.
Actually, you are being a rude control freak to insist others comply with your needs to hug strangers.
Plenty of people are allergic to scents, and I'm one of them. I don't want to shower after church just to get someone else's scent off.
Even sticking my hand out for a hand shake doesn't deter this woman. I'm sure, IF I go back to this church, I'll have to tell her to stop it. Any advice on how? I really don't want to be as rude as she is, even though I surely feel like it. Thank you

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TheElephantIsADaintyBird · 10/02/2013 16:39

I think the only way you'll get your point across is by being blunt. "Please don't touch/hug me" and then back away.

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